Hi,

I'm so happy to see this thread here! I tried to revive it a while back but it fizzled out. Hope you don't mind if I pop in once in a while.

I have to run but I will come back & read all posts to catch up!

Lynn

hey there singles! welcome to all the newbies! it is good to have some fresh blood. i haven't been on the computer for a bit. life has been so hectic! i think i am beginning to wear myself too thin because i am feeling crappy.

my story is i'm almost 39 and single. i have my best friend and sort of child (a dog) molly of 11 years. i work two jobs and i'm in the middle of trying to sell a home so i can move to my parents house they gave me. i am also trying to do some remodeling, so that is why i am so pooped. i've already decided i'm taking a day off tomorrow to get some rest. to add to all this hecticness, i am eating like crap. i am in a downward spiral that does not seem to have an end. how do i get it to stop????

sheriava/redballoon - i think the harder i work the more i have to do. it seems neverending!!! i'm sure we'll all get back to posting regularly. i will give it an effort to check in at least every other day.

have a happy humpday!!!
kathy

Hello and welcome to all the new people. I have been away this week on business but am not back with a new attitude. I am ready to put forth the effort to give life and happiness another try. Like everyone, I could use all the support I can get. For now I just need to get some sleep. I just "love" jet lag.

Hi there, corning, shyangel, wiser. Glad to see there's a little action around here. I too have been incredibly busy and with some other health problems have not felt like posting. Feel bad about that but . . .

Mentally I wish I could get back in the gym swinging but physically I can't hack it. I guess that's a good sign though. Things neve get back together all at once, do they? The stress and worries on the work front are incredible and these, I'm sure, are the reasons behind my health problems. I always say the health is most important but I find myself walking a tightrope waiting for something to give and when it does, well, it's too late to save yourself the fall. Mentally, knowing that everyone around me is being pushed beyond their limits is very scary. We have a "consulting" company come into the office and they are holding "meetings" for hours on end with management. We workers are left with no one to turn to. Problems, staff shortage, work overload, it's all piling up and there is absolutely no help in sight. This company is supposed to stay for another three months. I don't really know what they're about. I think it's part of a takeover that is being kept from everyone. It's very scary and the management seems to be allowing themselves to be totally dictated too so I guess they have no choice, which makes the takeover the likely scenario. I wish so much I could find other work but nothing I do turns anything up and, being in the midst of massive workloads, I don't have the time or energy to do all that much searching. Wish me well, people.

Weight loss is the last thing on my mind, though nutrition shouldn't be. It's just that all I want to do is hide. . .

Hi all - is there room for one more? I am happy to find this thread, because like Debbie, all the "DH" references make me feel left out.

My story: I am 40 years old, a registered nurse. I own my own mortgage for a small house built in 1947 in the suburbs of Minneapolis/St. Paul. I have three cats, two guinea pigs and a couple goldfish ( I was a veterinary technician in my former life). I am not thrilled about being alone, but I'm okay with it all the same. I am like SheriaVa in that I really like my alone time - probably because I grew up in a family of 10 kids and there was precious little "alone time" growing up! I have a significant amount of weight to lose (somewhere in the neighborhood of 200 lbs) but am determined to whittle it away.

Thanks for "listening" and I hope to be a regular.

Janet

Janet, hello there! Glad to see you. There's been very little action on this thread so maybe you can help liven things up. I have cats as well, four of 'em, strays and hit and runs. Got a horse as well, that's killing me trying to scrape together the money to keep. But I do want to keep her so much. What kind of weight loss plan are you following, if any? Are you just starting out trying to lose? I don't have as much to lose but it's just as hard I think, if not harder because even when you try hard nothing seems to budge. Besides people don't notice it because clothes hide so much, but I know it's there, the fat that is.

Heh, just saw your post and wnated to say heh! Welcome.
Gotta run. Bye for now.

hey everyone! welcome janet! sorry i disappeared again! i had a bad call thursday nite. my best friend of 25years mother passed unexpectedly so i had to pack up suddenly and drive to connecticut. it was a very long 3 day weekend. i am home and destressing today.

i had to drop my dog at the vet this morning to have a few cysts removed so i am up early so i thought i'd check in. i guess it depends on how she does if i go to work tonite or not.

i had a lot of reality checks over the weekend. unfortunately sometimes it takes a tragedy to realize some things. i really need to start focusing on my health better. my weight is slowly creeping and i am having more trouble with my knees and back. sometimes i can barely move and i know the weight is bogging me down. i also have gotten away from exercise and that is tightening me up. i have to really focus on both with a renewed vengance.

well, enough whining from me. how is everyone else doing? i will check back later.
kathy

Hey girls.. how r u's? Sorry for the delay in reply. I haven't been too well. I have bad ear infections and throat infection too. I got the week off work which was good, since it was my first holiday since I started working there a year ago, shame it had to be from being sick. It's almost 11pm, I was just coming on before I head off to bed, as I start back at work tomorrow 7am. I have lost a little weight, bout 1kg, mainly due to not eating a great deal over the last week. Once I get rid of my infection I want to get back into a routine. Well provided I'm not at work for a 12 hr day, then I think all I'll be doing is sleeping.

Wishing you all well. Talk to you soon

hey singles! how's things going? ok here. have to go back to work today unfortunately. it was nice having 4 days off, but the circumstances to get the days off wasn't so good.

i started the WW core diet today. i need to get my back side in gear. i actually think it is a workable plan. as soon as my knee and back feels better i will start walking again. i have an appt with a back specialist on the 4th of oct. this thing with my right arm falling asleep all the time is driving me insane.

redballoon- i was looking at the locations of people posting. i never noticed you were in tokyo. do you like it there?? maybe someday i will get to travel but for now i just have to ask about other places.

well, i am going to do a little surfing. have a good day!
kathy

Hey ladies. I have had a bad few weeks. Been feeling down, slacking on exercise, treating myself a little too much to "goodies" (though always single-serving goodies except for one occasion), and generally feeling resentful that "this" (eating healthy, exercising regularly, losing weight, etc.) is so damned hard. I go through these cycles where I feel down and feel sorry for myself and then I get back on track. I'm at that point now where I am attempting to recommit myself to the journey. I never did fall back on my healthy eating (other than a few too many goodies here and there), but I have really blown off a lot of exercise in the past 2-3 weeks, so that's what I'm focusing on...getting up at 5 a.m. and getting it done. That, and trying to give myself an attitude adjustment so I can be more positive again.

Hi all,
I was just sitting here trying to talk myself out of a binge and decided to log on, get caught up and hopefully the feeling will pass. I have been the perfect dieter for almost 5 weeks and don't want to blow it now. I know I should plan in treats every now and then, but if I start "treating" myself I have a hard time stopping, then I am back where I started. So thank you, dear singles, for saving me from myself!
In answer to your question Red Balloon (can I call you Red?), I am following WW Points. The Core plan looks interesting, but the points have been working for me and I don't trust myself to stop when I am full, as the Core plan requires. I'm not losing as quickly as I would like, but then a slower weight loss helps the skin keep up, or so I've heard. And I'm terrified that the loose skin in my upper arms will never go away. I swear to God if I wave my arms really fast, the loose skin hanging down will allow me to take flight (if I don't knock myself out first)! Oh, well. I'll worry first about the fat, then the skin...one hurdle at a time.
And I can relate, Sheriava, I hate exercise with every fiber of my being (and I have ALOT of fibers!). I always liked to get it over with in the morining before work, but now with fall setting in it doesn't get light until 6:30 and I need to be to work by 7:30. I live in a fairly safe neighborhood and could probably walk on the dark safely, but...just take it a day at a time and concentrate on one thing at a time. Every little bit helps.
If you guys want a kick in the butt, I stumbled across another 3fatchicks forum that was really inspirational for me.
It's on: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=46773
It was about one member who was going through a hard time, but the responses from others in the same boat, and we are all in the same boat, really helped put things into perspective for me. Maybe it would help you too...

Janet, I completely understand your fear about not being able to stop, but I've been at this for almost a year and a half now and I truly believe that it is absolutely necessary for us to plan in treats now and then. I know, for myself, that there is no way I would still be going at this well beyond a year if I had not allowed myself these treats. The thing that always made me fail in every other weight loss attempt before was that I was too strict and felt I had to be "perfect" and not eat anything "bad" and now I have completely reworked my mindset about that, and it works a lot better. Just a thought!

Yea, I'm in a similar situation in that I need to be to work at 7:30 so, for me, workout time needs to start at 5-5:30 a.m. I have tried walking outside in the pitch dark in the past and it freaks me out, so I am very resistant to doing that on a regular basis. I mostly do exercise DVDs at home like Leslie Sansone's Walk Away the Pounds and Tamilee Webb's I Want That Body for my morning exercise.

Hi all! It's nice to see so many posts here. I've been too busy and too out of focus to check in here. I've gotten off plan once again and am just now coming up for air. It is so hard to do the right things time and time again after so many attempts with so many failures. I do get tired of trying but I know I have to keep doing so. I'm also tired of not living and hiding so I cannot surrender to the fat person I see on the outside.

Gotta go for now, but will definately be checking in more often and trying to stay more focused. Thanks new single friends!

Hi everyone,
I was able to fight off the binge last night and am feeling pretty strong . Tomorrow is weigh in, so that always is an added incentive, even if it is shallow and superficial! I've taken the last two days off of exercise, but tomorrow is the first day of the new week. A friend and I have a deal going where we have to exercise 5 days a week and for each time we don't exercise we have to put $10 in a pot and at the end of the month we have to trade pots. So far it has kept us both honest and active, and any motivation in any form is great for me.
Eating is going well too, but I made the mistake of cooking a turkey breast on Sunday so I have had turkey for lunch and dinner every day since then. Hopefully, it should run out after tomorrow's lunch. That's the downside of cooking for one. I hate to waste food so when I cook something I end up eating it for days until it is gone. I also freeze alot,but some things just don't freeze well.
Anyway, just wanted to say hi and see what everyone was up to. Have a good day and keep strong!!

Janet, I know what you mean about cooking for one...it is a real pain sometimes b/c I too get sick of the food before it is gone and I hate to throw it out as well. That's a pretty clever plan about the pot. It would be good incentive for me!