Well, the weight issue, I could understand, but the age thing.... it doesn't seem to be "generally" offensive unless you're beyond your twenties, I'd believe. Reason being? I don't have a problem telling people I'm 22 because thats still relatively young, right?
LOL - I don't have a problem telling people I'm 37 and that's still relatively young, too!
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Actually no one has asked me how much I used to weigh but if they do I am going to answer them honestly and say 6 1/2 pounds.
Last edited by phantastica; 09-03-2007 at 09:59 PM.
I think each CIRCUMSTANCE is different. My brother has lost 30 pounds in a couple of months...everyone asks him how much have you lost, what did you weigh before, etc. He doesn't mind. I have lost 14 pounds in 6 weeks...no one seems to notice...I don't mind...I can see it. I will say my kids and family have noticed my eating habits and exercise and have given me kudos for that...but they say to them I look the same.
Boop: I had the same thing happen to me a couple of years ago when I had lost 30 lbs. They asked how much weight I lost and I said, "30 lbs. Thanks for noticing!" Then they asked how much I had weighed and I said, "30 lbs. more than I do now..." It worked and got the point across with a bit of humor!
(And kaw: we have a saying in the pharmacy about women and pregnancy... 'unless you see the baby dropping out at that moment, never ask a woman when she is due...' )
Boop: I had the same thing happen to me a couple of years ago when I had lost 30 lbs. They asked how much weight I lost and I said, "30 lbs. Thanks for noticing!" Then they asked how much I had weighed and I said, "30 lbs. more than I do now..." It worked and got the point across with a bit of humor!
Haha! I would have loved to see the look on her face if I had said that! Thanx now I know what to say next time someone asks me. Its smart and sassy!
Hmmm well I really don't have a problem talking about my weight or weight loss. So for me asking how much i lost would not seem rude to me. But I am all quick to tell people how I lost my weight so no one thinks I lost weight in an unhealthy manner. Though I must say I don't get those questions often. I got more questions when I was 25lb heavier that I thought were rude. Like 2 times in a matter of months people asked me if I was pregnant again because I have a habit of resting my hand on my tummy when I am thinking.
You know what? I have no shame. I answer honestly and am not offended or embarrassed by this question. Yeah, I weighed 175 once! So what? I don't weigh 175 now, and while I'm still going to lose 24 more pounds, I know I look pretty fit even at 149! I DO see why this question is rude, but I don't completely understand why one would be incredibly bothered by it... yeah, sure, some of us might have been pretty overweight once, maybe even obese, but when it gets to the point where people notice it, we've obviously come a long way, so why does it matter?
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I don't mind answering questions about my age or my weight. I figure, the only way to make middle age and average weight acceptable for women is if enough people own up to the truth.
HIGH FIVE SISTER!
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LOL - I don't have a problem telling people I'm 37 and that's still relatively young, too
Hey, I wouldn't be ashamed of my age ever. 37 IS YOUNG . I think some women tend to get insecure when they reach their 50s but you are right, say it loud if you have nothing to be afraid of!
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You know what? I have no shame. I answer honestly and am not offended or embarrassed by this question.... yeah, sure, some of us might have been pretty overweight once, maybe even obese, but when it gets to the point where people notice it, we've obviously come a long way, so why does it matter?
I totally agree. I'd feel proud as opposed to feeling offended. I wouldn't interpret the comment much as would rather see the glass half full.
Hee, I dyed my hair black and it's definitely not natural. Ooooops! My natural hair color is in my icon though.
When I was a kid, I always asked people their ages, until my mom told me it was incredibly rude. I couldn't for the life of myself understand why... I was 4 years old... and I LOVED telling people!
You should post a bunch of pics and ask us all what look good, Shy Moment!
I think I'm the only one here who doesn't find this to be a rude question! I WON'T answer how much I weighed before, but I will say how much I've lost. People, I've found, are genuinely interested and find it amazing when I tell them the total amount.
on my gosh Shirley you jest lol. I know don't call you Shirley lol. I take such horrible pics. I am just one of those people that the camera isn't kind to. lol
Shirley? Like... Shirley Temple? Laverne and Shirley? Is there something I'm missing?
You know how some folks say they've lost weight and nobody notices? I've had the opposite situation. Everybody notices. And most of them have said things to me. Co-workers say things several times a week. The maintenance man has "weighed in", no pun intended. The old man who owns the local deli said "what's going on with you? You're losing so much weight!" like I was sick or something. A co-worker told me another guy from the deli mentioned how "skinny that girl you work with" got. Mind you, I've still got belly roll and a huge behind, so all it makes me think of when they say stuff like that is was I really so big and didn't see it?
Anyway, the ladies I work with notice things. If I wear a pair of shoes they haven't seen me in, they say something.
Sometimes it's nice. Sometimes I want to tell people, quit eyeballing me and MYOB. I don't want you looking at my butt.
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Shirley? Like... Shirley Temple? Laverne and Shirley? Is there something I'm missing?
"Shirley" is a play on "surely." Have you ever seen the movie "Airplane"? There's a line in there like:
"Surely, you must be joking."
"I'm not. And don't call me Shirley."
Last edited by trekkiegirl; 09-04-2007 at 08:56 PM.
Ya, I don't mind telling people how much I weigh or how old I am either. This whole "Be coy about some fundamental facts abouts yourself" attitude has always baffled me. Especially the age thing. Yes, I'm 43. Yes, that is older than many other people. But why is that a bad thing. Growing older sure beats the alternative.
But if someone doesn't answer, a simple "I'd rather not share that, thanks." would suffice to shut down the nosy.
I usually don't mind sharing vital statistics about myself, however, being 5'11" I've always been asked things like, "Oh wow, your feet are HUGE! What size are they?" (they're 11½W). After a while you get a little sick of freak-show mentality.
Last edited by phantastica; 09-04-2007 at 10:16 PM.
It worked and got the point across with a bit of humor! 
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I don't want you looking at my butt. 
