Really not happy at the moment, i had **** first day at work yesterday, i feel like i have PMS (but being on the implant that is virtually impossible) i.e. shouting, crying, shutting myself away all day for fear of biting someones head off. I'm not losing any weight, i have no motivation to try and lose any weight but i still want to, i can't sleep cos its too hot. Is there anything good happening at the moment and how can i motivate myself to exercise, Don't tell me to think about the results cos everyone has told me that and it doesn't work.
I have had much worse PMS symptons whilst on the implant (Implanon) than I have ever had before. Recently I bleed for 3 weeks before the dr prescribed me a hormone to stop the bleeding.
Neither the shrink me or looking at the fat celebs have made me feel anymore motivated. See i'm a lost cause, I'm doomed to be fat and stupid for the rests of my life. I got the results for my second year of uni today and i just scraped a 3rd.
Sounds like you probably won't agree much with what anyone says, but I'm going to give it a shot.
You need to cure what is wrong in the other aspects of your life to get to at least a moderate happiness before you start weight loss. If weight loss was the one major issue, you would want to do it... it may be hard, and you may fail and have to restart, but you would at least be trying it.
Find a friend to work on it with you if you are convinced this is what you want. The more stress you pack, the more you will feel worn down due to immunosuppression to a degree and you will likely have even more difficulty losing weight due to an increase in circulating cortisol.
Try to get the rest of your life under control and reduce your stress (maybe even though a yoga session geared for relaxation. After you gain success here, my guess is you will be much more willing and much happier.
So... what is the true problem you are having? Is it school?
Last edited by MalibuBeachBound; 07-15-2008 at 01:24 AM.
I completely agree with malibu. I have hit a brick wall with my attempts at weightloss. I've come to realize how unhappy I am, and that fact alone is what is pushing me repeatedly into that wall.
My health has been all over the place and my life a mess since I started working a full time dead end job.
I'm heading back to college to get some qualifications, so I can have a career that'll support my needs.
You should find things that make you happy...not food things, but say, horseback riding, reading a good book, bungee jumping, or just going out with mates. If you're unhappy, it makes it all the harder to lose the weight and to have the motivation to get going.
Chiming in with Malibu - you sound like you're pretty unhappy with things in general.
Make a list of things you enjoy. Make a list of things you do well. Make a list of things you want to change, or get better at. Break it down - stuff can seem overwhelming and hopeless, but when you break it down to small things, to small, manageable steps, life becomes a lot easier.
You say you just scraped a third - do you think that this is because the subject is one you find difficult, or were you not doing the best you could do? If the subject is one you find particularly taxing, can you break that down and think about ways to make it more manageable? Is it a case of grasping particular concepts or polishing particular skill sets? Who can you approach for help in getting it more under control? (Nightline should be able to point you in the right direction - that's their job.) ****, are you sure you want to do this course of study? Think about what all your options are - maybe you'd be happier doing another subject? If you do love your subject, then ask for suggestions to help you get better at what you're doing - approach tutors, or friends who are more successful and see if you can learn any skills or techniques from them.
As to the weight thing - yes, you do have to want to lose weight. You do have to be motivated. But you know, if you're really NOT feeling motivated about this, don't let the weight become another stick for beating yourself with. Maybe you need to put that on hold for a while, and work on being happier about yourself before you start on the whole lifestyle change thing. Weight and eating - this is such a messy, emotional thing, especially for women, and that can be destructive.
Look at the rest of your life and think about what positive choices you CAN make - what things you'd like to achieve, or try your hand at. It doesn't have to be something spectacular either - just venturing outside your comfort zone to try new things, or setting yourself some kind of small challenges. And start out with things you CAN achieve, successes you CAN have - even if it's just filing or laundry that's built up and needs dealing with, or setting aside some time to give yourself some kind of indulgence like a deep bubble bath with candles and a good book and a bowl of strawberries to nibble at.
Be kind to yourself.
As to exercise - how about changing your mindset and trying your hand at a whole list of different activities? Having a one-off go at tai chi, belly dancing, jogging, fencing, karate or whatever - make it into more of a game? Or if you like dancing, you could start going clubbing - if you're self conscious about your weight you could stick to gay clubs (assuming you're straight yourself) where you get to be outside the whole meat market thing, and just enjoy yourself.
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