So I started losing weight in March and within almost 2 months I had lost 20 pounds.. I was counting calories, exercising everything you're supposed to do.. I was really happy too, once summer was in full swing, june, july, I wasn't really watching what I ate and didn't work out as much as I would have liked, but I still wasnt gaining weight so I was happy..
In August my boyfriend of 2 years completely abandoned me for no reason known to me, our relationship is over and I'v been in such a dark place since then, It's been a little over a month since I last saw him and I am so sad, the past month I've been eating like a pig, and I know I put on some weight because I see it and I feel it, jeans that looked really great on me now cut off my stomach a little and my stomach sticks out from them, this makes me feel even worse, I've completely fallen off the wagon, I don't do anything except go to work and school and eat, I have two good friends who I occasionally hang out with but that's about it because for the last 2 years I was always with him and as a result I don't have many friends..
I haven't been on this forum since early summer, and I don't know where else to turn, I have tears in my eyes as I'm writing this.. Thanks for listening.
Hang in there!!Many of us have turned to food when feeling blue....which make us feel worse eventually.You are beautiful.Life will go on for you and it will be Grand!!!
Lana, you did the right thing by coming here for support. While it will take awhile for your heart to stop hurting, get back on track and you will start to feel better physically. You will be so glad you did.
Please don't do what I did...I used food to comfort my emotions due to things going on in my life....things I have no control over. Well, it's kind of like we feel that food is the one thing we WILL control and instead of eating well, we overeat as a sign of, "I can do whatever I want and nobody can stop me," but that hurts us a lot in the end. I have put on 60 lbs. in the last year. Please don't do what I did. I'm really glad to be back on track. My problems still remain, but I'm moving in the right direction, which is so empowering.
sorry to hear you are hurting it's hard to focus on what we need to when our hearts are heavy and our minds are on other things, but you need to get back on track ASAP. Working out and exercising will help release some stress and make you feel better. Don't get hit with regaining all the weight you worked so hard to lose. When you stop hurting and are ready to get back out there again, you want to be ready and have the confidence to do so.
Use this as motivation! I know you're at a hard spot, I was there 3 years ago. My ex had just left me after 3 years. We lived together and basically did everything together. When he left I had to move back in with my mom and start all over.
This is your chance! People say they always wish for a chance to re-invent themselves, or they wish they had a chance for a new start... this is yours! Do all of the things you've always wanted to do, be the person that you've always wanted to be.
I know how hard it is, I really do. Just take it one step at a time, okay?
I am so sorry to hear this. I know that it can be a tough time, having gone through this myself. I am more proud of you that you realized you're gaining and came on here to do the best you can to fix it. Like one of the other posters said, it's his loss not yours. Be happy that he ended it now instead of wasting more of your time. You can do this! You can get back to working out and eating healthier - FOR YOU! Best of luck and come by often.
I'm so sorry to hear you are hurting so much. That is really hard and I know how hard it can be to make good choices for yourself. Allow yourself to make a few. You don't have to make them ALL but try to get a few going. Think about what you've done before that was pretty 'easy' for you to do and try to get those pieces in place. The others will come along.
On the social front, are there some folks that you lost touch with due to your focus on your relationship? Maybe you could reach out to them and see if you can get things back on track. Then try really hard not to let the next relationship swamp so many others. It's natural for things to shift but even if you marry someone, I personally don't think you want to give up all your other friendships because you have a relationship.
If there isn't anyone you want to reestablish with, maybe seek out someone you can do a healthy activity with. Walking buddy, cycling friend, hiking, etc.
Hang in there. It'll get better and this board would be a great place to help you get there.
Sorry to hear you are going through a break up those can be tough. Let me tell you something though I have been through a lot of break ups and some were hard and some were easy. Don't let him ruin what you have worked so hard for. He is not worth it. Everything happens for a reason. Keep on track and try to use that as motivation to get in shape and stay healthy. Make exercise comfort you instead of food. Good luck hun and hang in there!!! Hugz~Jamie
I am so sorry to hear that... we all fall off of the wagon here and there and I totally know what you are going through... I lost weight but I still wasn't good enough so then I just ate and gained a few pounds back... I'm back in the swing of things now and you too will be just fine. Just dont give up
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it's hard to focus on what we need to when our hearts are heavy and our minds are on other things, but you need to get back on track ASAP. Working out and exercising will help release some stress and make you feel better. Don't get hit with regaining all the weight you worked so hard to lose. When you stop hurting and are ready to get back out there again, you want to be ready and have the confidence to do so.
