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Avezy44 · 04-10-2010, 07:05 PM

Haha, I dont mean that in a laughing at you way.. just the fact that I know exactly what you're saying. My guy amazes me with the things that come out of his mouth sometimes and other times I'm dumb founded. Hang in there girl, I am sure he means well

But be sure to let him know when he does it or else he will never know he made a boo boo

CarbsAreEvil · 04-11-2010, 06:43 PM

Men just blurt out what they're thinking. I don't think he meant it in a bad way, but like most men... they're hopelessly confused when it comes to our feelings.

PaulaM · 04-11-2010, 06:46 PM

I thought of this thread this morning. Husband reached over and put his hand on my lower belly in bed and said it feels smaller. Not small mind you. LOL They are hopeless really

maisiedotes · 04-12-2010, 07:05 AM

A few weeks ago, I started a list on facebook of the top 10 things men should never say to women. Um.. within 3 hours there were 36 things on the top 10 list. So clearly, some men (and women, for that matter) just don't realize how their statement is coming out. Once my grandfather said "oh, you look nice today- usually you look real fat."

So, yeah, I think in your case it was a compliment.

AmyLynn76 · 04-12-2010, 07:51 AM

I think your SO meant well but being a guy didn't quite phrase his compliment very well. I would just let him know how it made you feel.

Katieee · 04-12-2010, 10:18 AM

Guys are so funny, they have a hard time being sensitive but women can be overly sensitive. my boyfriend kept saying stuff on Friday about my weightloss and they were joking things and positive things and I was like "its not funny,can you just not make any jokes." And he seemed confused because he wasn't making hurtful jokes they just got annoying. But he agreed, after 7 years he should know I'm overly sensitive about some things.

MablesGirl · 04-12-2010, 10:36 AM

Hi Sherrie - I'd take it as a comliment, but ask him to rephrase it next time!

goodforme · 04-12-2010, 10:43 AM

Thanks for all the replies! Yes, I do think it is just exactly like him to state a fact, with no hidden meaning behind it, and for my mind to take that and run with it! LOL I appreciate that he's noticed, and I'm really glad because I've been keeping this weight loss thing very low key. . . At least he didn't say something along the lines of "look how many fat rolls you have on your back" because I would have totally smacked him!

2phatinvictoria · 04-12-2010, 11:15 AM

lol... he totally meant that in a good way.. just didnt say the right words ! my bf says things like that and grabs loose skin.. it used to bother me.. but now i just laugh at what he says!