[corazonas]

This thread is too funny... I've always been a really confident girl but guess it got a little lost after getting married, being pregnant twice, and just being that housewife that was a little too heavy.

Now that I'm more fit, caring more about my appearance, newly divorced and single... I eat it up! haha I love the attention and feel like I totally deserve it. Not in a snobby witchy kind of way but its true, I welcome most compliments and flirtation unless it's just downright creepy

[constance21]

You girls are great!! I LOVE all the input!!

I guess most of the time it is very flattering, but there is those times where I wanna go out, and just want to be left alone! Especially if I am having a good time with my kids.

[Ookpik]

I found it kind of hard to handle when I started getting more attention from men after I started losing weight. If I was talking to a guy I found kind of attractive, I tried to appear nonchalant, but inside I was thinking, "go away! I don't know how to handle this!"

It's not that I've never been with a guy before, but I wasn't used to a lot of attention. I think, in my mind, the only guys I deserved were the ones who couldn't treat a woman right. When I lost the weight and more "desireable" men started paying attention, I found it awkward. But at the same time, I liked it! Odd, I'm thinking that maybe I liked the validation that men found me attractive finally, but at the same time was afraid to do anything about it. That's something I know I have to work on.

[therex]

pft, i wish i had that problem. I can't even remember the last time I was hit on.

[constance21]

My husband also pointed out that I now wear tighter fitting clothes than I used to. I have gradually changed what I wear after gaining more confidence.

[Eliana]

The only guys I care about are the husbands of my two best friends. They're as close to me as their wives are! We're all old college friends. They have always been a little flirty with me. It wasn't a problem when I was at my heaviest, but now that I'm losing weight it intensifies and wigs me out, quite frankly. My parents had friends who were a married couple and my mom ended up having an affair and then marrying the man. I'm paranoid about that. But that only means it WON'T happen to me.

All other men are free to flirt away! LOL!

[constance21]

That would be awkward Eliana!

[Beach Patrol]

I've ALWAYS been hit on. During my lean years, my fat years, whatever. I think it's attitude overall. (I get hit on by women, too). It doesn't bother me; in fact, it empowers me. I guess I enjoy being noticed. But my husband is my #1 and he knows it - I don't feel the need to tell anyone to back off because I'm married. I just generally let it go in one ear & out the other. If anyone gets all "grabby" - now THAT is a different story. I don't mind decking someone, LOL.

[constance21]

LOL!! Beach Patrol that is hilarious!

[vertigoskyy]

Confidence!!