Looking for some support (long post)
Has anyone experienced something like this?
I was 280-290 for about 5 years, and well over 200 for the 5-8 previous years. I had my moments of self-doubt/loathing, but for the most part I always felt confident and never self-conscious. Ever since I have started losing weight ( I have lost almost 45 lbs since October), I feel so self-conscious all the time. I feel like all "skinny" people are looking at me, judging me, my clothes, my walking, the food I'm eating, EVERYTHING! I'm sure some are, I'm sure some don't care at all. I know this but I can't help but feel they are!
I recently started a new job. I work in an office with one of my friends from college. We aren't good friends but in the same group who gets together once a month or so for dinner/drinks. She is 23, thin and attractive. ( I am 30) Another new girl started at the same time as me and she is 24, thin, tall and very attractive. Everyone is nice and everything but I feel jealous because it seems my college friend, other new girl and another girl are becoming good friends and although I get invited to things (lunch, after work drinks), I can't help but feel like the fat girl that no one wants to hang out with. Like I'm cramping their style or something. I used to consider myself pretty stylish but its been hard lately. I have had to buy some new clothes for work but nothing seems to fit properly. I am losing the weight a lot faster in my bum/hip/thigh area then my tummy and I feel I look disproportionate. So, although I look thinner overall, I feel awkward. Its hard to find clothes, especially pants, that fit right. I did just buy some "Bridget Jones" type underwear that do a pretty awesome job of taking off a couple inches, so I will see if that helps. I know it will get better as more weight comes off, but I wonder am I always going to feel like this? I don't want to feel fat, rejected and dowdy all the time. I want my confidence back!
Any advice?
Jen
Last edited by begoodjen; 03-18-2012 at 07:26 PM.
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