[tomandkara]

Queenjane, you *do* have someone to tell - your kids!

My mother-in-law said to me in passing once that she wished she had realized she was gaining weight before it got out of control. It wasn't directed at me, she was just talking. She was maybe 135-140 when my husband and his brother were little and now she weighs over 200 for sure. She constantly eats fast food and gets little to no exercise and I didn't feel like it was my place to suggest anything for her, but I tell ya, every time the scale creeps up on me a couple pounds I try to reel it in quick-like before I end up twenty pounds heavier without having realized anything was going on.

So you do have an audience. And you don't even really have to *say* anything. Continue living your healthy lifestyle and you'll be a great example to the younguns!!!

Kara

[PinkHoodie]

I have to say, I agree with the people that have said they would have been offended. It really wouldn't help. My sister has recently lost a ton of weight, and its ALL she talks about. I think, especially those who have never really been over 200, really have NO clue how hard it is to lose so much weight. I think you would be better, being a quiet inspiration and helping those that ask for it.
*The preceding was MY opinion, and was not intended for people to get offended*

[queenjane]

I would like to reiterate that I said in my original post that I would never actually act upon my urge to talk to people about their weight. I am just seeing the thinner (but still overweight) me in some of these folks and wishing that I would've taken control of my weight then vs. now when I have so much more to lose.

[JayEll]

Hey queenjane,

Yes, I saw that you said that originally. I think it's so interesting how strong a response your comments got from people--I guess it shows that overweight folks are really sensitive about it! But you knew that.

I agree! I wish I had dealt with my weight problem years ago instead of losing weight and then gaining it back 'cause I thought I was "done."

Jay

[baffled111]

Jay! Congrats on making it to goal!!!

[JayEll]

Thanks baffled! :grin:

Jay

[Beach Patrol]

I wish I hadn't stopped exercising when I re-injured my shoulder. I wish I had just pushed through the pain, & kept up my routine, even if I had to down-play it a bit; still would have been better than stopping all together.

But wishing does nothing for me NOW. It's the NOW that I am concerned with the most. Even when hitting a stubborn plateau... it's better than gaining more weight....or worse - giving up altogether (which I admit I am dangerously close to doing! & THAT'S why I come here! So I won't DO that!!!!)

What really irks me is when someone who is much more overweight than me tells me that I "don't need" to lose weight. HA! - Who are they trying to fool? Just because I'm not 200 or 250 doesn't mean I'm at a healthy weight by any means. 160 pounds on my 5'3'' frame is ENTIRELY too much weight. FOR ME.

I try to be supportive no matter what someone's goal is, unless it's completely unhealthy - then I'd just say "That's completely unhealthy... but it's YOUR body, so do what you want with it."