Me, I'd have dumped the cookie back on her desk with a loud no thankyou.
but I really worry about her behaviour, what a dangerous bully, look out for her.
I have a friend kind of like that, and really I'm very fond of him but he has a cruel streak. At lunch a few months ago he ordered a chocolate gateau for himself. I said I'd just have coffee. For a good 20 mins he went on and on, as he savoured his cake how he was sure I'd really wanted some, how he could just see by the look on my face I was desperate for a bit of his. The truly annoying thing was that I really, honestly wasn't interested. I maintained a polite smile, didn't argue, drank my coffee. He hasn't done it again.
passive aggressive bullies are hard to deal with though.
ps you're right, one cookie won't kill ya
and
woohoo! you've lost over half a stone. don't let an unpleasant amoeba like here spoil it.
I have a coworker like that too. She gets jealous that I'm losing weight and might potentially be prettier than her someday, I guess (this is the only option I can come up with for her behavior), so she sometimes makes mean comments about my diet restrictions. If she pulled that cookie nonsense with me I would have been able to find someone else to eat it in about ten seconds flat around here, but I would've had no qualms about tossing it, either.
That girl in your office sounds pretty weird. Definitely watch your back with her.
That ... creature. How annoying. She forced you to settle for an uninteresting cookie. If you were to permit yourself to eat a cookie, I am sure it would not be the mediocre object she presented you with.
I'd have thrown it away, smiled sweetly and said, "Sorry, when I treat myself, I really do treat myself. This just wouldn't be worth it."
Of course, then I'd have to work alongside a sworn enemy for an indefinite time.
Why do women pull this passive/agressive stuff? When I hear this, I'm so glad I work in a department that's primarily male. Granted, they are going on too much about basketball, and on one memorable occasion, they had a farting contest after lunch, but no one's ever given me a hard time about what I eat & they have been all full of "way to go" about my exercising & have become rather protective of me in a very nice, brotherly way when other guys at the office show an interest in me.
Sorry you're subjected to these kind of mind games at work.
I laughed when you said the cookie wasn't very good - that gives you the perfect "out" for the next time (and it's virtually certain there will be a next time with this witch). When she shoves a cookie on you, you can calmly tell her that you tried one last time, and it didn't taste good enough to waste the calories on. Tell her the carrots tasted a lot better.
This person doesn't seem to respect you, or that you're trying to eat well. It's one thing to offer someone a treat - that's being nice, really - but when you say "Oh, no thanks. No cookies for me." and she leaves it there for you anyway? that's just malicious.
I laughed when you said the cookie wasn't very good - that gives you the perfect "out" for the next time (and it's virtually certain there will be a next time with this witch). When she shoves a cookie on you, you can calmly tell her that you tried one last time, and it didn't taste good enough to waste the calories on. Tell her the carrots tasted a lot better.
I have to totally agree with this...there WILL be a next time because she won. Granted you LET her win...and EVERYONE LOVES to win. She'll keep playing the game as long as she wins.
I love ICU's idea! NEXT TIME...just a simple..."yuck, no thank you, that last cookie you gave me sucked...I'm saving my calories for a delicious piece of cheesecake my best friend made for me...
Man, people are so weird about weight loss. This is why I treat the fact that I'm changing my eating like top secret information. Next time toss the cookie, and don't feel badly. Throwing away food you don't want is NOT rude.
It's like WHY is it if you have carrots or something else healthy people automatically assume you are dieting? I LIKE yogurt- I want more fiber in my diet- so I started eating those fiber yogurts a few times a week and one day a girl I know said "why are you eating yogurt, are you dieting?" I said yes I am dieting BUT I LIKE yogurt and eat it almost everyday! SHEESH.
Yeah next time say no and if she tries to put it on your desk scream "NO GERMS GERMS!!" then fall to the ground and twitch uncontrollably
I wouldn't be rude or nasty because in the end you have to see this girl everyday you are at work. Next time I'd politely refuse and if she drops it on your desk, when she walked away I would pitch it, or give it to someone else. There are often times that people leave things on my desk. Monday I came in and there was a HUGE piece of cake with all kinds of icing on it. So I gave it to two of my co workers. I didn't even have a taste. I thanked the person for giving it to me. If you are rude and nasty to her you, or you eat the cookie then you are letting her win. Be nice and kill her with kindness. That usually drives them crazy...
I would have (and have done in the past) thrown the cookie away. Discreetly, because as Jay said, you have to work with this person. Nobody is going to "force" me to eat something I don't want, I make that choice myself.
That was very disrespectful of her to force a cookie on you. There will always be friends/co-workers like that. i think from the aforementioned post we all no someone who fits in that category.
Today a co-worker offered me some chicken wings, I told her I was dieting but thank you anyway. She dug in the bag and I was thinking oh no please dont make me take them and she pulle dout a box of celery and asked me if i wanted it.
Buy yourself a little stuffed Cookie Monster, and keep him on your desk. He never ATE the cookies anyway...
Some people just don't know how to react to others on a diet. Maybe she was just afraid of you feeling left out, who knows. Granted, one cookie isn't going to do you any harm, but the feelings you had after the incident, that's what is sticking with you.
Let it go... You can't control another's actions, but you can control how you react to them. Thank her for the cookie, put it in a drawer, and throw it away when you have a chance.
