Danni,
We hear you. Weight issues are weight issues, no matter how tall.
I'm 5'9', thought I was fat at 130, know I'm fat at 196 and was even fatter at 202! What I've realized is that 155 is a GREAT weight for me! That's what I'm aiming for. That puts me in a size 12, not a 6 or 8 or 10 but a respectable size 12.
The point here is reality, and being comforable with yourself. I've always felt that I towered over people, and I do stand taller than a lot. That made me feel HUGE, even when I wasn't overweight, even when I was so thin people would say, "Boy, are you skinny!" I loved that, somehow I wasn't so BIG then. But no matter what weight I am, I'm still tall. I still have to buy tall size slacks and shirts, and long torso bathing suits (my personal favorite). I realize that I'm not HUGE because of my height. I'm not even HUGE because of my weight. Anywhere I go, I can always find someone HUGER that me. I have an Aunt whose 6'5"!
I have a 16 year old daughter (rising junior) and I've noticed that something wonderful has happened since I was a 5'9" high school freshman (when anyone over 5'7" was thought of as "a REALLY big girl). Tall women rock! They command all of the attention! They are the most sought after athletes in the school for soccer, swim, crew, basketball, field hockey, etc. They wear the prettiest clothes, all long in the leg. They stand center stage at all of the drama and musical the performances. And they STAND up straight and TALL. My poor kid is 5'6" and feels like she got gyped out of 3". I call that progress!
Do we all want to look like super models? NO.
Do we want to be healthy and happy? YES.
Aim for the healthy and happy!
That might be a size 14 or 16 for someone who is 6' tall!