Hey Mel, I think it just sounds like you're ready for weight loss, and I think that the only magic trick here is that you just need to believe in yourself. I may be wrong on this one, but don't worry so much about pleasing others, and just concentrate on yourself. Let your willpower and desire to shed the pounds guide you to your goal. There is a super motivation thread on here in the success stories section written by a member named Glory. I think if you gave her thread a peep you would really feel inspired by it.
You can do it girl! We are here to help. I think you have it in you, you just gotta stay dedicated and strong.
The Fat Smash is going well! And yeah hahaha Dr. Ian is cute! It works well for me bc I feel absolutely no guilt after I eat. I know I have not put any weight loss inhibiting foods into my system so when I am done for the day I dont freak out about what I ate. I like feeling accomplished, so in some kind of way it's like hitting your goal every day. If i eat only whole foods and treat myself to fruit then I dont feel bad at all. On the days where I work out (4-5 times a week) I feel like SuperWoman! Woooo! So far I have lost 10 lbs, but I am also on my Time Of The Month, so when it's done I will see what the final end result of Phase I is.