I am having this problem with the mirror and wanted to know if anyone else is having this problem, and if so how they overcome it. Sometimes when I look at myself in the mirror I think that there is no way all this weight is going to come off. Then I think about just giving up. Any advice???
I did at 313 pounds and I should still be. But yes it is hard but when we dont look at ourselves we dont see what we have become.
We dont see how far we let it go. I had a vanity set up across from a full length mirror and when I glanced at it while I was sitting down I thought to myself. I look like Jabba the hut. Seriously, but then I thought I dont want to look like this anymore. And we tend to not really look at ourselves for either being in a hurry all the time and just because we know we are not going to like what we see.
Some people just dont look and they are alright with that. But it depends on each and every person. For me I think I needed to look in the mirror and see what my husband saw each time I was naked.
And I know what you mean about feeling how in the world can this come off.
But it does, and you will see the right kind of curves appearing and you will start to like what you see. It can happen. You have to believe in yourself first.
What always worked for me was to set my emotions aside. I had to force myself to think logically - if I eat fewer calories than I burn I am going to lose weight. Maybe not as fast as I would like, maybe not from the spots I most need to, but it WILL come off. Plus, I would force myself to look past my own vanity. There are plenty of benefits of a healthy lifestyle. Losing weight and looking better are just the tip of the iceberg.
Then, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I would remind myself that the only SURE way I WOULDN'T be able to lose it is if I gave up.
Talk positively to yourself and keep realistic expectations from week to week. Set reasonable goals that aren't always tied to the scale. Those pounds will come off - but you have to CONSISTENTLY eat less and move more. You can do it!
Thanks for the modivation MorticiaAddams and jawsmom. I have been working pretty hard at this for just under three months now. I am doing about 80 minutes of cardio five days a week and weight lifting three times a week. I have really been watching what I eat. I am eating more fruits drinking my water. And I am seing results. It's just sometimes that mirror makes me feel like it is hopeless!
YES! It is possible. Having been obese my entire life, I could never quite picture how I would actually look at a normal weight. And to tell the truth, there were many, many times along the way when I would look at myself and wonder how I could ever possibly take all this weight off. But what I had to do was just keep at it, day after day, (minute after minute sometimes!) until I finally achieved my goal. It is a looooong, hard process, and not to be taken lightly. But if you are determined and truly committed to changing your lifestyle, then you WILL succeed. Just always remember to believe in yourself, you CAN do this! Good luck!
Hi Hi!!!
What I try to do is look at myself now compared to what I looked like before I started...it is a great motivator!!!
Do you have any pics of you before you started??? If so, put one up on your mirror and one on your frig! Every time you see them you will have a positive affirmation of how far you've come!!!
Hi there,
I had a problem to look myself in the miror for years because I was getting fatter and fatter every day. That was the reason I did not look at the miror ever. I didnt think that is possible, but it is.
Now I take a glance sometimes because I am afraid what I will see. But If I should look myself more I would be more unsetisfied and I would do something about it.
So, I think the good thing is that you look yourself in the mirror. You can be thiner. Think yourself tin and it want be such a problem to look yourself. Tell yourself - I can do it.
Welcome to my world. The mirror is many many people's adversary. So definitely know you are not alone. And no matter what you think you see, the truth is you CAN do this! I know you can. If you really want to do this, and you really try to do this, it WILL happen. The weight WILL come off. You have no reason to fret, or be down on yourself. You just have to say to yourself, that although you may not see results right now, they are there. They are coming. You will achieve your goals. Don't let anyone, not even yourself tell you you cant. Plus, you've already lost 21 lbs! Thats a VERY big deal! You should be proud of yourself! You've come this far, there is no reason why you can't finish it off. Best of wishes! <3
The mirror tended to work opposite for me. Since I wasn't happy with how I looked, I knew that only I could change it. I saw the mirror as a motivation to do something about my looks.
What I like to do, and need to do this again soon. Is I get a picture of me at my highest weight 216, it was taken at a engagement party. My hair and makeup was nice, with a nice outfit on. I never felt like I weighed 216 and I always thought I looked nice. I can only see how I actually look in pictures, never in a mirror. Only when I looked at that picture did I realize how overweight I had become.
So now at 165, when I feel stuck and hopeless, I get that picture out and look at it. I see then how far I have come. People that see that picture say they would never even know it was me, which is a huge compliment/accomplishment.
Don't ever give up, the new you won't happen overnight, but if your stick with your goal and never quit - YOU will make it happen.
It is an ongoing battle - I'm not where I want to be yet, but I will be - becuz it is possible - I'm certain of that!
I totally understand what you are talking about Star. I do this STILL! I look at pictures and go, wait, I looked like THAT? I totally come unraveled and then look at older pictures when I was even heavier and think, I might not look perfect, but at least I look more healthy than I did in THAT picture! And it motivates me for the NEXT picture!!! It's such a mind trick sometimes. But the thing that motivates more than anything is putting on old clothes that fall off of you now. You've done great and there are so many milestones that you'll hit and think wow, this WILL happen
My b-day is Saturday and my co-workers took me out today for lunch. We went to a Mexican place where they put a sombrero on your head, take a polaroid photo of you and give you free ice cream. Well now I am really depressed because in the photo I look sooo FAT! Everyone one was like oh you look so cute. I'm like, uhhh not I'm so FAT! They all know that I am working on losing weight and that I have lost 20 some pounds. I'm just really depressed by this now. I was fine until they took that picture and I could see what I look like. Urrrr!!!
Well keep that picture becuz they will only look better and better from here on out. Everytime you want to go off plan pull that picture out and look at it to remind yourself why you are going to work really hard to get to your goal.....
Looking in the mirror...is it really possible?
