For awhile, I was so ashamed of what happened and did not want anyone to know. After reading some of the other posts, I thought my experience might help someone else who was going through this. I was dumped because I gained weight. My ex blamed both my weight gain and his on me. He broke up with me 3 weeks before we were moving into another apartment closer to our jobs. I gained about 20 pounds after the breakup in March and made my way back to this board to do something about it. I cried for weeks at home, at work, didn't sleep, was very depressed......but things are starting to get better... I've went out with a couple of guys sincethen and it was a boost to my self confidence. Some nice shoes and a cute shirt really can help. I learned a lesson never to settle because it doesn't work out in the end. Find someone that is worthy of your love and trust who will do anything to make you happy.......This is my nightmare (kinda long)
Dated this normal guy for 2 years and then he wrecked his car and was without one. Fast forward about 3 months..My apt was broken into while i was home on the couch sleeping and we ended up moving in together. He still had no car. Things seemed to be fine between us in all areas of the relationship though his gaming addiction annoyed me (world of warcraft and all that stuff) and he was pretty lazy. I started inquiring about the car situation and found out his license were suspended. His story was that he had an unpaid parking ticket that he forgot about and they suspended his license and then he was in a wreck (his fault) so he needed a lawyer to get them back. I was a little annoyed because I believed he was just saving up to buy another one and had no idea that he had no license. He had actually driven me to the airport in MY CAR and never mentioned not having a license. I tried to cut back on going out so that he could save money to do this sooner. I paid half the rent and utilities and he made 2x as much as i did so i couldn't figure out why he couldn't afford it. I was picking him up from work and my commute home became an hour because of him. I was tired of driving everywhere and was ready for someone to drive ME around. We picked out this new apartment in January and put in applications....It was his idea to put down a deposit and get it locked in because it was so convenient to where we worked. We lived together for over a year at this point and had dated somewhere around 3 years by then.
all of a sudden, things changed. 3 weeks before we were to move into the new place he told me it wasn't working and he didn't think we had a future....totally out of the blue. Had a romantic dinner and went to a movie the night BEFORE, holding hands, cuddling in bed, and all that stuff the night Before..... totally shocked me...
Then he changed his mind and wanted to try to work on the relationship. I had been so heartbroken that I was happy to try and work it out. So we ended up moving to the new place together but something wasn't right. he then told me that he just wanted to be roommates and date other people..He said I had gained weight and was causing him to gain weight because he ate when i did. He was an adult and didn't have to eat dinner with me. He insisted on helping out by cooking since he never cleaned or did anything else so he always made pasta and other unhealthy stuff loaded with carbs and calories. He would only cook stuff that took 5-10 minutes because he was extremely lazy so that meant a frozen lasagna or stir fry rice or something. For the record i only went up 2 sizes so it wasn't a huge weight gain. I was around 150 when we started dating and was about 160 when we moved in together and was barely 170 when I was too fat for him. He said kudos to his friend Erik for dating and marrying a fat girl but he deserved a supermodel even though it made him shallow!!!
He had a tummy, was bald, and had no freaking car or driver's license!! He said he deserved a supermodel (those were his words)...this a few days after we had signed a lease together! So basically he changed his mind and said he wanted to work on the relationship so he could have some help with the rent and a ride to work and wherever he wanted to go. He wanted to use me again and I was stupid enough to go along with it because I loved this moron. I wonder if he ever loved me when we moved in together a year or so ago or if he was just wanting me there to split the rent and give him a ride to work or wherever he needed to go. Somehow, I found an ounce of self-repect and decided there was no way I was going to allow myself to be used like that. I would have to be insane to live with my ex boyfriend and pay half the rent and give him rides while he paraded other women in front of my face.
He went to work and I called in sick and was curious what was going on so i snooped through his computer....found out he had a serious porn addiction and he visited mutliple sites daily for months, that he hired escorts and paid them for things other than "escorting", craigslist ads for erotic stuff, etc and i was so disgusted i packed up and left. He had been bringing escorts and other girls he met online into our bed while I was at work or out of town or out with friends for awhile. He had been cheating for months, probably longer. He was still signed into his email account and I was truly sick from the things i read. I made him go to the office and get my name off the lease....
I was moving on with my life and then got a call from his sister in law. She didn't believe what he was saying and called me up for dinner. Turns out he lied about a hundred things. He worked in investment sales and could look you in the eye and lie. He was telling everyone that I just left him with this expensive apartment for no reason because I didn't want to be with him anymore....He dumped me and he was cheating the whole time we were together! So all these people who know me through him, think i'm a jerk. I'm an accountant and very honest and reasonable and don't like my name being dragged through the mud and i hate liars. Turns out his license were suspended for 5 years and he won't be able to drive himself around again until 2014! He was a habitual offender and lost the license for 5 years. He disregarded tickets and didn't pay then and continued to drive after he knew his license were suspended. Then when he wrecked his car, they revoked them for 5 years and he has to get a lawyer to even beg for a hardship license. I then get a collection notice from our old apartment for something his pets damaged and he was supposed to pay and never did.
I have never been so angry with anyone in my life and even though I should probably just get over it and move on, I want him to feel a little pain like i did!! I hate being lied to and feel like he was using me to pay half the rent and drive him around everywhere.
Crazy ex girlfriend in Florida
Dumped because I gained weight (his words)
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