By expecting your husband to follow your lead you remain dependent on him and codependence is never a good thing. Don't let your fate rest on whether or not he weighs in. It'd be great if your goals and motivation align but in this case I think it's best if you maintain independence from him. That doesn't mean that you cook yourself a separate meal while he indulges in pizza. Cook as if you're a healthy family, but otherwise he's on his own and so are you.
Becoming a healthy person means we have to change who we are. And once we change who WE are then we suddenly have different expectations of others, especially our family and spouses. When I met my husband and got married I was a different person. I didn't enjoy exercise, I didn't care about physical activity goals and I didn't like being outdoors at all. But now I changed. I like hiking, I like kayaking, bike riding, tennis, I want to try paddleboarding, I want to try going skiing, I want to run a 5k. I'm suddenly EXTREMELY interested in physical activity. But my husband has remained the same, he's still the guy I met and the way I was before we had a lot in common. I can't expect him to change. Luckily he's always been healthy and slim and never over indulges in food. He doesn't have a negative relationship with food like I do. And he likes anything I cook be it "healthy" or low carb or whatever, he's always on board with it so I have the benefit that he doesn't fuss.
But I've learned that we can't be the family that bike rides together, or goes to the gym together, or even hikes together. I try my best to change that, but I can't change him you know? He just has no interest in those things. I have to fulfill my needs on my own and find other people who enjoy doing those things.
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