cheddahcat, I used to always put weight loss as a footnote to the rest of my life. like an unpleasant side show, not the main attraction. 'If I could just lose the weight, I can get to all the things that
really matter...' or 'once I get my weight down, iI can do whatever I want , [including eating, unfortunately] I lost and regained a lot about 3 times and then gradually gained more than I had ever gained.
This time, as I turned 60, I reached goal for the first time ever. I've come to realize in the last 11 mo of struggling to maintain my weight that it IS the main attraction, or at least one of them. My quality of life in every sphere is affected by my eating and body size. It's just a fact. It's having energy for the things I love to do, sharper mental functioning, ease of movement, clothes looking well and easy to find, less health worries, on and on. A big one, sad but true, is that people are much nicer to slim people than they are to heavier people. Friends and family stay constant but everyone else--wow! It may be shallow but it's nice to get a smile in return instead of a blank stare or disapproving frown, and all the other non-verbal cues that are exchanged in the course of day.
On one hand, it's good to practice loving yourself for who you are no matter what you weigh. And do go out and live your life to the fullest without waiting to get to your goal--dare to enjoy yourself & your life in any body size! On the other hand, it's a gift to yourself to stick with getting to goal in a healthy way. The process is too darned slow, but it's a good opportunity to work on getting your head in the right place to eat healthy and enjoyably for the long haul.
Hope this helps.