[Princess0113]

Originally Posted by Heffalump

Another problem I've had in the past is that once the compliments start to roll in I tend to get complacent, which of course is a dangerous place to be if you want to stay on plan...

i've had this problem recently. a woman at work noticed my weight loss (she knew i was dieting on and off) and i kinda of played it off like, "oh you think so? i haven't been losing much lately. i want to lose more but it's no big deal i guess." then she says, "even if you don't, you look great - very well proportioned." (lol - kind of a bizarre compliment, but good intentions) so instead of getting motivated, i start telling myself that maybe i look good enough and this is the weight i'm meant to be. and while it may be true that i look ok like this, it doesn't change the fact that if i want to be a healthy BMI, i need to lose 20 more. it's great to get compliments (and stinks NOT to get compliments) but i have to stay focused despite other people's reactions.

Originally Posted by Nancy CA

What I don't like are people who wouldn't give me the time of day before that are all on me now about my weight loss. Why wasn't I worthy before?

totally agree! guess that's just the culture we live in.

Originally Posted by jitterfish

But what I find hard is other friends who are over-weight, I don't want to talk about my weight loss around them ... I don't want to make them feel bad/awkward.

i have that problem at work as most of the women are also overweight or obese. it's hard to know how to answer when the comment (good or bad) is coming from someone bigger than i am now. i guess i downplay it so that i don't offend them. i also hope in some way my journey could motivate them, but i'm not close enough with any of them to actually suggest that they join me.

[WebRover]

There were several women who started and succeeded in losing weight before I got serious about losing. I was sincere in my congratulatory comments and interested in how they had done it. One woman lost over 100 pounds and the other losses were less, but still dramatic. Seeing someone be successful at losing it and successful at maintaining the loss was motivating to me. I didn't say anything to indicate intentions to lose weight myself, probably because I wasn't ready yet. I don't think I could have been offended unless someone had commented that I needed to do it too, or follow their plan. Just comments about what you've done that worked when that's what you've been asked shouldn't offend anyone. So even though you don't directly see that you're motivating people, you probably are.

[LynseyLikes2Lose]

I just say thank. If they ask how I tell them I eat less and better and exercise. You'd be surprised how many people say, "I was scared you'd say that." Like I have the magic solution or something.

I had a guy tell me that I have always been pretty but he couldn't believe how gorgeous I am now that I've lost like 100 pounds! I was floored. I said, "Thanks, I think, but it was just 30." I couldn't believe it.

[BillBlueEyes]

My favorite response was, "Yes, I've joined a gym." It was true, validated their observation, covered the unasked question that it wasn't a dire illness, and saved them from having to hear the threatening part that I ate less. Few people asked further.

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[cheetara]

I usually just say "whole foods". Most people think that equates to brown rice and chicken breasts every night, so it kills their curiosity.

[Apple Cheeks]

Cheetara, welcome to 3FC!

(And as a fan of the Thundercats, I salute you!)

[cephalopod gal]

Originally Posted by Apple Cheeks

(And as a fan of the Thundercats, I salute you!)

I second!!