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Originally Posted by Ufi
Since when is it OK for a support group to be rough and tumble? Aren't those concepts kind of at odds? I didn't think we were here to bludgeon each other into weight loss, unless someone is ASKING for a kick in the pants.
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Firstly, I'd like to make it clear that I think that there is a very obvious difference between a Support Group and an online supportive community. Support groups tend to be facilitated by either a professional or someone with an awful lot of experience of the problem being discussed. They tend to be very tough.
Of course no one here is asking to be bludgeoned into weight loss or anything else and I've never seen that happening. However, I think that most of us want a little more than just to be agreed with because that isn't really supportive or in the least helpful.
If I were to stake a totally unrealistic goal, I'd hope and expect that someone would offer the kind of real kindness that would come from pointing out to me that I was being unrealistic. If I were to start complaining about a lack of weight loss while not keeping an eye on what I was eating, rather an a chorus of 'too bad' I'd much prefer someone pointed out the error of my ways. Of course I'd want the person to do this with kindness and consideration (no bludgeoning
) but I'd rather the truth.
If someone does have issues that are beyond the expertise of the group I think that it's much kinder and humane to say that than to pretend that everything is going to be alright when they find the right eating plan.
Finally, I think that you should only ask a bunch of strangers for advice when you know that you are robust enough to deal with a few replies that you aren't going to agree with. Otherwise you are just setting yourself up to be hurt.