I didn't say much till people started noticing. Even then, I tell them I've been working at being healthier, not losing weight. And that has been my primary goal (with weightloss as a benefit of being healthier.)

I've also been more open about talking about the weight I have lost cuz I'm really close to my goal and LOVE my eating plan. It has made weight loss so painless.

I wish I had shut up about it because now the world thinks I am going to be "the Asian Karen Carpenter" as one person so kindly put it.

I keep it a secret too that is why I love this website. I don't like to brag and I find it hard to relate to people who are not in the same situation. Also I like it to be a surprise if I succeed and if I fail noone will know

I don't keep it a "secret" because, for me, it sounds like something I should be ashamed of. I suppose I'm private about my weight loss and discrete. If people ask, I'll talk about it and I don't mind telling people I'm on WW. But i don't feel the need to advertise

I just wanted to add one more thing now that I read the post by Krampus...as you get very close to goal, you do have to kind of keep your guard up about it because SOOOOOOO many people have an opinion that you are 'fine the way you are', 'you don't need to lose ANY more weight' :nono: and yadda yadda yadda. That's nice that they think so, but *****I***** see myself without clothes on :eek:

So it's kind of weird how you keep it to yourself in the VERY beginning for fear of shame and then realize the same issue at the last 10-15 lbs!!!!

It's SO TRUE. I had someone I hardly know LECTURE me about how I should be happy at my size and how I am not fat and how hips and thighs are designed for childbearing. All completely unsolicited, and while my ego feels like a rock star, it really bothers me how everyone feels the need to chime in. I've taken to pretending I am a maintainer in public spaces, and overcompensating by always making a point to eat huge meals when I'm around other people (luckily for me most of my meals during the week are eaten alone...).

There is a huge difference between having severe body dysmorphia and starving yourself (like Karen Carpenter) and wanting to diet and exercise yourself healthily down to a weight that is perfectly healthy for your height and frame. Why don't people understand that?!

My parents and sister inlaw know I'm trying to lose weight and are very supportive. I tell my husband (who is out of state for the army) that I work out but never really discuss what I eat and how motivated I am. I don't discuss it with my inlaws on his side at all because they have sabotaged me in the past and would tell me I don't need to lose anymore. I'm sure they are realizing I'm losing weight. They never comment how I look while my parents do, and I don't see them as much as my parents. I also always refuse their crappy food and desserts so I think they know. They just aren't commenting yet.

Out of curiousity krampus, is it Japanese girls who tell you that? I can't imagine Japanese girls, in general, saying that about a 5'5 125lb girl! Do you teach ESL? I do too... in Canada, not Japan. It's probably your American/Canadian coworkers, right?

You guys know! :)

My husband knows my desire to shed pounds, and he is bending over backwards to help me.

One of my girlfriend's commented today that I looked thinner, and I told her I am trying to eat better. -- Unfortunately I am a blabber mouth, and I groan and moan about my hard walks on my facebook page, so some of my friends are making the connection.

But over all, I am staying pretty quiet. -- By the time summer comes, and I shed all winter gear...people will see I have shed some winter weight as well!

Yeah, I'm already getting that. I passed on a party tonight and one of my friends says I look fine and that I just have "fat kid syndrome" from when I was a kid. What you said is exactly what I said!

I don't understand though, because I'm not skinny, at all. *shrug*

And as for the topic in question, I never hid my weightloss but I didn't openly tell everyone about it. My boyfriend's mom frequently talks **** about the food I eat (low fat stuff), saying that it's loaded with "fillers" and "chemicals" and whatever, and about how good adding a stick of butter to a box of mac n cheese is, and how good her sugary buttery homemade blueberry syrup is, and that's why I chose not to say anything. At least it took a while for people to catch on and start with those comments.

Krampus, I've been your goal size (before my 3 kids) and I think, while at the lower end, it's still within normal range. I felt normal at 115 and no one ever walked up to me and deemed me to be anorexic. Now if I went down to 115 now, it might look awkward considering childbirth does change your body and due to my age. I take it by your picture and location you are Japanese so I am sure you have a very petite frame which could carry 115 quite nicely. As long as you feel healthy and it is within normal range, it's YOUR business.

krampus:This. I never volunteered anyone outside of 3FC that I was trying to lose weight, unless they noticed my weight loss and asked specifically. Especially now, I don't really say anything to anyone, and I eat extra when I go over to other people's houses because I don't want to catch grief from people. I can adjust my eating habits later or burn it off on the bike, no big deal.

I secretly started to lose weight a million times because I didn't want anyone to comment on it. I was thin before and I've always felt I needed to go back to my "normal" weight again.

But hiding it and not telling anyway really stopped me from having accountability. So, this time around, I started telling everyone. My goal was also to get them to stop offering me junk and to have them support me.

So far, it's worked. I feel accountable to a whole bunch of people and it helps me stay within my plan. It's also helped me learn to say no to them when they offer food or drink, because otherwise, I wouldn't want to answer, "Oh, no, thanks, I'm still on a diet."

Now, the whole "I'm on a diet" is a great reason to turn down food and not have anyone offer it again (at least in my world!!!!).

There's no reason why you should HAVE to tell people you're trying to lose weight, unless they get concerned you're starving yourself when you're losing weight, etc). I don't see anything wrong with keeping it personal especially since they haven't been supportive in the past.

I live across the country from my entire family and all of my old (and best) friends, and I am keeping this a secret... I lost 22 pounds since most of them have seen me, I'm looking to drop another 40 by the summer, which is when I'm going to go visit again.
I'm not telling anybody. Imagining everyone's reaction is big enough a motivation to keep me going on hard days.

I don't really like to tell people. My co-worker was out on maternity leave a few summers ago when I was actively losing a lot of weight and she came back she took one look at me and said, "Whoa, someone got skinny while I was gone!" I find that kind of attention to be embarrassing.

None of my co-workers know about my weight loss efforts or how much I run (which is a lot to people who are not runners.) My girlfriend who lives with me is really the only one who knows that I am trying to lose weight again.