[JayEll]

Remember, WE are the ones who are on a weight loss plan, not the rest of the world.

I personally would never even try to explain to someone "why" I didn't want the food. I would accept it and be gracious about it. After a few of these "Thanks--I'll take it home," the giver might be feeling secretly miffed that I'm not eating it right then and there, and then they might decide it's "not worth it" to keep bringing me things. Great! If they asked me straight out why I don't eat it, it's then easy enough to counter by saying, "Why is this a problem for you? I don't feel like eating it now."

Here is another example. I don't drink alcohol for a couple of reasons. On rare occasions, people I don't know very well will give me a bottle of wine as a gift. I long ago stopped refusing these gifts or explaining anything. I thank the givers for their kindness, and then I pass the gift along later to someone who will enjoy it.

Don't apologize, don't explain, don't try to change other people. Be gracious. Stay with your program.

Jay

[Mrs Quadcrew]

Don't apologize, don't explain, don't try to change other people. Be gracious. Stay with your program.

That is some excellent advice, I will hold onto that one.

[improbable]

I have a good friend who keeps telling me I'm "disappearing" - meanwhile I'm RIGHT in the middle of a healthy weight range and just trying to stay there, maybe lose another five. If I come over to her house having already eaten all of my calories for the day, and she offers a taste of her food, I'll take a bite but that's it. That's when I get the, "There's plenty here, you should have some..." No thanks, I'm done eating for the day. "You're disappearing!" with that weird sidelong webothknowthisisntgoodforyou look. *sigh*

[MariaOfColumbia]

The last time someone did this to me, I was biting back the reply, "It would be better for me to hit myself over the head with a hammer than eat this!"

But, I didn't. Just smiled and said no thanks, and the person finally remembered I was on a diet.

I like the "I'll eat it later" response, though. I may try that next time, if it isn't ice cream "cake" again. I can feed it to my chickens and turn it into an egg! w00t!