Thank you to everyone who replied. I'm not so stressed now, it was just piling up into not one, but THREE days of "celebration", which was making me a little upset.
Just to clarify something, I don't limit my food to boring choices. I LOVE fresh fruit and can't get enough black coffee so that would be a perfect diner meal, knowing I'll get the rest of my nutrients at home with my own cooking. My plan of a salad with no dressing for lunch#2 is because I'm sure I'll forget to take my own reduced calorie dressing, but this isn't a regular habit (anymore) to eat in restaurants TWICE in one week either. So if I make that choice, I'll enjoy her company rather than fretting about the restaurant food.
My roomie is another story. He believes if a meal doesn't have 100,000 calories per mouthful it's not worth eating, so we RARELY share a meal. The meal he'll make is LIKELY to be a mountain of babyback ribs slathered in tons of BBQ sauce, corn on the cob, baked potato and either angelfood cake smothered in Grand Marnier sauce or butterscotch meringue pie. That's assuming he doesn't make appetizers. And then there'd be multiple double bourbon old fashioneds before dinner and a bottle of wine from his wine cellar with dinner. ...
I rarely eat corn but that's the only veggie he seems to make. I PREFER veggies naked.
But I prefer brussel sprouts, broccoli, cauliflower, beets, carrots, green beans, etc over corn. Sometimes I spice my veggies up a bit, I was just saying I'd probably nuke myself some naked broccoli rather than eat the majority of the meal this man would make! (Of course I'd use my reduced calorie dressing on a salad since I'd be at home with easy access to it.) And that would be day# 3 of eating food I didn't prepare, which again, is why I was stressing.
I think I'll just go with my restaurant ideas, have a scoop of ice cream and leave half of it so I don't suck the joy out of the excursion for my sister and eat extremely sparingly of the meal my roomie makes.
But you're all correct ... I'm blessed to have people who care enough about me to fuss over my birthday and I thank each and every person here who reminded my grumpy self of that.