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Well, hi everyone! I hope everyone had a fabulous mother's day! Derek and the kids got me a fabulous necklace with two heart-shaped rubies, one for each kid...BUT, the lady at Zales was giving it a cleaning and one of the stones fell out, so Derek took it anyway (knowing I wouldn't care) with the loose stone in a plastic bag so I can take it back and get a replacement...which they ordered and will be in on Tuesday...BUT, I thought...heck, while I'm replacing, why not see if I can get the kids birthstones in heart shapes, instead? So, I'm going to do that...since I've bee hinting (actually, my hinting is more like, "See this mother's ring? I want this for mother's day...") for years that I want a mother's ring or something like that. So, I got that, some solar lights for my flower garden and a hanging plant. The only downer was my mom had me in absolute tears yesterday morning. I had been planning on going with the family to her house all week for a cookout (we were going to have my dad and Derek cook for us) yesterday...and we were going to go to church with them in the morning. BUT, Kyle was up all night with a cough (he still has it and is home from preschool today), so I called my mom to tell her we were skipping church and that I'd be over in the afternoon for our cookout and that I'd bring baked beans. Adn she said, "Oh....were we having dinner with you guys?" We'd been talking aobut it all week! So, I said, "Well, I thought we were...but I guess we don't have to if you don't want to..." and she said, "Well, you're easy to get out of it..." And I said, "I don't want to get out if it, but if you don't want to..." She had a I've-been-dreading-this-all-week sort of sound to her voice and then she said that since Kyle's not feeling well, we shouldn't drag him all over and that mother's day isn't that big a deal for her. I told her I have a present for her and a card and she said, "Well, I'll jsut pick it up on Wednesday when I come over for Shelley's birthday..." So...needless to say...I spent the entire morning crying in my coffee because my own mother didn't want to see me on mother's day. Thing is that I know its because we skipped out on church and she's known for her totalitarian views on people that do or don't go to church...either you're in or your out. So, I was really upset that she chose that fact that I didn't want to bring my sick son to church as a priority over seeing her only local kid on mother's day. So, Derek says, "just take her hanging plant you got her, keep it and mail her her card" Oh...and the other excuse she had for not seeing me was that the weather was lousy....it was CLOUDY and a bit chilly, but it wasn't even raining. So...I'm really mad at my mom today.

Anyhow...on a lighter note...I don't remember if I was on this board when I had to put my cat, Phyl, to sleep a few years ago. But it was really sad...poor thing had congestive heart failure and was sooo sick. So, she was a grey short-hair and my husband said that when we come across another grey cat that he has 'a feeling' about, then we'll get that cat. So, today on the news, they had a grey fuzzy kitten up for adoption (the SPCA is on our morning news every Monday) with two splotches of butterscotch on his face and my husband said, "If you want that cat, I'd take it!"....so I'm putting all these things into account...Shelley's been DYING for a new kitten and her birthday is this week...what a great birthday present! So, Derek is on his way to the SPCA as we speak with out application for that kitty!! Say a few prayers that we get out replacement Phyl!! I already have him (or her) named Misty. But I guess I should let Shelley name him (or her) if we get him (or her).

So, that's the news from the North Country...how is everyone else today?

Talitha: How's your bun in the oven?

Monet: How are your levels this morning?

BOB: How are you this morning?

Munch: How are things on that half of the state?

Fruit: Glad you came to a decision that is best for your family.

Kaye: How are the graduation plans coming?

Gator: How was your nap? I love roses...only dabble in them, myself.

Toni: How are things in Missouri?

Thin: How did the haircuts come out?

Solly: How (and where) the heck are ya?

Fillese:

Thunder: How are the tomatoes coming along?

Okay...gotta run...talk to you guys later!!

I'm so MAD...I was on the phone with the SPCA this morning THREE TIMES asking if the kitty I wanted was available and if they could hold him for me while we drove out to pick him up and they said, "Well, he's still at the TV station, then they have a radio thing to do (with the lady from the SPCA) and you'll have to talk to her...then, when the cat made it back from his little media tour, they said, "He's here, but 'First come, first serve...'" And I'm like, "my son is sick and I'm sending out my husband...you can't hold him for a half hour?" ..."first come, first serve..." So, my husband drove out there (it was, at least, on his way to where he needed to go today) and there was a family that was there filling out paperwork...THAT PICKED MY KITTY!!...So, we lost him by about five minutes. Darn it..he was JUST what my husband has been looking for since we put Phyl down...Phyl was his cat and he was pretty darn upset we had to put her down and has been waiting for just the right one and the right time. And I've been waiting for the right time for him to be ready because I'VE been waiting for a new kitten, too. I'm SO MAD!!

Happy Monday morning all..... Its cool and breezy here in Missouri but later in the week its going to warm up. Good for my tomato plants. Had a wonderful Mother's Day. Love hearing from the kids. DH took me to a restaurant for lunch. I had halibut and it was sooo good. They cooked it just right. The rest of the day was a lazy afternoon. And we were still full from lunch so just had a piece of peanut butter toast for dinner. One of the kids got me a manicure and two hair styles at the local beauty shop. I thought that was so good. I'll call later this week an get an appointment. Not much going on here. Got my puppy settled down on the floor with a piece of chicken jerky so I can do my stuff on the internet. I need to go find something for breakfast....

Tech- I'm so sorry about your Mother and that she made you cry on your special day. What in the world gets into people being so thoughtless. Your necklace sounds wonderful. I love jewelry and what a nice idea to have your kids birthstones on it. Oh no I can't believe that about the kitty. Dang!!

Monet- Have a great walk. You're such a good motivator!!

Good Monday Morning. I'm getting over a cold. This weekend was kind of a bummer all around. We were supposed to leave at noon on Friday to drive to my sister's house in Ill. Well, Trav didn't get home till 3:30, so we were already in the midst of friday rush hour Exodus from Downtown. It took us an hour just to get through town. Then 1/2 way to Chatanooga, the oil light goes off. We pulled over and checked the oil. EVerything looked fine. Went another 5 minutes and it started going off every 60 seconds. So no trip. We turned around and came home. The worst part was that Travis needed to be in VA this week, so he booked his flight out of Nashville, expecting to be driving back yesterday. Luckily my brother was in town and leaving yesterday to drive back to KAnsas. HE took Trav and dropped him at the airport in Nashville, but we ahd to be up at 5:30 to meet him.

Saturday I asked Trav if we could do something special since he would be gone. He said sure. Then he sat on his computer all morning and slept all afternoon. No card, no gift. Nothing for Mother's Day. I don't think he even said Happy Mother's Day to me or anything. My family was all going out to lunch for my mom, so I decided to go meet them. It ended up another mistake. They went to a JApanese Steakhouse. I fed the kids beforehand, but still spent almsot $30 on just my own mean and the obligatory 'chipping in for mom'. Even though I was the only one who got her a gift, since I expected to be out of town.

So, I have a car in the shop, a cold, my husband out of town and only $20 left of my $$ for the week.

On a good note, I had a pear for breakfast and a turkey and cheese sandwich on WWsourdough. It was good and OP. But the 3 squares of Cadbury Dairy Mil were not, and there is still half a bar in the freezer calling my name.

Tech- (((BIG HUG))) I feel horrible complaining about my MD after the way your own mother treated you on yours. I'm so sorry. And I feel sorry for her. She's obviously missing out on a lot of joy and freedom in her life, which is the whole reason to be a Christian, not to tie others down to rules and expectations. ANd then the kitty on top of it. Maybe I'll finally break down and cry for you May eat that chocolate after all...

Monet- That stinks about your BG being up. You are doing so well. I've never seen someone so dedicated!! WAlk some for me. My back is hurting too much to do water aerobics today, and with a cold I guess I can't anyway.

Bob- Porno site? LOL!!!!! Yeah baby, you know that 3 fatchicks site.... I guess it could sound dodgey....

Toni- Glad you had a wonderful mother's day

Good afternoon,

Tech, I wish we could figure our parents out. Mine were both hard and complicated. My mother has never been to my house and we built it 8 years ago. The only thing I can figure is she has turned out to be a lot like her own mother who only visited once in all my growing up years.
My kids have had very little contact with her over the years.
Now my mothers health is so poor ( macular degeneration in both eyes and rheumatoid arthritis) that she couldn't visit even if she wanted to.)
If my sister in Dallas makes arrangements to visit my Mom, Mom absolutely dreads it and asks me what she should do with my sister.
Therefore I don't have any incentive to visit her because I know how much she dreads my sister visiting. It would be so nice if Mom could be more appreciative of my sister's efforts. She has to fly or drive to Kansas from Texas and leave her two small boys to do so. The expense and inconvenience don't mean a thing to my Mom.


I can't change my Mom so the only thing I can do is not to repeat the things she has done that are so hurtful to my own kids. Perhaps you can adopt this viewpoint and it might help a little.

Of course my Mom is not coming to my DS graduation. But I'm going to appreciate all who can make it and tell them so! (Including my sister and her family from Dallas!)

Hi Ladies,

This has to be quick. I am burried deep in work. Sounds like MD was not too good here. Mine was fine. One of those diamon O necklaces from DH and gifts from the girls. we went to dinner later in the day. I was bummed most of the day. Went to the cemetary, which I haven't been there for a long time. Guess it got to me.

No time for replies, just wanted you to know I was around.

Hi everyone.
Well, the mother's day thing is finally over and done with for this year, thank goodness. I had good news and bad news yesterday. First the bad news: my mother has disowned me and probably will never speak to me for the rest of her life. I'm not kidding.
She had a falling out with my DS's husband. They all live in the same town. My DS has been married to her DH for over 30 years and they have 3 kids, all grown. For that entire 30+ years my mother never had any of them over to eat, or even to really visit in her home. She never attended any soccer or ball games, or anything, for her grandsons. Her dislike or disapproval of her son-in-law was pretty evident to everyone, even though he has always treated her with kindness, always willing to do anything to help her out. He is the one who got the bad brain cancer. One evening about 2.5 months ago she was over at their house, eating dinner over there, and he said something rather rude, (who knows why, maybe he was in pain, as he is all the time now) and she got upset and left in tears. She decided that she would never have anything to do with him again. So she told my DS that she would never be coming over again, and took it to such an extreme that she won't even call over there because he might answer and she would have to speak with him. (She tries to call my DS on my DS's cell phone, but my DS won't answer it when she sees it's my mom trying to avoid calling her at home.) When my DS takes her out to lunch my mom never even mentions his name, or enquires about how he is doing with his cancer, etc. All this time I have been writing my mom telling her that she must go ahead and forgive him, explaining what the Bible teaches about forgiveness, and how forgiveness or unforgiveness not only reveals one's character, but it destroys relationships with those who love her. I was pretty clear in what I said and didn't beat around the bush because I didn't want her to think that unforgiveness was not too bad if I couched my words in flowery prose. My sister also wrote her a letter telling her that when she rejected her husband she was also rejecting her. We both sent her gifts for MD, but my DS said my mom would be so mad that she would disown us. So---when I called yesterday to wish her a happy day, she did not answer. She has an answering machine which she uses to screen all her calls. If she doesnt want to talk to whoever is calling, she just won't pick up when you start to leave a message on the answering machine. Well, she never picked up, and I called twice. I know she was not anywhere else, so the message to me was that I probably will never hear from her again in her lifetime. She definitely is a woman who carries serious grudges. She got mad at her own brother over a stupid issue of who was gonna get stuff (furniture and knick-nacks) from my great-aunt's estate. He got to the house first and took some of the goodies my mom wanted. So, she got mad at him and just wrote him out of her life. She never ever spoke one word again to her brother, her only sibling. Isn't that just the saddest thing you've ever heard. She says she is a Christian, but with absolutely mean behavior like that, she is one nominally, and I fear for her soul. My sister e-mailed me that my mom thinks I'm a religious nut. It is all just so sad. I'm relieved that my happiness does not depend on her approval. I guess my sister and I will have to stay in contact with her maid to make sure that she has not died. The thing is for my mom is that she has nothing to do with her life. She does nothing. She is not active in any volunteer work or a church or ANYTHING. A major part of her day would be to go to the grocery store to pick up a few things. Or she will spend her week getting ready to go to the doctor's the following week for her check-up. She does not want to use a computer, she has no DVR, or anything besides her little TV, that she watches at night. She has "no life" and now she has cut off the only family she has left, so here is a picture of a very pathetic and sad situation.

The good news: My DD and new son in law went to church with us and then came over for lunch (tuna sandwiches). Then we went over to their place for a grill-out supper (shrimp, scallops and chicken pieces with veggies as kabobs on the grill) Fresh SWEET sweet corn and salad. It was gooooood. My DSon and his "family" came over and we actually all had a nice time. Amazing. Mother's day is one holiday that I could do without, however. Mom's and daughters can get their feelings hurt easily because it is a holiday that sets us up for that. It's a big set-up for kids too, because if they don't "perform" on this particular day, then mom's get sad or their feelings hurt. Tony Randall said once that if you only showed love to your mother on Mother's day, then you don't love your mother. Interesting quote.

I did not walk yet and may not get to do so today. The workers were here early, as usual, and we had so much to discuss with them that I was barely able to leave in time for my eye appt. Then I did go and lift the weights, and finally had lunch with my DH. I picked up the tiles this afternoon, and will send a pix to Monet.

Gotta go. Hope everyone has a great day and a great week.

Well, I didn't do so well yesterday. I was so frustrated about how Travis left the house. He didn't mow the lawn, or move all of the boxes around the house out to the shed. He did clean my car out, but now it's in the shop so I'm not enjoyihng that. Anyway, I took the kids outside and let them play while I mowed the yard. It's a very small yard, but all we have is one of those push-roller mowers. NOT a good idea for someone 8 months pregnant with a back injury. I also weeded one of the flowerbeds in hopes to actually plant something this year. ANother bad idea.

So I spent the evening on the couch feeling sorry for myself. I could hardly move and finally broke down and took a darvocet at midnight so that I could sleep. I ate the chocolate...sigh... and several other things that had no right to be in my house... But they're gone now.

They got the Volvo (trav's car) fixed rather quickly and theyw ere even nive enough to drive it to my house to drop it off and then take the Passat back to the shop. The owner saw that I had 2 little kids and told them that there was no reason for me to have to drag them back up there. Wasn't that sweet? ESPECIALLY since they were finished right aroudn the time my back started punishing me?

Anyway, today is a new day. I'm having my fiber shake with peaches this morning. It's really good. I had tried them before and thought I didn't like them, but they are low-glycemic so I thoguht I'd give it another go. I like it. Just not with the protein.

We have no fruit or veggies in the house, so I'm going to run by kroger, go to the bank and TRY to do water aerobics. Even if all I do is move around a bit, it may help losen up my back. I'll visit the chiropractor this afternoon.


Monet- I agree about MD. After reading everyone else's, I'm ashamed of ever complaining about mine. I have such a great relationship with my mom. I'm very lucky.


Gator- I hope you are wrong about your mom. I hope that she calls you. What a sad, sad life she must have.


EVeryone else- Have a great OP day!!