Good morning all.
Derry -- glad you liked the thing I posted in the other forum. You were the only one who replied there although it looks like some people have given it a look. Anyhow, hope they like it. I find so many people who want to lose weight have horrible self-images of themselves. That is one thing I think I never had. Of course, I know how this happens. There are a lot of people out there saying very nasty things to overweight people, especially when people are young or have other issues, i.e. the more vulnerable ones are the ones who get more abuse.
Yes, I didn't actually think you were an all-too unwilling participant in the baking eating! But, real butter is not a problem. Not that is, if it were in lieu of something worse for you. Trans fats are the killers it appears and margarine is actually turning out to be worse than butter, you know! I suppose if there are any reduced calorie products on the market they will also be made with partially hydrogenated fats, which are what is so bad. So, you see, you weren't so bad after all.
I don't know, Linda, doing something for myself is harder. I mean "doing it for me" if it involves hardship, sacrifice, certainly doesn't feel like I'm doing it FOR me, does it? The longterm goal of losing weight, looking better, somehow that is too intangible. I think perhaps I need to feel worse about myself in order to get to that point. You see, I don't feel bad about being overweight really. It's like, oh, yeah, sure it would be nice to be lean and all, but this way is ok too. Any ideas on the psychology I could use to get to this other state?
Actually, though, I guess feeling better not eating sugar is a pretty good incentive in itself. I most definitely feel better off the stuff. I need something, however, that is going to get the weight off. Just cutting out the sugar is not going to do it. I was off it for a year and didn't lose. There are other good yummy things out there.
Well, Linda, your staying off chocolate is so good. I am really happy to hear that this is making you realize your own power of control. These are the kind of things that help us in other areas of our lives. In other words, it's not just chocolate!
happy -- hi there! Glad you liked that post too. How are you doing? That was just a flyby there, wasn't it. one that left us wanting to hear more from you! Come in when you have time!
jolly -- glad to hear you found some motivation to get to the gym. Yes, getting there is big in itself and even a little workout is better than none. I saw an TV program here the other day with a swimmer for the Paralympics. She was talking to some grade-school kids about pushing your limits and about the importance of support and encouragement from others. She had them all get in the pool and see how far they could swim. Some gave up after just a few meters. Then she asked each of them why they gave up and most of them just said well they decided they had decided beforehand that they just would when they reached a certain point whether they felt like they could go more or not, or they said that they would just give up when they felt like it. Then she had them write a swimming goal on a card, laminated it and put it on a string which they wore around their neck and had them swim again. Almost all could make their goal. A lot said it was really hard but they could hear the people cheering and they kept on. Some kids were crying because they said it was so hard, but they did it. Others were just so happy because they did something they never thought they could do. Anyhow, I'm thinking maybe I'll put a little card around my neck with my daily goal on it, and hear the cheers of all you people in my head! Uh, oh, sounding a bit strange here, aren't I?

No, but really, a card in my bag or so, or in the house might be good. Maybe you could try that with your workouts even if it is just going for one minute longer or so.
Ok, people, well, I had no goals set up for this morning and don't think I want to trudge to the gym before work. I could but it's snowing heavily outside and I think I'll keep my head in until I have to get to work. I think the subways are less in danger of being stopped by the snow, whereas if I go by train from the gym, as I'd have to, that line often is delayed.
Catch you later. Wishing you all the best!