My husband and I are doing this weightloss thing together. We exercise together and eat our meals together. It's easier for both of us to comment on how great the other is looking because we are so concious of it at this point. He always mentions how he loves he can get his arms around me and that there's more room for him to sprawl out in the bed (lol!). When I mention how my super snug pants have now become my "fat pants" he grins and congratulates me and I do likewise for his victories. I've found that men in general don't pay too much attention to the little changes in their loved ones. They just don't notice it in the day to day. Often they see you everyday and it's sooooo hard to see a difference by just looking. If you haven't seen them for 10 months and you've lost 100 lbs, then they notice and may or may not say something. Heck, I hardly ever notice when my husband cuts his hair, I see him so much it just doesn't register!

Regardless of whether I've gained or lost, my husband doesn't typically notice unless it's quite a big change-- but he does notice the difference in weight when he picks me up!!

I do talk about my feelings about my weight and diet with my husband frequently anyway though, and he's also Japanese, and that culture is very much more open about weight comments, both good and bad, so I'm used to it from both him and his family.

And of course, congrats on the 10" loss! That's so much!

My husband knows how hard I am working on losng weight. When I decided I wanted to persue bariatric surgery he said he thought it was a good idea. But he seldom comments on my weight loss and NEVER without some kind of nudge. Example:

If I tell him I lost another 3 pounds this week he says, "Good for you." If someone else says, "Wow you're looking great. Doesn't she look great Kevin?" He will say, "Yes she does." But he will never offer up a compliment on his own, about my weight loss or anything else. f I get a new hair style, he will says "Is that what your hair is going to look like now?" He thinks he is complimenting me. Which I guess is better than, "Why did you do that to your hair? You look like a witch." (And he has said those exact words.) It used to REALLY bother me. Now I am just sort of used to it. I do with he would make genuine compliments without being prompted though.

My Husband always is commenting. Sometimes I find it inappropriate, as he does it when he's introducing me to people I've never met before.

"Oh, that's my Wife..she's lost over 70lbs!"

Yea, I know he's doing it because he's proud of me, but after almost 3 years, I no longer appear or feel like I have ever had a weight issue, so those that don't know me, don't need to be told that I ever did. I just find it a very personal subject and if I want someone to know...I'll tell them.

As for the timing of the comments, others here are noticing a lack of, I found that they were few and far between, in the beginning, but the smaller my body became, the more people seemed to take notice. Now I deal with the "you're too skinny" comments...so the circle is complete!!

My BF and I are on the weightloss journey together. He commented once and asked me how much weight I had lost. After telling him he just said, "Oh, I can tell." That's pretty much it. He knows I'm sensitive about my weight so I think he chooses to keep his mouth shut. Smart man.

interesting to see this today because last night was the FIRST time my boyfriend has given me an unsolicited comment. we were laying in bed and he said, "i can totally tell you've lost a ton of weight".

up until now he'd only say something if i brought it up. like other posters, if i told him id lost X number of lbs he'd say "thats awesome" or something. if i asked a direct question like "do you think i look better?", he'd tell me it was a "loaded" question and refused to answer, lolol. i agree that men tend to err on the side of caution when it comes to talking about women and weight.

in his mind if he tells me i look WAY better now, then i might someday gain the weight back it might come back and bite him. he never comments about my gaining and when i comment on how "fat" i am, he rolls his eyes and tells me im a lunatic and ive always looked fine.

sometimes men cant really win when it comes to talking about a woman's weight so it's tough for them. if he notices all the time then you get the idea that your weight is a big deal to him and he doesnt want you to think that. its a thin line. i love him to death for making me feel like my weight isnt a big deal though!

My husband rarely comments because he doesn't want to offend me on accident. I know he's not a verbal person and pretty cautious with words, especially on appearance, and I appreciate his self censure. So when I feel like I need a boost I'll ask him how I look or if he thinks a particular outfit might be nice for a date, etc. That gives him a nice, safe opening to comment on my appearance and let me know in a way that will be well received and easily given.

I should say, he DOES let me know he likes how I look in non-verbal ways and amorous moments, but I just don't expect an engineer to suddenly care about the color of my eyeshadow or notice if a particular pair of jeans is flattering. He'll just comment on how sexy I am, generally, and leave it at that!

I recently saw a cartoon where the husband and wife are getting dressed to go out. She is saying, "Does this dress make me look fat?" He is saying, "Does this tie make me look stupid?" I think most of the time, men are just being safe and cautious.

Lin

My boyfriend makes comments regularly, on average a couple times a week.

"Wow you are really looking thin'
"It's like being with a whole new person" (when we snuggle in bed)
"You look hot"
"I can tell you've lost a lot of weight"

I love the comments, it really makes me feel great!

My partner has always been very supportive and complemented my body, even at my heaviest. We are both working out and eating well, so we talk about our progress a lot. He has definitely noticed when once tight clothes are now baggy. He always loved my body, so the thing he comments on the most is how energized and positive I am now.

My husband gives me a hard time about it in a teasing manner whenever the subject is brought up, but for the most part he doesn't even notice a whole lot since it's such a gradual change. I'll excitedly show him the jeans that used to be way too small and say, "Look! These finally fit now!" And he'll be like, "I have no clue which jeans those are supposed to be, all your jeans look alike."

He's more likely to notice and comment on other things, like the fact that he no longer has to slow down so I can keep up with him whenever we go out, and that I'm generally more energetic and cheerful overall.

Regardless, he's been very supportive. He doesn't try to sabotage me with temptation nor does he act as the food police, he just lets me do what I do. My weight really doesn't matter to him, he stresses it's my happiness that's most important.

Wow, you have done so well!! You inspire me!!!

Well first congrats on your loss of 10 inches! That is wonderful!!!

Second, my husband does comment on it, not a lot but he will when I am wearing something that shows my curves, or when he picks me up randomly, usually after we both get home from work, or when I am reaching for something haha. He knows about me setting out to lose some excess weight, I told him about my plan back in the middle of September but haven't mentioned it since, even though I have definitely lost inches and a few lbs. It's really uplifting when he notices though! I wouldn't worry about your husband not saying anything, it's hard for people who see you every day to notice stuff like that!

I agree I could have wrote this myself

My fiancee didn't comment on my weight loss often and he sure as heck never commented on the weight gain the came after. The only time he would comment is when we were having a discussion about it. When he did comment he kept it in the "safe zone", never said anything that could be taken another way. He is a very smart man.

Him on the other hand asked for comments ALL the time lol