[AriesNV]

I found being single easier. However, add that to the fact that my roommate was a recluse (so he and I didn't talk much) and it was boring at my house...so that allowed me to spend a lot more time with my friends who lived downtown, who happened to be pretty active/healthy people. I'd get so bored and wouldn't want to leave my 120lb German shepherd at home by herself, that I'd walk the 4 miles downtown to their house. I wouldn't say I was eating "healthy"...I wasn't even aware of my eating habits. I do know I wasn't eating as much, since I was always out and about, I was more active -- since I didn't feel the restraint that you do, if your me, and have a bf to spend time with -- and I had the influence of my friends, so it was generally good stuff I was eating. Now, with a boyfriend, I feel like I can't "graze" on whatever throughout the day. I have to cook meals that satisfy a man's appetite. I am now learning some control on cooking whatever for him and planning (and sticking to) my own dinner choice.

[Spinach]

curvynotlumpy, I just need to take a sec and say that you are awesome

surfergirl2
I've gone from the classic unhealthy relationship with sabotage/enabling to being single and going full tilt on weight loss which went on to still being single and gaining back about 20 pounds and losing all my tone to being in a relationship where the fella is awesome and supportive and pushes my fitness levels and brings me cereal in the morning that has been measured so I can add it to my log easily.

I will be the first to say it is easier to lose weight with supportive people around, but in the end I choose to put things in my mouth and I choose to sit on the couch. Or not.

My advice to you... don't buy cartons of ice cream. If you love cold and creamy buy a box of ice cream bars. If you eat one, you have to go back to freezer and get another, this gives you time to think, unlike a spoon in a carton.
You seem bothered by the lack of structure in your day, so make a schedule. Lunch is this time frame, etc. You can tweak it as needed.

For the lonely... this is the hard one for me too. Even with a fella in my life, I don't have girlfriends in my area and I really feel that lack. Before I moved I made friends at the gym. I went to Zumba and made a point to be there a little early, watched people and smiled at them when they looked at me, said hi to the teacher and made myself as approachable as possible (so hard for me since I tend to the shy side!!). After class I didn't rush off, I slowly gathered my things and made small talk about the class. Slowly I learned things about people and asked after kids, jobs, trips etc. Soon I was being included in the chat and was invited to some of those candle/jewelry/tupperware parties and sometimes for a juice after. I did the same with my yoga class.
Now I'm part of Meetup to get together with people and try to make friends.
I did the online dating thing and I could give you big eyeball rolling stories of all the so-not-Mr-Rights I met, but I had I put in my profile the fitness things I love doing and want to do. I was very firm that I was not looking for a sit on the couch fella. I had a lot of very nice walks around the lake, the park and the city with very nice men who took my commitment to fitness seriously, but weren't the guy for me.
I also belong to a few other fitness forums and one hobby forum. If I feel the lonelies and hungries start to come on, I hit the forums.
Being lonely is so hard. Not being lonely is hard work.