Cadwell-Look at the one hour with them as theater. You are watching a comedy about silly people and you will laugh later.
Theresa- does vitamin C work on your family? Sometimes it chases away the symptoms before they get a good chance to take hold.
I just shopped fpr food for us and to bring to my Mom on Thursday. I will cook easy to just warm up stuff for her because I worry about whether she is eating 3 times a day. We have help 3 mornings a week for 4 hours each day, but I don't think she is eating well on the other days. My sister takes her out Sunday evening so that's ok. I have 2 sisters and a brother so we can all pitch in to pay for more help, but my Mom is stubborn and won't agree that she needs more help than she has now. My mom is 88, and until 2 years ago she worked 6 hours a day. No one knew how ols she was cause she looks so good, but now she is suffering from mobility problems and short term memory loss.
My DH on the other hand, seems to have forgotten to let the dog out before he left, so I came in to a stinky poopy wet mess to clean. It's surely my fault, because I didn't remind him to walk the dog before he left. Silly me. I do think that is very much a guy thing, to not do anything around the house unless asked or reminded.
Laura
Ewww I hate those messes. My hubby is the same way, but I don't think he forgets most times...he chooses not to remember and knows he can say "BUT honey! You didn't remind me, so it's your fault too!" Sheesh, when do they grow up
I've been busy getting things ready to go. Focused so much on getting the house nice to come home too and realized I haven't packed yet but it's okay, there isn't a lick of dirty laundry anywhere so it should be easy to throw together a few days of clothing for each of us. I have to pack as light as possible because we are coming home with all our Christmas presents from my mom, a couple trash bags of clothes my sister's boys have outgrown (for Tyler), and who knows what else we will accumulate while there. My sis and I haven't decided whether we want to brave the post-Thanksgiving shopping crowds or not. I kinda would rather not do it this year, but she kinda wants to and no one else will go with her. If she still wants it, I will go and it will turn out to be fun. Would keep me out of the leftovers so might be a good idea!
Okay, I'm off to bathe everyone and get the kids to bed. Hubby should be home within a couple hours and we head our early, early in the AM. I probably won't go online until I am back, so talk to everyone probably Monday.
Melissa, have a happy day and good luck and wishes for the day after. i hope to hear that it turned out okay.
oh Laura, I also wanted to say you are wonderful to be there for your mother. My grandmother was similar, you would have never known she was sick in any way, so full of life and energy. Then suddenly she didn't feel good, the very next day was not able to get up, next day was in a wheel chair, and within a week could not get out of bed at all. It happened so fast it was scary, I was like 13 and didn't understand at all how she could be dancing one day and in bed the next. It's hard...hang in there.
have fun in ohio theresa!
laura, i think you are right about not doing anything unless reminded a guy thing. i remind dh to do things sometimes, and he still blames me when he forgets, and tries to say that i never said anything. men!
well this thanksgiving situation just keeps on getting better. not. sil1 did not want to go to the restaurant, and when i put my foot down, she told dh that he listens to me too much and doesn't care about what she wants, and that we had to do whatever she wanted because mil gave us the money. we never heard from sil2, but heard she went home to fresno, so i guess i won't have to deal with that one at least. grrrrr.
Cadwell- Hold your ground and go the restaurant. You certainly don't want to cook for these folks.
We are going to a restaurant cause I thought 2 of my sons were unavailable, both going to their inlaws. Today I discovered that neither in law family is doing it, and it was a big miscommunication. It's too late for me to do it, so they can join us, but no one is excited about eating out and especially driving far. I'll make better plans next year.
I will have some bread tomorrow and dessert. I'll make up for it by just doing breakfast and dinner. We won't have leftover since we are eating out.
I am here just been busy busy busy. I got paperwork from the new caseworker yesterday for court on Tuesday and it was also suggested I have a pic of Logan for the judge. I got mom's poloriod and got a pic and finished the paperwork up. It was bath day today for the kids so that was a process and a half-LOL. Got my pie made and it really wasn't my best effort I think. Maybe I am just way out of practice but it is just me and the kids and they don't know it isn't pretty. Still dealing with runny noses but at least josh went to school even though it was a half day today. Josh and Odessa haven't stopped fussing at each other since Josh got home so I do believe I have some kids who will go to bed early tonight.
Sorry about the inlaw crap. I would do what you had planned to do and if they don't like to too bad. I just don't understand why people have to be so stinky and especially on holidays when it is supposed to be a time of family and good times. I am kind of wondering how I am going to do all this cooking between the kids with no other adult in the house. It should prove interesting and we may not eat till 8p LOL.
I want to wish everyone a safe trip who is traveling and a wonderful Thanksgiving day! Remember what it is all about and focus on those wonderful things we have in our lives and the blessings we have. I will see everyone after the holiday-well maybe more like saturday since I have the girls other grandma and daddy coming for the day on Friday.
Melissa
thanks for the support everyone. we all went to thanksgiving and it was fine. everyone pretended like it never happened and was civil. whatever. i went over what i planned for calories but not by a grip, so that's good. i have been pretty low on calories for several days so i guess that makes up for it. the food was actually really good. i have never had thanksgiving at a restaurant, and it was a good surprise. dh didn't like it though. oh well.
hope everyone had a great holiday!
Our DIL deiivered a 36 week old perfect baby girl, stillborn, early Thursday morning. We knew there was no hearlbeat earlier in the day. She was induced and 8 hours later, the baby was stillborn. My family is in shock. This was totally unexpected. The pregnancy was an easy joyful time. My son and his wife are devestated and all our attention are on them. Her parents are staying with them. There will be a funeral on Monday. We are greiving for a child who never breathed, but for whom we waited with such happiness.
Laura
oh Laura how sad- my heart goes out to you and your family. I will pray for all of you-
I was going to chat about my day yesterday , but it seems trival after reading about your family's loss. I pray in this time of sadness your family can be together and comfort one another.
Sandi
I am so sorry to hear that, its is an awful time, children should never go first.
I finnaly have a bit of tiem to dail up and get on. Life is still crazyand hectic but I am looking forward to some quiet tiem this weekend. I will write more later on this weekend, I just wanted to say hello
Thank you for all of your kind thoughts. We will get through this because it must be endured.
Please go back to using this forum as we did before. I don't want anyone to not discuss the usual issues because of my distress. I most certainly appreciate and value and accept your support at this sad time, but I don't want to keep you all from posting and getting the support you need on this weight and food journey that we are all on.
This is one of the few times in my life that I can't eat, but it's not a good way to stay OP.
Again, thank you all.
Laura
Oh Laura, I am so sad for you and that little baby. I cannot imagine what it is to deal with as a grandmother...or as a mother who lost the baby she so waited and longed for...I will be praying for you both as well as the father and other family members. That is one of the hardest things to deal with and I am so sorry.
I had a great trip but am so glad to be home. I unwrapped my pilates soon as I got here and can't wait to make up a new exercise schedule and work it in. that will have to wait though because I have a never ending list of things that have to be done tomorrow so we can all start the week out on Monday, back to normal life.
I am really digging in and going hard core in exercise and food until Christmas. i was not a good girl while in Ohio and have to WI tomorrow to access the damage. I don't feel bad really, but can tell I've gained back a few pounds at least. I want to get it off and hopefully a couple mroe before Christmas so it's time to refocus and dig in there.
my fault, because I didn't remind him to walk the dog before he left. Silly me. I do think that is very much a guy thing, to not do anything around the house unless asked or reminded.
but it's okay, there isn't a lick of dirty laundry anywhere so it should be easy to throw together a few days of clothing for each of us. I have to pack as light as possible because we are coming home with all our Christmas presents from my mom, a couple trash bags of clothes my sister's boys have outgrown (for Tyler), and who knows what else we will accumulate while there. My sis and I haven't decided whether we want to brave the post-Thanksgiving shopping crowds or not. I kinda would rather not do it this year, but she kinda wants to and no one else will go with her. If she still wants it, I will go and it will turn out to be fun. Would keep me out of the leftovers so might be a good idea! 
We are all here if you need us.