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CBETA 12-02-2005 03:28 AM

HI,
I am CBETA and this is my very first post.
I am almost 28 year old (turning this month) and currently single. During normal week I work fulltime, and often can stay at work way past the hours, as I simply don't want to be home alone. Yet, even when I am at home, I am mostly reclining or laying down with my laptop. I do not own a tv and that's a consious choice to avoid sitting in front of it, but over the last few months I noticed that I have hard time letting go of my computer.
I am a very social person and I'd hate to spend my life alone, I love life and it is a waste of time how I spend it now. For years I've said I need to change, and I had other attempts, one of them quite sucessful, but even then I managed to destroy it. In two years I will be 30, I am scared. Looking at a big picture it is important for me to be loved and be with someone. So the answer is yes I need to make a change.
Furthermore over the last 4.5 years I've had multiple injuries: I broke my left ancle and torn liagements in the left knee very badly in 2001, this year in August I fractured my right foot, and just yesterday I slipped and fell again bruising and may be fracturing my left foot. My legs cannot carry my body weight, I need to do something fast.
Over the last few days I've read a lot post and threads on this forum and is inspired to begin my recovery.
In the forthcomming days I will tell you more about myself (yes, I do believe in openess).
Currently my weight is 271 pounds.
My ideal weight is around 140 pounds or slightly below it.
My 1st step as I understand is to loose the 30 pounds that I gained back. I think it is a doable goal by end of January.
The 2nd step I think I'd like to make is be uder 200 pounds. And knowing that it will take a lot of work I am willing to allocate until June 1st, 2006 (i.e. a few days before my sisters graduation and my next visit home)
My major problems are:
a. Return to drinking 3 16.8oz bottles of water per day at the minimum. (one in the morning, one during the workout, one after workout)
b. Go to the gym for approximate 1.5 hours at least 5 times a week. My plan has been to visit the gym daily, and if I cannot make it it is my free day. On average in 3 weeks I would be in the gym for 16-17 days
c. No food after 7pm. That includes no food when visited by friends after 9pm (very important, as that made me gain most of that 30pounds)
d. Lunch prep by me rather than bought at the cafe at work (important by I will introduce that as last step) in the mean I will try to watch what I choose for lunch.
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I did read up on some challenges, and I will move this list into appropriate ones once I figure out what goes where.

But my most important message, I am glad to be here and I look forward to working with you.

p.s. I live in San Jose and if anyone is local I'd love to meet and perhaps workout and/or support each other.

annie175 12-02-2005 08:01 AM

Boy have I been blonde all week, couldn't remember my log in, duh, then it came to me as I was reading posts. Must have too much on my mind.

No exercise and sucked on eating all week.

Holly - you are a TRUE inspriation.

Susie - get thru the rough spots on the new job and things will be smooth sailing.

Girlie - good to see you posting again. Missed you.

Welcome to the newbies. Great place as you can tell by reading the wonderful posts by all the marvelous ladies here.

Debbie - Hidee Ho!

Hello to all I missed.

Have a wonderful weekend.

(((HUGS)))

Annie

Hollyhock 12-02-2005 09:34 AM

Cbetta~ hugs and welcome!!! When I was your age I tossed caution to the wind and started a home business. I was also single but made the decision to enjoy it. There is a joy ansd bliss in solitude in havng your space. Some days I long for it now.I also have had a series of knee anke and foot injuries in my 20's. I worry too about my weight and the future impact.

UPS~ I say it counts but only because i often do the same. it sure feels lke exercise.

Annie angel~ Hi
Ded~ how goes it today?
Girlie~ y'all come back now!
Susie~ hugs

Both cats are climbing on me. I have already done an hour of shovelling. Kids are home, PA day, teachers interviews. I really want to go but the roads are BAD. Yesterday was quite peaceful. I got niggles done. Hubby is grumpy. sigh.
I have been drifting back to my sandwich for breaky, sandwich for lunch, sandwich for snack routine. I started better yesterday but had a mini frozen pizza for lunch topped with olives, arrtichoke and swiss cheese.Tomato sauce on WW pasta with fresh veg for supper and then a cookie. Not great at all.

Girlie 12-02-2005 11:02 AM

Good Morning, Ladies. I hope all of you have had a few smiles so far this morning. It's Friday here at our small office and someone brought in butt rock ballads from the late 1980's. Heehee. How fun. Warrant is on.

I skipped yesterday, but so far I've gone to the gym every morning this week so far. I think LOL. Long week. Oh, yes I did go Monday because I didn't go Sunday. Not bad. I'm proud of myself. I'm weighing tonite. I didn't notice any loss on the scale this morning naked, and I'll be wearing my skirt and sweater when I weigh so I don't see much difference...but I feel very good and that's what matters to me right now. Three successful weeks of working out regulary. I haven't changed my eating much except to try to not snack.

I made a great Caesar salad last night. I love Caesar. But it's SO fattening. It tried not to use too much dressing. Anyone know of a GOOD TASTING, lite Caesar dressing?

Holly:
Hope you are doing well. I'd love to be able to have coffee with you some day - I can see us chatting up a storm together!

UPSwife:
Great job! I feel like it's hard NOW...let alone with little kids in the picture! Kudos to you on a great day! And HELLO to you - I haven't met you yet. :)

Debbie:
I love your "strange" menu. Whatever it takes to stay OP, right? It's good to have that variety! Bagels and cream cheese are yummy but can be a killer. I found these great Thomas' Bagels that are whole grain and have around 7g fiber each. I admit that my cream cheese is not "light", but I don't spread it very thick and I enjoy every bite and am satisfied until lunch. BTW, we watched about the first 15 mins of "March of the Penguins". It's delightful. And it's narrated by Morgan Freeman".

upswife 12-02-2005 11:48 AM

:welcome3: CBETTA The ladies here are really supportive and it has really helped me the last couple of weeks!

Holly and Girlie~~Thanks so much for the encouragement. It can be very difficult trying to lose weight when I don't always get the time to exercise, or feel like making two different dinners for me and the kids. (DH usually eats whatever I make, so thats nice)

Today is going well, I got up early to exercise (1hr) and my cleaning is well under way. (yay!) I would like to take the kids out for a walk, but it is in the teens so I don't know if I will or not.

Weigh in is tommorrow and I alredy have lost a pound, so we will see if any more will come off. Keep your fingers crossed that I can stick to plan today

Debbie 12-02-2005 08:02 PM

Good evening chicks,
I had a great day. I ate op, and walked plenty on my job. It was freezing this am but warmed up nice. We just start peeling layers as the day goes by.
When I punched out I was down to a short sleeve t-shirt.
I've got a pre-decorating cleaning planned this w-end. From ceiling to floor wall to wall. I told the boy's we are even taking down pictures and doing the wall.
I have rough cut wood paneling and it tends to catch dust. The hardest part is cleaning my 308 shot glasses. Sounds like we are drunks, but I'm just a collector.

upswife: I know you are going to be pleased when you WI tomorrow. :carrot:
Great job doing an hour of exercise. You've been working hard and it will show.

Girlie: Hey, Let me know if you find a good lite caeser dressing. I really love it
In the summer I made grilled chicken caesar salads a lot.
:cp: You should be very proud of yourself!! You'll see the pay off when you weigh.

Holly: That pizza sounds so good YUMMM

Annie: My 22 year old male co-worker is always picking at my grey hair and telling me it has to be platium blonde...LOL

cbetta: :welcome2: I glad to see you have a clear plan. Try to keep goals small. It's truly one day at a time.
You are making a good move starting now because believe me it does get harder the older you get. We are here for you.

Susie: :hug: TGIF

Phoesarah 12-03-2005 03:33 AM

hi
 
Hi im 24 5'4 and 230 pounds. im not married im all alone. i havent started a diet yet, I havent started anything but im kind of sick of being fat and getting out of breathe. but its hard to stop eating because i get bored or lonely and really theres NOTHING ELSE TO DO. and excercise is hard, im depressed on weekend i sleep for about 17 hours just because i cant wake up. Please dont say just do this, or just get up, or just stop eating. Can anyone give me any real advice?

Thanks.
-Sarah

Debbie 12-03-2005 09:59 AM

Sarah: Putting your feeling here is a great start. Start with small steps.
like drinking more water, it flushes out the toxins. Exercise can be really hard at first, so try parking in place where can sneak in a short walk. and there is no other way to say this but you really need to get up more on the w-end.
I Know it might seem impossible but you can do this. Just don't set goal that are so hard to reach that you give up. For example set a goal of drinking a couple extra glasses of water, Walking in your home for 10min 2x a day, Try the WALK AWAY THE POUND video. look for the basic one. It is easy steps just do a little of it and work up to the whole workout.
Also if you drink soft drinks try switching to diet.
There is some one posting on this site all day. Stay in touch we are here for you.
I know how hard it is Sarah. I'm 50 and have struggled with my weight all my life.
REMEMBER BABY STEPS...but take the steps. You wont regret it.

YOU ARE WORTH IT...:hug:

Debbie 12-03-2005 10:06 AM

Sarah: I have a challenge for Dec to exercise 3x a week. I invite you to join my challenge by walking 10 min 2x a day 3 x a week.
Have you ever considered curves. I go and it's easy. since I joined in march.
I lost 36lb and 34 inches. I'm also doing Weight watchers on-line so that has helped.

Phoesarah 12-03-2005 01:43 PM

hi
 
debbie, im intimidated by gyms. i went to one that my work has a deal with that i can get for very cheap and i was going to join it. but i dont know i just didnt. And i dont drink soda i dont really drink anything, im afraid to drink the tap water at my house eww. so i buy bottled water but when i run out i have gotten into the habit of drinking herbal or green tea all day with splenda or sweetnlow.

Hollyhock 12-03-2005 02:04 PM

HUGS Sarah. I am 5'4", weigh 230 and I am 40(ack). I have beena t this for a.,ong time it seems but not giving up has helped me. I start over every so often. Keep posting and reading and somethtimes something just clicks. Make I change at a time. Like :week 1, eat 5 veg a day, week 2, eat 5 veg a day a 8 glasses of water. Be kind and forgiving to yourself. Find an acticity you like for on the weekends. when I was sinlge I went out to aqua fit and yoga.Did a lot of dancing around in my apartment by myself too( to good tunes, of course).

Hollyhock 12-03-2005 02:05 PM

PS it is 22F here today ladies brrrrrrrrrr

Debbie 12-03-2005 02:58 PM

I'm sitting here listening to the scanner. We have several large grass fire close. DS is a vol fireman so he's out there...:flame:
I worry too much.


Sarah: Good afternoon, Glad you stopped back in.
I hate gyms also that why I picked curves. There no sexy gym bunnies there or staring hunks..Oh I have that wrong no hunks to stare at...LOL
But I realize it not for everyone. It's just important to move somehow. I say what ever works.
:bravo: good job with the water.

Holly: Hey girl! how are you?

Phoesarah 12-03-2005 03:02 PM

Well i should get my 6 week body makeover kit soon so im going to start as soon as i do. I ordered it on ebay on monday and the guy said he mailed it out tuesaday so im hoping it comes today. And then i will start! and i will join your challenge of 3 times a week 20 minutes a day too. I will start walking my dog instead of just leaving her to run around with a chain out back. she will enjoy that.

Debbie 12-03-2005 03:03 PM

Holly: It's in the 80'sF
I have the windows open airing this place out. We will cool to the mid50'sF
tomorrow. Enjoying it while we can.

Phoesarah 12-03-2005 03:07 PM

Woohoo right after i typed that i went outside to check because earlier my dog was barking and there it was waiting for me on the doorstep!! so tonight im goign to go shopping and sunday i will make food and monday i will start my chaleneges and doing it yay!:carrot:

Debbie 12-03-2005 03:13 PM

Sarah: I think I did the 6 week body make over a few years ago. I just wasn't ready to commit. I had to reach 300 before I decided to try again. I think it was a good plan. I just didn't stick to it. I threw it away when I was cleaning out my closet. I would love to have all the money I've wasted on trying to loose weight. It was always ME that failed. I just didn't stay focused.
Enjoy your walk with your furrbaby.

Debbie 12-03-2005 03:15 PM

Sarah:

YOU GO GIRL :carrot:

Hollyhock 12-03-2005 04:05 PM

I am here!! All is well.
Hubby and I have been at it in a quiet war of wills but he seems to be coming around to the wiser side, LOL!!!:devil:

I broke out in hives this morng and took a bendryla nd then I napped but DD kept climbing all over me. I asked her to leave about a hundred times. She then told she just loved me to much to go......brat>>>connned me and it worked. i did the farmers market til noon. I have a friends daughter for the nihgt. She is a sinlge mom wioht no family to give her a break. I take her daughter once a year for a weekend. Good kid. We were preggers together.
Sunday School christmas lunch tomorrow and then Avon follow up calls. Mega orders to put in online.
I am clearing tables a wedding in town at 6:30, our church is catering. I cant wait to see dresses etc.

Food has been random. It is the least of my worries this week. No binging but content is not great.
HUGS ladies.

upswife 12-03-2005 07:04 PM

Wow, Everyone has been on this weekend. I don't think I have read this much in a long time. I did weigh in, but we had pizza yesterday for dinner. I did not gain, but I did not lose either (I think it is the salt). I stayed op today, and have had 80oz of water. Did not exercise, but went to work, had a pretty quiet day. Plenty of walking(and sitting):comp: Have to run and get kiddie ready for Sunday!

Phoesarah 12-03-2005 09:45 PM

Hi, Does anyone have a family of five to loan me? Because i just went to the grocery store and i bought enough food for them.

Debbie 12-03-2005 10:00 PM

Sarah: I'll give you my 27 year old son. He also loves to sleep a lot...LOL
He eats like a big man but he's a 155lb'er Just send a self adressed envelope
and he all yours...:rofl:

Upswife: That water will pull that sodium out. Just don't get discouraged.
You'll really drop next time. I ate pizza also.

lucky_me 12-03-2005 10:29 PM

Hello everyone! I was wondering if I could join you, I am currently at about 205- I have been going up and down a few pounds, the closest I have gotten has been about 203. I have just been stuck at a few pounds above that 200 lb mark. My goal before the new year is to hi 190 but I know that hitting 199 would be a major milestone and would give me the motivation to drop the last 30+ pounds.

I started LA weight loss a little over a month ago and I have lost a little over 16 pounds but the last couple of weeks, I just CANNOT seem to get any lower. I have been kicking my own butt with exercise the last few days and I haven't noticed a change yet. :)

Phoesarah 12-04-2005 12:15 AM

Debbie, Ill take him! Is he cute? perfect age, perfect sex, and he will eat my cooking Where do i send the envelope? :joker:

CBETA 12-04-2005 12:15 AM

Originally Posted by Phoesarah:
Hi im 24 5'4 and 230 pounds. im not married im all alone. i havent started a diet yet, I havent started anything but im kind of sick of being fat and getting out of breathe. but its hard to stop eating because i get bored or lonely and really theres NOTHING ELSE TO DO. and excercise is hard, im depressed on weekend i sleep for about 17 hours just because i cant wake up. Please dont say just do this, or just get up, or just stop eating. Can anyone give me any real advice?

Thanks.
-Sarah

Sarah, I totally understand what you are saying.
Once a month I give myself a lazy Sunday.
Just the same I stay in bed, and sleep and/or watch movies entire day. I allow myself to veg out yet not eat during that same time.
The rest of the days I make a plan: how? during the week starting with Wednesday I ask myself what are my "must do" things like cleaning and other choares. Then I outline when i plan to do them, next step I figure out a set of friends I want to go do something with, and preplan that. This way I have a reason to get out of bed on the weekend.
There also helpful challenge threads like a 21 day, I don't think it will be a bad idea to give yourself a challenge to get up and get dressed by a certain hour for 21 days. As they say, after 21 days it becomes a habit...
Good luck and I'd be happy to tell you ore.
I am alone myself, but have quite a big number of married friends, it is painful to see them, yet I know one day when I loose the weight i can too be with someone. I've been with a few great man, and one of them is my ex, who is just a friend. If I'd started this back then, may be he would not be waiting for his Russian Bride now (fyi we are both russian)
CBETA
p.s. i saw him today... it is sad, i can see he cares and missess but my weight is turning him off.... :-( (may be I am wrong, but I'd like to believe that was the only problem that lead to the series of others, such my innability to wear sexy clothing or take a long walk in the park and ect.)

Phoesarah 12-04-2005 12:17 AM

Hi lucky! :wave: congratulations on your 16#s lost you will be under in no time! keep working at it! your body probably is just gaining more muscle while losing fat because you are working out so its kind of balancing out. but building muscle is good :smile:

Phoesarah 12-04-2005 12:30 AM

Originally Posted by CBETA:
Sarah, I totally understand what you are saying.
Once a month I give myself a lazy Sunday.
Just the same I stay in bed, and sleep and/or watch movies entire day. I allow myself to veg out yet not eat during that same time.
The rest of the days I make a plan: how? during the week starting with Wednesday I ask myself what are my "must do" things like cleaning and other choares. Then I outline when i plan to do them, next step I figure out a set of friends I want to go do something with, and preplan that. This way I have a reason to get out of bed on the weekend.
There also helpful challenge threads like a 21 day, I don't think it will be a bad idea to give yourself a challenge to get up and get dressed by a certain hour for 21 days. As they say, after 21 days it becomes a habit...
Good luck and I'd be happy to tell you ore.
I am alone myself, but have quite a big number of married friends, it is painful to see them, yet I know one day when I loose the weight i can too be with someone. I've been with a few great man, and one of them is my ex, who is just a friend. If I'd started this back then, may be he would not be waiting for his Russian Bride now (fyi we are both russian)
CBETA
p.s. i saw him today... it is sad, i can see he cares and missess but my weight is turning him off.... :-( (may be I am wrong, but I'd like to believe that was the only problem that lead to the series of others, such my innability to wear sexy clothing or take a long walk in the park and ect.)


Well i dont have ANY friends so its hard for me to make plans, I have one friend that i dont realy like though. I dont like many people. You shouldnt worry about that guy, if he is worried about your weight he should try to support you and be with you and try to help you. Because working alone is a lot harder than having someone help you, and it takes longer. Well when you get The body that you want and feel good about yourself and sexy, he will look at you and want you back, and at that time you can tell him hes shallow. because really the only difference between a friend and a boyfriend is sex, so he cares about you but wont.... you know... or .do anything physical because hes not attracted to you. So when he is you can just tell him that you want to just be friends because its worked out so far. Ive tried waking up in the morning, its hard. im sorry i go on rants sometimes and say things that dont make sense. im probably saying m ean things about him that will upset you or someone else and i dont even know him so just dont worry about it. :crazy:

CBETA 12-04-2005 12:36 AM

Originally Posted by Phoesarah:
Well i dont have ANY friends so its hard for me to make plans, I have one friend that i dont realy like though. I dont like many people. You shouldnt worry about that guy, ...

I hear you.
If you have 1 friend that you do not even like, I think it is a perfect time to find some new ones. Seriously. 1 is not many, even 2 is not many!
i think you will feel better about yourself, if you are not alone... just think about it for now.
As far as him, he is not all bad, he is trying to help with what he can.
For exmaple tomorrow we are going mushroom picking. yes yes, a long walk... yet I know and I think he knows that he is the only person I would go on such adventures with. 2 weeks ago we went on a walk at the Angel island... he helps me get out and see beatiful nature, plus takes absolutely beautifil picktures of stuff and the best shots of me...

Phoesarah 12-04-2005 01:59 AM

Cbeta, Yes i agree i should have more friends, but im picky and people dont really like me. But thats good that hes helping you and going on walks with you. I have NEVER had a friend that did ANYTHING with me. nothing like that anyway, only bars and bad things. or just hanging at home. No one ever did anything with me. My ex boyfriend was an idiot he never went out EVER. I dont think we ever went on a real date except for dinner once or twice. but other than eating we never did anything else together. no movies, no nothing. and when i do have friends they are the same way. I dont know.

Debbie 12-04-2005 12:29 PM

Good morning everyone, We finally got our cold front. Our weather is crazy.
They go that big grass fire out, I'm glad. We had our important stuff ready to evacuate. Glad that wasn't necessary.
We plan to just veg-out today. Till dh leaves for work this evening then I plan a big cleaning on the living room. It got put off yesterday.

Lucky_me::welcome3: Glad to have you. Congrats on you loss so far.

Sarah: Friendship can't be forced or faked. You will find someone who you like and like you, but just try to get out some to find them.
Dang it! ds not wanting to move. sorry...LOL
Somehow I always thought kids grew up and left home..Not
He left while he was married for 3 yrs then came home after his divorce and seems settled in for a long stay.


Everyone have a great Sunday.

MyChoice2bfit 12-04-2005 05:47 PM

Hello,
It was a very busy week for me in my new position at work. I feel like I have information overload! I survived the first week and felt like I had a better sense of what to do than I did on Monday, so I'm declaring it a success.

I didn't have success on the scales. I wasn't surprised, anytime that I feel under stress I show a gain. I can do that even if I don't overeat; just being stressed makes me gain. I'm going to work this week on just going with the flow and also logging my food and see where that takes me on the scale.

I just want to check in. Hope to be able to get here a few times this coming week.

Susie

Debbie 12-04-2005 06:09 PM

Hey everyone,
Dh just left and I'm checking in before I start my cleaning. I made kings ranch chicken for lunch. Using all reduced fat soups and 2% cheese and my family didn't notice. They just ate like hogs...WOOHOO. I haven't checked the points for it yet. :crossed: Maybe not too bad.

Susie: Glad you are getting into the groove of your new position. You know the weight loss will come. Just keep plugging on. :hug:

WELL, HERE I GO OF INTO THE DUSTY DOOM. IF YOU DON'T HEAR FROM ME SOON SEND HELP...:rofl:

Hollyhock 12-04-2005 06:22 PM

Ew Deb~ sending you a cyber gas mask. big dusting jobs make my allergies go:fr: :stress: :headache: :stars: .

I thought I posted this morning but must just have read.

I broke out in hives yesterday morning and took a bendryl and then I napped in the aft but DD kept climbing all over me. I asked her to leave about a hundred times. She then told she just loved me to much to go......brat.....conned me and it worked. I did the farmers market til noon. I had a friends daughter for the night. She is a single mom with no family/friends to give her a break. I take her daughter once a year for a weekend. Good kid.
Sunday School christmas lunch today and then Avon follow up calls. Mega orders to put in online.
I cleared tables a wedding in town at 6:30, our church catered.
Sometimes I think I am a 70 year old trapped n a 40 year old body. I LOVE these type of events and working at them. I have all my life. When I was younger I lived like a rock star. Partied very hard. I would be out dancing on tables til the sun came up, go home and shower and go to the nursing home with my Grandma and do crafts with the old folks.
I LOVE serving tables.Who the heck likes serving tables. The catering crew from our church are all in their 70’s& 80’s, there are a few in their 60’s and then ME.
I relate better to this age group and up better then any other.
Got a bunch of tidying done and cat napped with the cats.

Food has still been :?: :dizzy: :mad: :nono: ...um not great. Not horrific. I had fisha nd salad for supper and pomegranate for dessert. Lunch was potluck but had shrimp and casserole and only 2 cookies. I could do without the cookies.

Anyhow, HUGS ladies!!!

okie74 12-04-2005 06:38 PM

Do you know how many threads there are in here ?..........ALOT !........my name is Machelle I'm 31 *gulp* and have been stuck in the 203 area for WAYYY to long....I went to a dietician and was put on the plate method , half the plate is non-starchy .25 starchy and the other .25 protein , seems ok so far , I don't have the time or patience to count and write everthing in the nutrition lists on the food I eat , I do keep a food journal , I workout every other day , I was just doing the treadmil for 30 minutes but bumped that up to 45 or more have noticed my thighs are shrinking but the lbs are not , well I changed my routine a bit now it's 20min of lower body strength training plus 30 on the treadmill , I'm now considering getting up early to add more to my daily workout , do one early morning and the other at 11am , when my 2yro naps......*sigh*........I'll get to the 1's eventually right

upswife 12-04-2005 09:00 PM

Hello everyone. Welcome to al the new people (so many posts!!!) I had a 50th aniversary party this afternoon after Church. DH took the kiddies home and I got to go party!!! I did not do too bad, but I am still going to try to get up early to exercise. The menu~Chicken breast, prime rib, twice baked potato, carrots, greenbeans and red peppers (ooh I can't forget the tequilla sunrise ;) ) then a scoop of spumoni(sp?) ice cream. I was able to avoid sweet table, even though they had chocolate covered strawberries.

THey had a band, so I was able to dance some. I love to dance! I wish we could go dancing everyweekend. It would have been better if DH could have been there, but I danced with my mom and brother and some friends from church. So hopefully the dancing has helped burn off some of the calories.

I did try a little of everything, but I left some food on my plate (I have never done that before :D ) Gotta run the kiddies have to go to bed now (yay!)

CBETA 12-05-2005 12:43 AM

Originally Posted by Phoesarah:
Cbeta, Yes i agree i should have more friends, but im picky and people dont really like me. But thats good that hes helping you and going on walks with you. I have NEVER had a friend that did ANYTHING with me. nothing like that anyway, only bars and bad things. or just hanging at home. No one ever did anything with me. My ex boyfriend was an idiot he never went out EVER. I dont think we ever went on a real date except for dinner once or twice. but other than eating we never did anything else together. no movies, no nothing. and when i do have friends they are the same way. I dont know.

Those things are of course a personal choice. Even for him he made a choice to treat your badly and now he is not with you.
I do understand as I also had such a guy, in reality I think for my case, he was bound by rules of his culture and therefore felt embarassed that he is doing prohibited dating and especially with someone so overweight as me. Though I do know to this day he loves me, and no further than 3 weeks ago proposed for the 3rd time in 4 years I've known him. But the train is gone, never ever ever.
I know you can find friends. I know you will not be alone. But you mind find some answers in yourself. A) find people with simular interests. If bars is not your scene either explain it to them or find the ones who get you. B) give yourself a makeover...perhaps be a bit flexible. May be slightly more compromising. i think it is important in your case, as it sounded to me, you give them little chance and they give you just as much. Only trials and error will get you want you want in the long run, so the sooner you start the sooner you will feel better. And I sense that you do want friends, you just scared of being hurt. To make sure that it does not happen, be causious yet flexible, do make sure to state what you don't like, and what you do, be open. I wish you the very best, as having live friends and support is very important in my opinion.
CBETA

annie175 12-05-2005 08:16 AM

Good Mroning Everyone........and there are a LOT of us this morning. Wowser, what support we should have.

Didn't do much over the weekend. Worked yesterday morning 5:30 -10:00 am OT. Stayed OP for the most part over the weekend, shocking. I didn't exercise any. Only did laundry, no cleaning. Wasn't in the mood. Took a much needed nap yesterday of 3 hours. I did make some delicious chicken vegetable soup and have enough to make through 4 lunches this week.

Hi Sarah - welcome, and yes I will say, you can do this. Remember...Baby steps, one day, one thing at a time.

Also welcome to Kristina and Okie. You will love it here.

CBeta - After 21 days of anything, it then becomes a habit. I wish I could listen to myself.

Holly girl - Good morning girl, enjoying your coffee? Breathe

Susie - the more you do your job the easier it will become. Stress will lessen, pounds will come off.

Debbie - I agree, Curves is the best, if for nothing else it gets me moving.

UPS - the dancing probably burned of the not so good buffet choices.

Debbie - my kids rarely notice when I use reduced fat, non fat subs in recipes...It's our secret. Please don't send any dust bunnies my way, I do not care for dusting.

Hello to everyone I may have missed. Here's to an excellent week for all of us. Let's try to at least meet one goal this week. Drinking enough or more than enough water, exercising, staying OP, being good to ourselves,....something.

My boss returns after a week long business trip, therefore not sure of getting back on here for a few days, who knows!!

((((Hugs to all))))

Annie.

Yogini 12-05-2005 08:30 AM

Hey! I have ever posted here because I thought 'RACE to 199? More like a CRAWL for me! :D I have a long way to go!' ...but now that I see others aren't just 10 or 20 pounds away and they post in here, I see I am welcome too ;) I have 68 pounds to go!

I am on a calorie-controlled plan, I focus on whole foods, eat lots of fiber and workout 6 days a week. I eat a plant-based diet (vegan) and have lost 22 pounds since I started 1 month ago. I teach Yoga and love it! That's me :)

Hollyhock 12-05-2005 09:14 AM

:welcome: to the newbies!!!!!!!

A beautiful day in the neighbourhood. Crisp, clear, cold!!!!!!!!

All the big kids off to school. 2 preschoolers til noon. My big Avon Christmas order goes in today. Follow up calls to make and then send it off. I will do some shovelling at some point for exercise. I am feeling fat. I want to change this.
Hubby seems to be back on track. He got some good rest on the weekend. He spent some time with friends yesterday.


I got some tidying done. I am itching to bake and make scrap books for the my kids and the kids I babysit. I may make some christmas cards too.
I received a gift certificate for a 1/2 hour massage. I called the guy and told him I wanted to use it for hubby. He said, “no way! you will both come ! “ So, tonight at 8 Hubby will go for a 1/2 hour and then come home and then i will go for a 1/2 hour. Of course the fact that a total stranger was compassianate and caring and realized how much a mom needed to be nurtured( his words) made me cry, LOL.
Kids have been awesome all weekend. Gotta love it.
Hockey practise and 4.
Oatmeal and coffee for breaky.

Had this big epiphany about “breaking the cycle”. My kids are very vocal( and physical) about everything as is hubby and well....myself. We are open and communicate( A great deal) whether it is effective or not.
What my son shows on the outside is what i had going on on the inside as a kid but had learned it was wrong to show it, talk about, or even feel it, most definitely by the time I was 7. I would be punished, ignored, put down with sarcasm, told I was worng, unstable, too sensitive.......... So, as busy and hard as our family life can be at times, I can honestly say it is a safe enough and loving enough environment for all of us to be ourselves completely without fear. Imagine the possibilities of growth and love and experience for our kids in this environment!!!!!!!!!

Cbetta/Sarah~ in my experience people and men will accept you as you are if their intent in genuine. I was always roundish but perceived mayself a sexy and frankly you'd be lucky to have me. I have had great relationships. When I was feeling undesirable I had relationships like you describe.
I have also had some pretty crappy friendships, in hindsight. Being chosy and liking your own company is not a bad thing.LOL!

Good morning and hugs to everyone!!!!!!

okie74 12-05-2005 09:59 AM

I need a little dancing man...I LOST 2.5lbs....WOOHOO......I weighed this morning and was like OMG finally....I need to change my thing at the bottom........


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