Oh yay!!! I'm so glad I found you guys! I'm getting married Oct 11/08 (11 months to go) and have 52-72 more pounds to lose before I can fit my dress. (yes I did buy one that was too small :P)

I have an etiquette question for you all. How do you feel about this? I'm hosting a sit-down supper at a hotel, wine will be served with supper but otherwise is a cash bar, do you think this will go over ok?

I figured as long as they have wine and soda/punch etc if they wanna get drunk on hard liquor/beer it'd be up to them. Opinions much appreciated :D

Congrats to everyone! This is really the most exciting time for any woman EVER!

lol, I just realized how harsh that bit sounded, I meant if people want something other than wine/soda etc not (GRR I'm not paying for those jerks to drink their faces off!) which is what it kinda sounded like.

Well, I know that most ettiquette sources are down on cash bars, but open bars are EXPENSIVE. Also, I know a lot of people don't like the idea of getting people drunk at their weddings.

We haven't completely decided, but I think we're just going to have a limited open bar for a few hours (a few liquors, beer, and wine) along with a champagne toast. We can't go until too incredibly late anyway (10 pm) and might just go out afterwards with the wedding party.

Have you thought about just beer and wine? I know people usually just drink one or the other and it's nice to have a choice.

buffbride2b - Welcome! I agree with Jen on the bar issue. If you're not going to do hard liquor that's more than ok in my book, but there are lots of people that like beer but not wine and vice versa. If you offer both most people will be happy :) I also think it's ok to have the bar open for only a limited time if you like. We're lucky that we don't have a very boozy crowd (with a hadful of exceptions, most of them being in the wedding aprty :o) so I think we're just going with an open bar including a keg of our chooseing (we like our microbrew!) some cheap-ish rail liquor and a couple wine selections.

FYI ladies, I'm going to start a new thread. There's a 500 post limit and we're getting pretty close.