Week one is coming to an end, and so far I've lost 7lbs. In real life and at work i'm an extremely patient person. When it comes to weight loss, I want instant results! I have lost the same 15lbs I don't know how many times. I get inpatient, then I just put it back on because I start eating like crap again and get lazy. I know it takes time, I just don't understand why I can't just get over it! I need to be healthy... I have so many reason to why this needs to be done. I want that fit body, and mostly I want my doctor to stop yelling at me! lol.. my self confidence is zero. I need that back... I think I'm losing the battle with myself and in result my relationship with my boyfriend is suffering. He is trying to lose weight too, about 30lbs... but he's not supporting me. I'm just feeling kind of low and felt like ranting.. anyone know of any good journal/blog sites that are free?
It will slow down. I know i'm excited about the 7lbs, I just want the journey to be over with. I'm mad at myself that I have to lose weight to begin with. Isn't like 5-10lbs week one normal though?
I can't say what's normal for other people but I don't remember losing 5-10 lbs my first week. You're doing awesome! Stick to what you're doing. It's so easy to say "be patient" but I know it's hard to actually follow that advice.
What I find helps me is thinking that the time will pass anyway. Whether I give up or not. I can stay dissatisfied with myself, doing nothing about my dissatisfaction and wallowing in discontent or I can at least have the small satisfaction that I'm doing something about what I don't like. Commit to 1 month. Then at the end of that one month, evaluate how you feel and whether it's worth it to you to lose more, then commit to another month and so on.
Believe that you can and will make it through this journey if you stick to it. You don't even have to be perfect every single day. You just have to pick yourself up from imperfection and keep going. Be patient with yourself and be kind to yourself. You can succeed and lose beyond (the same) 15 lbs. Try joining a challenge, posting on the boards, whatever to just push yourself to keep going till it becomes routine. You can do this!
Be happy about that amazing loss, I've been on this journey going on 9 months and I've lost almost 60 lbs my loss has slowed dramatically but i still lose even if it's 5-7 lbs a month. It is what it is, trust me I can't wait for it to be over as well but some things take patience but it'll be worth it in the end.
5-10lbs. a week isn't really feasible for someone your weight. Those losses are usually by people much much larger than you, and even then, most of it is water weight and initial caloric shock. I didn't lose as much as you in my first week, and that would've normally stopped me as well. I'd be good for the first week, but then I'd give up, gain it all back plus another 15lbs. And now here I am, at my heaviest ever. So now I'm doing it and will keep at it no matter what the scale tells me. I average about 1.5lbs. a week, which isn't as much as a lot of the girls here, but I won't let that deter me. After about two months, I'm down 17lbs., which makes me really happy. My small losses adds up. It'll take me some time, but eventually those small losses will add up to 70lbs., which is my goal. You can do it! Don't let the scale deter you. If you give up now, you know you'll just be more miserable and even further behind when you decide to start again, so you might as well not stop. And trust me, after a while, you'll feel so much better that you just kept at it. I'm nowhere near my goal yet, but the longer I do this, the more motivated I get and you will too. Good luck!!
In line with what Toastedsmoke said, "Don't give up on a goal because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway."
You say your boyfriend is not supporting you - in what way? Also to answer your question, you can get a blog through 3FC for free. Weight loss is just as much of an emotional and psychological process as it is a physical one. Allow yourself to have your feelings, but stay accountable for your eating and don't go off plan because of them.
Last edited by Missy Krissy; 11-06-2012 at 09:14 AM.
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I only meant 5-10lbs the first week, I only want to lose 3lbs a week if I'm able to do that. Whenever I have lost weight in the past it has always been around 10lbs the first week and 5lbs the second week, then I just kind of quit because I miss eating... I love food way too much.
Thanks for the good advice and encouragement, I was just having a bad day. Toastedsmoke, I like the one month at a time advice. I do already feel better physically and emotionally. It will be worth it in the end, and the losses well eventually add up to a crazy number. Just sooo ready to lose this belly.
My boyfriend and I made a pact to work out together and eat healthier. He has only worked out with me on the first day, that was 4 work outs ago. I just really thought I was gonna have a buddy to motivate me and go through this with. He keeps making excuses and it's just bringing me down that he doesn't want it as much as me. We have what I call a mini gym downstairs, a treadmill, and a machine with 5 different weights. Ab ball and some other things. Soooo walking downstairs isn't that difficult!
even though 7 lbs was a great loss for one week, you're realizing what a long journey this is going to be, right? if thats what you mean, i can totally relate.
it already feels like its been forever and im only 3 months in. i still feel super fat and my cute clothes dont fit and on top of that i dont get to eat whatever i want any more! its an awkward phase just like when you're growing your hair out i suppose.
sadly, for me, even 3 lbs/week would feel miraculous. i average about 5 lb/month.
is your boyfriend at least encouraging the changes you're making?
Last edited by juliastl27; 11-07-2012 at 01:19 AM.
I agree that 3 pounds a week is a huge expectation. At first I might have done that but now 5 or 6 pounds a week is about all I can manage, and I stick pretty much 100% on plan and do work out several times a week.
It is harder now not to become discouraged when the weight comes off so slowly, but it is what it is, and definitely worth it to keep going. With every pound that comes off, I look and feel better; just have to keep going when it gets hard to see quick results.
Perhaps you will be a fortunate one who loses 3 pounds a week, and I don't mean to sound discouraging but... if you expect that, you are quite likely setting yourself up for disappointment and what you will perceive as "failure" even though it isn't.
Juliastl27, that's exactly it. I see the long journey ahead of me, and it's going to probably take close to a year to get to where I want to be. I know that once I do it, i'll be SO proud of myself.
Misti, I might be setting myself up for disappointment with the 3lb a week thing. I don't know, I just seriously thought that was normal for the first couple of months. Maybe I'm just watching too many weight loss shows. I love the biggest loser and the extreme makeover weight loss show. They make it look so easy to lose a lb a day!
All I can do is take it one day at a time, one pound at a time, and remind myself that with will power I can achieve my goal. My boyfriend actually worked out with me today, although he did about half of what I did, he was still down there. Maybe once he starts to see me really lose weight he might get more motivated. I can't make him want this but, he should mean what he says. His company was appreciated though.
toastedsmoke- Thanks for the wise advice! I love the part about time passing anyways and we need to do something about changing what we dont like. That could be applied to so many other areas of life as well.
Your weightloss is incredible and your an inspiration. Thanks for sharing.
The thing is that focusing on just your goal weight blinds you to everything else, makes you impatient, and ends up being so frustrating that you'll give up and go back to your old ways. And I should know, I've been there before.
If you can shift your focus to living each day to its fullest, to build up your health rather than shaving off the pounds as quickly as possible, you're more likely to succeed. Focus on the positives. Focus on the ways you can nourish and strengthen your body. Realize that each day on-plan is one step toward the healthier, happier you that you've been wanting. Accept the fact that it won't happen overnight, no matter how much you wanted the weight off yesterday.
As others have said, time will pass anyway . . . better to take baby steps than to exhaust yourself over an unattainable method to the point of giving up. For most people, three pounds is an unrealistic loss to expect every single week. No matter how vigilant we are, our bodies often choose their own rates of loss. Mine is currently at one pound a week; now I could choose to be angry about that and eventually give up since it's not at Biggest Loser levels, or I could choose to accept that it's ok because I'm at least going in the right direction. And I choose the latter. You can't really control your rate of loss, so instead you must work on the things you can control, like healthier eating and exercise.
It will slow down. I know i'm excited about the 7lbs, I just want the journey to be over with. I'm mad at myself that I have to lose weight to begin with. Isn't like 5-10lbs week one normal though?
The journey will never be over. Until I accepted that, TRULY accepted that, I was never successful. 3 times before, in 1999, 2002 and 2008, I lost around 40 pounds and always gained it back because I didn't embrace the changes as a lifetime affair.
I started this weight loss journey in January 2011 and I've maintained a 78-pound loss. I still have a few pounds to go, but it doesn't bother me anymore because I have finally accepted that these changes, this journey, are for a lifetime. If you look at it "like it'll be a year" and then you'll be fine, you'll likely slip back to your former self.
I'm a terribly impatient person. On past attempts, I would get so angry when I "had a good week" and the scale didn't reflect it. Moments like that would throw me into a tailspin and I'd go off plan, gain more and then get angry because I had to "start over" and "re-lose the same 15 pounds all over again!" I gotta say, that's no way to live. Seriously, once I really accepted that I had to eat like this, exercise like this and live like this - forever - the rest became easier.
I totally know where you're coming from, I get it!!! But, for me, the key to losing and keeping it off, has been accepting that I cannot, and will not, ever go back to my old way of life. If I do, I'll get fat again. If it takes me another 5 years to lose the last few pounds, that's fine, I'll still get there.
This struck me the most. I'm with lunula...success is more likely if you accept that this is a life change you need to make, and not just a diet or a journey with a set start and set end. Can you adjust your particular plan to incorporate this philosophy? Maybe you need to jump in feet first and maybe you need to take small steps at a time and only incorporate parts of your plan at any given time.
You also mentioned support. That's critical, and I'm glad you're at 3FC. I don't feel comfortable seeking the support I need among my friends/family, but on 3FC I've found a peer group that can relate and help uplift me.
Also, I've used Blogger as a journaling site. You can keep the blog private if you like (requires a login) and it's pretty easy to use.
Feeling blue and it's only week 1 :(
You can't really control your rate of loss, so instead you must work on the things you can control, like healthier eating and exercise.
