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Originally Posted by Kiwonk
Ahh, nostalgia.
she said she wished she could go back and tell her self at that time that everything was going to be all right, because it would have really made a difference. Nice sentiment, not sure it really works, though. Can you tell yourself everything will be all right and believe it?
Kiwi
It's an interesting meditation exercise. I've done it, actually. I was SO miserable so many times during my first marriage, and when I heard about this concept, I thought it might be helpful if I
could somehow go back - perhaps in the dream state(?) and reassure the "young me" that her life will, in fact get much, much better. I think the *belief* comes about because from where you are now, everything IS alright...everything DID turn out well. It's not like those visualization exercises where you're supposed to visualize what you
want to have happen (or how you want to look): you are simply passing on the truth of what HAS happened in your present that is unknown to you in your past.
Was it helpful? Well, at the risk of sounding looney or "new-agey", I'd have to say that it did. During meditation, I actually could recall little "rays of sunshine & hope", I guess you could call them that I felt once or twice as a young wife overwhelmed by the demands and insecurities of a narcissistic husband who demanded that "everything had to be about him" up to and inclusing resentment at the time I spent with my babies. Just little glimmerings of hope, you understand...nothing terribly concrete; just enough, I guess, to keep me "keeping on" and believing that life might somehow get better some day. Were those glimmerings of hope the result of a message of some kind from the future me? Well, quantum physics certainly says it's possible.
Not looking for a debate, here, Cowp - this is just a
personal opinion, and will not lead to any mention of Hitler. Also not offering it on an authoritative level. Really.
Chunks in your cawfee, Kiwi? Oh,
We are re-doing one of the bathrooms. It had that oh, so ugally ceramic tile with the black trim around it (fifties, is it?) and we've debated tearing it all out or just decorating around it and living with it (it's sort of a secondary bathroom). So, I did my best to decorate around it, but it's been an annoyance to me ever since we moved in. FINALLY, I found, online, a method for painting over ceramic tile that actually works - if you follow the steps religiously, the result ends up with a perfectly shiny-enamel surface just like the original, but <sigh of relief> a different color. So in between bike riding, tutoring my SIL for his certification test in English (He's already certified in Math and
teaches math, so I have no idea why this additional certification is neccessary), grocery shopping, exchanging birthday gifts and blah-blah and so on, I've been painting tile.
My daughter's appt. in Boston yesterday resulted in a FOURTH opinion that she needs a hysterectomy, so she's finally accepted the neccessity, and is going to go ahead and schedule the surgery. On top of the MS, she has a mass of fibroid tumors in her uterus that have been draining her system of iron - she's badly anemic - and now, they're coming out for good, which should improve how she feels a great deal.
Have a great day, all -
Ella
