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Originally Posted by tinycities
Friend B - is slightly tactless in general, but has made several iffy comments with regards to my weight loss. It never really comes up in conversation, but when it does, she sometimes makes remarks about my appearance (e.g. calling me "skinny" when I'm clearly not, I don't at all think she's trying to be mean, it's just the way she says it is slightly mocking/belittling in tone). She's a UK 14-16 (US 10-12) herself, hourglass shape, nice figure. I'm a similar shape, but slightly less pronounced hourglass, and a bit more rectangular. In the past she's made (uninvited) remarks about how we look "so different" even though we're the same size, and comments like "you've always carried much more weight on your stomach than me, whereas I've got bigger boobs and hips". Maybe I've overreacted in finding comments like that annoying, but basically saying "you've got a fat gut, whereas I'm a lovely hourglass" sort of irked me. Out of all friends, this woman is the only one who's been a bit negative about my weight loss sometimes, even though I'm not sure she means it. I think she'd like to lose a little weight, and I don't think she's used to me being the same size/slimmer than her. Maybe her formerly "fat friend" being a similar size to her is making herself think differently about her own size, I don't know.
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I work with a lady that's sort of the same way, very tactless. When I was at my lowest weight, about size 16, I was about the same size as her, or at least I would have been, if she wore her proper clothing size. She wears clothes that are probably a size 12, and as a result, her underwear line is always showing, and the buttons on her shirts are always straining.
Anyway, she always makes a point of telling me when she's starting a new workout regiment, which is usually once a month, and always asks me what I've been doing to get healthy. I don't think she's being malicious, she's just tactless like that.
Another example, a girl in our store that had medium brown hair colored it very dark brown, almost black, shortly before she went on vacation to Mexico a few weeks ago. She asked the girl if she colored it that dark so that it would fade to the right color while she was in Mexico.
