Infertility here, too. Totally sucks having to perform on demand! Lol But my hubby and I still get a kick out of blaming our youngest son's CRAZY personality on the fact that I practically abused my husband that "fateful day" because my fertility monitor had an eggie in the window. He says that angry sperm make for an aggressive baby....lolol.

I was afraid to click on this thread not knowing what type of mischief Ian was getting into today.

Both me and my husband have lost weight (I lost more than 5x he has!) and I can tell you the attraction and confidence factor is WAY up. He loved me at both my high and lower weights (thank God for that, I don't know how he did it) but I'm positive my new clothes and new attitude have fueled the spark again. But alas, my meds I was on for 6 months *killed* my drive in that department and haven't come back yet. Try baby planning under time constraints with no desire (in the "mood" I mean, I want the baby more than life itself!) to get the job done!

Yeah. Careful with that Elvis.

Sex "when you have to" for babies is tough.

I really struggled with that. It felt weird.

Lightspeed here! One of the best parts of this journey is the increase in stamina!

I wish I wish I wish my girls would ever wake up at 7.30 am. Now 5.30-6.00 am sounds like their time to join their mum and dad in bed. Needless to say they're not having a brother or sister anytime soon, unless I find one on sale in supermarket.

They do fall asleep shortly after 7 pm but that's of no help as by then all we want is to down, hold each other's hand and sleep...thus continue living in our happy sex free parenthood paradise

I know, Ian. And I don't want to go totally O/T but that part sucks. But if a baby is conceived (!!), it will be totally out of love and desire for this beautiful child. I do have a feeling it's going to be the IVF that does the job if it happens and even that represents love to me.

Mine is down but I couldn't care less. I don't really want to think about sex right now. I'm in therapy so right now I just want to get to know myself and who I am and have a normal social life.

I second that! Putting pressure on yourselves to conceive is very stressful and might be counter-productive. Been there, done that!

My last comment on this Elvis. Promise. But if you or your husband ever say "not now, not this month" just accept that. Else you can get a lot of tension in the marriage in the race to the finish line. I am not sure if my marriage has ever fully recovered from that.

Up through confidence--leave those lights on

In my experience, the problem was that we were trying on specific days because of ovulation tests, etc. So, it was appointment sex ... coupled with expectation, frustration, etc. With our last child we pretty much gave up on "trying" after many months of not getting pregnant. Then, when we least expected it, when we were not even "trying", she got pregnant.

I promise not to go off topic again after this reply, sorry Ian!

I'm on a tight schedule as I got 6 months in March to get pregnant from my cancer doctor. The easiest, fastest way would be through IVF except I'm having issues (low egg count and some hormone issues, can't do artificial hormones as cancer is hormone dependent). If I'm not pregnant by September, I have to have a hysterectomy. So even though I'm trying not to stress out and rush into "scheduled" time, I don't really have a choice. But thank you all for sharing all of your experiences! And I could still conceive naturally with my few eggs, I only NEED one!! *keep me in your prayers please!!*

Wow. Tough cookie there. My heart breaks for you

Although not identical, I conceived in a similar fashion. I won't bore you with the details, but just trying to give you hope.

Depends, I see my hubby every other weekend because he's stationed 4.5 hours away so I get happy when I get to see him. Some weekends it's several
Times, and some it's only once. But I don't think it'll slow down too much when he comes back. He's pretty smexy.

Elvis... you are always in my prayers... and God will grace you and your husband!!

IAN you are just TOOOO Much.... I love that you created this thread I think with women... alot of our Sexuality is mental and by getting a lighter body... we are happier with ourselves and thus more amorous... Now... that is not for ALLLLLLL women

Maybe they have some native drink in Turkey that will raise your libido so to speak Just gotta sneak it back in the suitcase .... In time.. you will be a (sorry about this) Stallion again truly and maybe you will just have to stop your wife from persuing you