[Amber1011]

I rely a lot on the help of my boyfriend. He tried to do simple things like not offer me junk food, not eat it around me, and he's even trying to diet with me now!

[Lori Bell]

I have a lot of "Cheerleaders" and 3fc is a terrific support system, but in real life, the everyday grind, I don't have a weight loss buddy, or a work out partner. My sister has recently also been losing weight which is great, but she lives in Indy, and a 12 hour drive from me, so we just support each other via e-mail and facebook. My husband could stand to lose 20-30 pounds but has NO desire to lose weight. He also has a heart problem (Cardiomyopathy) . He rather take 4 prescription pills daily, (not to mention the huge cost of them) than try to lower his cholesterol and blood pressure by losing a small amount of weight. He washes his Coreg, Bp med, and 2 cholesterol meds down with a beer every evening. This causes me a huge amount of anxiety. When I got to his weight I asked him if he'd like to join me for my last 25 pounds, and he said NO!!! I said okay.

Along the way I've had a few friends hop on the wagon with me, and they all go for a while, then jump (or fall) off. A few have tried to get me off with them, and a few "fat friends" have basically abandoned me altogether. I think that losing weight is a lonely experience some times, especially when you have a huge amount to lose like I did. Some how I think people just expect you to fail in the beginning so they don't take you seriously and then when food is not center stage in your relationship, you have nothing in common anymore and just drift apart.

I'm rambling. I need to get outside and get my walk in on this BEAUTIFUL 65 degree day in NE.

[sws19]

all i have is this site. my roommate has been trying to bring me down by ordering pizzas and unfortunately i've been succumbing. he's moving out this weekend though. so that should help.

[Priscatip]

Me too, this site is my main source of support. My boyfriend is nice and understanding, and lets me pick restaurants based on what I can eat, and 'let's' everything that we eat at home (because I do all the cooking and grocery shopping). But he's not dieting, and doesn't really get the issues or the calorie counting, and most of the time thinks I'm being too hard on myself and I could just have one more candy or whatever. He's fantastic and wonderful, but not my dieting buddy. And my mom is proud of me, because that's what mom's do, but we don't really talk about it. So I come to 3FC. All the time. Literally, all of the time. Man, I need some girlfriends!

[Thin4Good]

I mainly just come here. I feel like most people that know me well are either tired of hearing about my weight loss or they do not understand. DH tries to be supportive (as do some family members but they don't live near me) but he still doesn't even know what it is I am "allowed" to eat and after a short period where he said he was going to join me, he has decided to go completely off the wagon. In the beginning he used to go to the gym with me but not anymore. (He does work out, but on his lunch break)

For ME- this really has to be something I do on my own. In the past I have found that when I rely on another person to go, although there is some motivation in the accountability, there also feels like an excuse not to go if they can't. As though I am released from my commitment because it was to them and not to me. I hope that makes sense!

Sometimes I meet with a local running group but most days I run alone because that is the easiest way for me to make sure it gets done. I have two kids too and a DH in the military so it isn't exactly easy for me to get out of the house by myself! I have to take what I can get!