My ex is getting married. To the girl he "didn't leave me for"... who happens to be NINE years younger than me. The only person I've ever loved... is marrying someone else.
We haven't been apart a year. We work together... in a job I LOVE, I could not see myself anywhere else, took me years to get there. I've had to watch it happen, day in and day out.
In good news, I haven't binged yet. I did get completely sick to my stomach, which straightened out some...uhh... lower GI sluggishness, lol. I also sent him a text to congratulate him and left her a message on her FB wall (yeah... SHE friended ME on FB a few months ago.... how weird is that?).
Maybe this is an NSV? Not eating everything in sight while I feel like something just died... I've thought about it, trust me, but each times it's crossed my mind I've told myself he's not worth it.
I would say definitely a big-time NSV and then some!
Wow, I commend you.. that is a tough situation, especially with you guys not being apart for even a year and this is happening AND you working at the same place! AH!
You are definitely being more than polite with leaving the texts and wall message (yeah, facebook is funny with who will friend who and why! LOL)
Big to you!!! Hang in there. And you are right, he is not worth a binge... don't give him and/or the food that power. Show them all who's boss! I am sorry this is going on!
Wow, that is a lot to be going through! I honestly cannot imagine! Very good job not binging, that really is something to be proud of. I have absolutely no advice except to take extra special care of yourself during this time.
First of all, major kudos to you for remaining poised even if it does really hurt on the inside. You have an enormous amount of strength and determination! I second what LockItUp said. Take a lot of care of yourself. You're doing wonderfully.
Hugs
Maybe you should unfriend her on FB. Do you really want to see pics of her and your ex with the ring, her shower, the wedding pictures? I am also suspect why she friended you in the first place. She is no friend of yours, believe me.
The best way to overcome this is to keep moving forward as you are doing. You have retained your dignity and you should feel proud.
Wow. I really admire you for being so strong. I had a similar, but not nearly as bad, situation happen to me and all I did was cry and feel sorry for myself. You sound like such a strong and beautiful person! It will work out for you in the end, I really believe it
It sounds like you acted with total class and composure. I an only imagine how hard it must have been, and I admire how composed you seem. I have a feeling something even better will be around the corner for you. Keep up you goals, stay on track with your health plans, and take heart in the belief that it will work out for you and you will feel great again. Warmest wishes.
Edited: And I just took a look at your ticker. WHOA! You are so close to goal, girl. Um, no, this is not worth it!!! Keep up the great work and keep your chin up! You will find plenty of love along the way and will be all the happier for it. It will be ok.
Last edited by beautifulone; 06-16-2012 at 06:00 PM.
Oops, this is the weight loss forum! Sorry, tired after 12 hour shift at work means brain don't work no mo'
The truth is, if this guy was so great and worth your pain and seeming love then he wouldn't have hurt you, now or before. But he did, so he's not worth your time, or you going off your plan and feeling bad about yourself when you should feel nothing but pride over your accomplishments.
Hugs
Maybe you should unfriend her on FB. Do you really want to see pics of her and your ex with the ring, her shower, the wedding pictures? I am also suspect why she friended you in the first place. She is no friend of yours, believe me.
The best way to overcome this is to keep moving forward as you are doing. You have retained your dignity and you should feel proud.
I completely agree. Anyone would know the awkwardness of the situation, so I'm not sure what her motives are.
You poor thing, though! You take care of yourself (and you're already on the right track by not going down the self-destructive road of binging). You will meet someone else, too. Take your focus off of him; let him go emotionally (if you haven't done so already). That will leave you open to others who might be interested.
Thank you all so much for your support... I can't tell you how much it means to hear such nice things... As far as FB, I have both of them removed from my news feed, so I don't have to watch any of it. She can't actually see anything on my wall, either... I'm not that nice, lol.
Now THAT is determination and strength - well done you. To not crack under those circumstances is fantastic.
And it's easy for me to say, but you WILL find someone who deserves you somewhere down the line. Your ex didn't. Oh and age has nothing to do with how awesome you are.
I didn't know wherelse to turn...
