Just checking in. Not much going on here. I'm working a 'split shift' this week and maybe next (11 am - 7:30 pm). Not that great, but better than getting up at 5 am. I was offered second shift, but turned it down because I would never see Hannah except for the weekends. I love second shift, and if she was grown, I would of taken it. It was a nice feeling, after all the trouble I have had at work, to be offered the shift and to feel I am really appreciated by someone. It's kinda interesting the lead on second shift told my lead on first he doesn't see where I'm struggling with my job. Maybe it's the atmosphere of another shift?? Maybe the fact I'm complimented on my work once in awhile instead of always critisized??
Well, I think I'm off to bed. Got the furnace repair people coming out to fix the furnace. Darn thing isn't working (again). Wonder how much that is going to cost (My dad is going to pay for it because I don't have the money, or else I would probably have to figure something else out for the winter).
Good morning ladies! Hope everyone is doing well and keeping busy.
KimV- split shift doesn't sound too awful. I only work part time from 5:45 to 11 (it's supposed to be just 7 to 11, damned mandatory overtime). I don't really dislike the hours too much, for me its just the job. I really am not cut out to lie to people on a daily basis and thats what I feel that I do! If I don't get myself fired by Christmas, I think I'll quit........okay I might quit on a whim if someone says the wrong thing to me. My husband justs laughs when I actually go to work and stay there. He expects me to just walk out one evening, LOL Hope the furnace man comes soon and gets your house warm. Normally I would think its too early for the furnace but this fall I am literally freezing. My old "layers" must of kept me warmer than I thought.
My daughter (she is 8) came home from school yesterday and told me her friends mom died. All she knew is that her friends mom didn't get a new heart. I feel bad because I didn't even know she was ill. Holly has been making a sweet little card for her friend. She is such a caring little girl but now of course she will worry about us dying for awhile now. 8 is just way too young for kids to have to deal with death.
Not much going on here, I am down to about 145 now..........no longer dieting, just losing still. This always happens when I get lazy about my walking (haven't done this in 3 weeks now) and quit worrying about my eating. Its like my body gets on a plateau and then its stunned when I quit trying so hard, LOL Well have a good one ladies and hope to hear more from you all!!!
How is everyone tonight? We just got back from Michigan, and it was not a happy time there like when we usually go. My husbands, Ken's sister, Carol is terminally ill with cancer. She has been battling this for over 4 yrs, she had a breast removed 3 yrs ago and has been getting radiation and chemo for years since than. But now it has spread and there is nothing more they can do. She has had all the treatment they can do, the last one, called The Red Devil, they did 2 times and it hasn't worked for her.
So now she is in Hospice and is not expected to live too much longer. So we went to Michigan with another sister, Janet that lives in Columbus, Indiana too. It was a really sad time, we wanted to see her while she was still alive and could talk to us. She wasn't the most alert, as she is on Morphine and other drugs for the pain. Ken has a really big family and we were all there all weekend with her. She is only expected to live a short while, the dr's said it could be 2 days or 2 weeks. She is only 57 yrs old and too young to die. I have been in this family for over 30 yrs and known Carol since we were both in our 20's and I just love her so much and it pains me to see how much they are all hurting.
The sad thing is that she lost her husband over 4 yrs ago of a brain anurism and not 2 months later they found the cancer. It has now spread to her live and lymph nodes and everywhere else. Her poor stomach is all bloated like she is 9 months pregnant, because it is so full of water and she is so weak and lost so much weight too. It was so hard seeing her like that, she did know who we were, but I don't know how she stands being is so much pain and I can only imagine what she is thinking because she hardly talks much, just one word here and there. She is seeing all these people, relatives and church people coming to say goodbye. My heart was breaking for her and her kids.
She has 2 children, a girl and a boy, both in their early 20's that really need her, they are both single and living at home. This is Ken's first sibling loss, unlike me that has lost my Mom and 2 of my brothers. One was murdered and the other, who lived with me just died July 15th. His Dad passed a way 5 yrs ago, but his Mom is still alive and we feel so bad that she will be burying her daughter, that is not natural to outlive your children as my Dad has with his 2 sons.
So this weekend, it was nice to see all my brother in law's and sister in law's but hard on us. We had to have a family meeting with all the legal and medical stuff and information about the will, providing for her kids and everything else it involves. They will have a tough time without her, but we will do the best we can to help them along. So we might be going back as soon as they call, which I don't look forward to.
Kim-It sounds like your shift is working out for the best for you and the people on your shift are appreciate you and all your hard work. Take care of yourself, I know you will.
TamiL-So sorry about your daughter's friends Mother. It must be especially hard for her being so young to lose her Mom. It is not fair at all for her friend to lose her Mom at just 8 yrs old. Life is sure not fair is it? Life is not fair, as I have found with my Sister In Law too, but I guess we don't get to pick and choose when we go. But that is sweet of your wonderful daughter to make that card for her friend.
Well hope to see more Wannabee's soon, take care everyone and talk to you later. Sharon
Sassy--My prayers are with you and Ken and family. I will add you to our prayer list at church if that is okay. If you need anything, or just want to talk and still have my number, call me, or email me.
Thanks Kim, for your post.We are headed tomorrow to Michigan to be with the family and for Carol's funeral. Got your sweet email and wrote back as well. Will see you and everyone else when I get back, will post than.
Sharon:
I am so sorry to hear of Ken's sister .. You both are in Dick's and mine hearts and prayers. I sent you both an email ... I would have sooner but haven't been on here for a couple days. Have a safe trip to Michigan - my love to you and Ken. Remember, you have a friend here if you need me for anything.
Sharon- So sad for your loss sweetie. You are in my thoughts right now.
I had a very teary morning yesterday. I was dropping my 8 year old daughter off at school and saw her friends father (the friend who just lost her mother last week) walking her to school......what really got me was he also was walking with a very young little boy holding his hand. I didn't know they had little ones. My older daughter told me thay have 5 children. Now 5 motherless children. It was just so darned upsetting to me and I don't even know them. I can't get it out of my mind. I so much want to help but I am a stranger to this family. Would it be impolite for me to ask if maybe I can take atleast the little girl (my daughters friend) for a sleepover and perhaps a shopping trip sometime over the next few months?
My husband says I should, but I have doubts. Mostly because they don't know me, but also because I really haven't ever dealt with death before and don't know how to approach people who are grieving. OK I admit I am a looney bird sometimes. This just really makes my heart ache.
Well gotta go and try to pretend I am a good housekeeper, LOL LOL LOL
No, I don't think there would be anything wrong with you inviting your daughters friend over. It probably would do her good to go about with some 'normal' kid activities right now.
When my grandma died, it helped for me to go on with my daily routines. Didn't always make it easier, but it helped. It also helped to know I had the love and support of my friends and church family. It sometimes bothered me to talk about my grandma, but gave me great comfort when someone I didn't know very well at church would come up and let me know they were praying for me, or sometimes just give me a hug. I don't know what it would be like to loose a parent since both mine are living, and I can't begin to imagine what it would be like to loose one as a child, but if I would die while my daughter was young, I would be thankful if someone like you showed how much she cared to my daughter.
Just popping in to say your group and the Jaded Ladies are mentioned in a national magazine, if you didn't already know it! First magazine, dated November 20th, says this on page 31: "Do you love a good laugh? So do the gals at 3fatchicks.com. And they aren't shy about speaking their minds on any diet out there. Plus, groups with a tell-it-like-it-is monikers such as the Jaded Ladies and Thin Wannabees bolster lagging willpower with strategies for fighting ever-present temptations."
Although I don't always agree with some of their fad diets, and processed-food recipes, I think it's really cool that our groups were mentioned.
Hi Jane and thanks for the info - I hadn't gotten the magazine yet but did so when you called. How cool is that! Our two groups mentioned in a national magazine! Hear that everyone?? We're FAMOUS!!!
Hope all is going well for everyone .. we were out of town for a couple days ... still going to Curves faithfully - my monthly weigh-in was yesterday - I am still only down 2 1/2 lbs but my total in inches is 12 inches!
Sharon - how did everything go downstate for you and Ken? Are you home yet? Post when you can.
Well, am very tired tonite so am hitting the bed early. We just got home from town - had to go see all the little trick or treaters in their costumes. They were all so darling.
We just got back from Michigan last night. It went well, but was so sad, she was only 57, same age as me, but now her suffering is over. Thanks CJ, Kim and TamiL for your condolences.
Jane-How wonderful that we got mentioned in that magazine, I will be sure to go out and buy it right away. Thanks so much for posting and letting us know about that. How are you doing? I hope you are doing well.
CJ-Way to go with going to Curves and even better on your weight loss and your inches off too. Thanks so much for the beautiful flowers you sent to the funeral home. It was so kind of you and Dick to do that.
TamiL-That sounds like a very good idea to invite that little girl over for a sleepover. I know she would love it, it sounds like she has been through so much. Let us know how it goes if you do have her over.
Kim-How is it going my friend? Work going alright? Are you still on the same shift? Hope all is going well for you and Hannah?
Well did everyone have a good Halloween? Hope you didn't get into too much of the candy. Now if I can just avoid picking up some of the half price candy they have at the stores than all will be well. Why oh why do they do that anyways?
Well take care guys and talk to you later, Sassy Sharon
Just a quick post before going to bed. I'm finishing up my second shift rotation this week, then back to day shift. I can't believe I'm going to say this, but I'm looking foward to going back to days! At least getting back into a normal routine again.
It is so cool that we are mentioned in a magazine. I have never heard of that magazine, but I'm going to try and find it and buy a copy just to have it.
Sharon--Glad your back. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers. I will try and email you when I have the time. I got midterms this week, and tons of homework to catch up on, so it may be awhile.
CJ--It's good to see you have the willpower to go to curves regularly. I can find every excuse in the book (no money, no time, school, etc) not to get involved in something like that. My mom keeps pushing me to join Curves or the YMCA (my preference), and the more she pushes, the more I resisit. My mom is a 'fat-a-phobic'. I never realized how much she is turned off by anyone overweight, and I think her feelings about that is what makes me resist doing anything about my weight. Doesn't make any sense does it?? I feel like she is ashamed of me at times because I am overweight. Oh well, I need to do this for myself, not for her, right?? Good luck and way to go!!
I went out and bought my copy of the Nov 20th "First" magazine Jane mentioned. The front cover is green and has a red banter on it saying "drop 43 lbs by Christmas". I had bought the magazine before, it is kind of like a Family Circle or Womens Day magazine. We are mentioned on page 31, under FIND THE RIGHT ONLINE SUPPORT FOR YOU! Here is a link to see what exactly what they said in case you want to sneak a peek. http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=96709
I feel it is an honor for our group to be mentioned in the magazine. Hope we get lots and lots of people joining our wonderful 3 Fat Chicks website and maybe some wonderful Newbies for us too.
KimV-I hope you do great with your midterms and ace them. Write when you get done with all you have to do, I can wait. I am glad you are getting back on the day shift if that suits you better.
Just popping in to say hi and hope everyone is having a great day so far. Just got home from Curves. Boy do we have SNOW! About a foot and 1/2 at the moment and still coming down lightly now.
Kim: You should join YMCA because you want to not because someone is pushing you to join. I'm sure your mom doesn't look down on you for being overweight - she probably is worried about your health being overweight. You can do it and you will - and when and if you decide to join the Y or a gym, it will be (and should be) because YOU want to do it for yourself. You can do this - and you know we are all here for you!
Well, let's hope we get some more chit chatting going on in here! How's your Thanksgiving plans going? It's right around the corner you know .. and then you know what comes after that!! I'll give you a big clue ... C _ _ _ _ _ _ _ S!!! LOL
Hi all! Just wanted to drop by and say hi. I used to belong to the group when it was still the Thin Group! I saw the name change a while back when I was lurking and then just last night I saw you name mentioned in the First magazine and thought I would drop in.
I don't remember my old login but I was Joanna Freeman back then and I met CJ at an Olive Garden restaurant in Michigan bakc in 1999. So much has changed since then epxcept my weight! I am glad to see CJ, Sharon, and Kim V are still here, but what happened to Jello? Keep up the good work!
