Quote:
Originally Posted by Schmoodle
...I don't know how realistic these are though, they seemed very do-able at first, but my loss rate has slowed recently and I am doing my best to adjust my brain to the fact that a slower loss is actually a good thing. The sky will not fall if I don't lose this weight in a year. So I guess my advice is to be careful with goals, that they don't become added stress. I'm starting to think now that the best goals I set were the activity-related goals. These are things I missed out on doing with my kids the last couple of years because I was too heavy...Achieving these goals is more gratifying than seeing a number on the scale.
|
Wow,
Schmoodle, you have some really great insights! You're totally right, IMHO, about not letting your goals give you more stress. Losing slowly
is definitely a good thing. You've all heard it before, but in case a newbie or two is reading, losing slowly lets your skin bounce back so you have less loose skin (especially if you're young!), gives you time to really get used to the plan so maintaining will be much more successful and much easier, and is much more healthy for you overall. It's frustrating as all get out, but it
really is a
good thing.
I love what you said about your activity goals!!!
That's just so totally true! Being able to fit in an airplane seat and not ask for the extender, or being able to go on one of my favorite rides (the one with the really long swings) because I could fit in the chair and was under the weight limit were so much more important to me than a simple change in numbers on the scale. Changing clothes sizes, especially when you're in plus numbers, where the difference between a size can be 40 pounds or more, can be another really motivating event. I loved hearing about your specific goals...they sound so active and vital and healthy! I bet your daughter is over the moon that you'll be on her trip with her!
Oh,
Barb, your DH really does sound depressed!
Shutting yourself off from people is one of the classic signs. (I'm no doctor, but I've been depressed, in therapy, and on meds for years and years, and am in group therapy, too. In our group, one of the first signs for us that our depression is getting worse is when we isolate.) Of course, maybe he just doesn't want to clean...
You never know. I hope that Brian tells his dad how he feels...it's good for DH to know that you're not asking him to clean out of an urge to nag, but because it really means a lot to you and your son to have people over. You can't pull yourself out of a depression on your own, but sometimes when people let you know how much your depression is hurting them, you feel motivated enough to seek help with it.
I think you're amazing--congrats on the 4 pounds!!!
That is awesome!
Kim, I hear you! I got my masters when I was 28-30. The kids I worked (I was a GA) and took classes with were all 22.
Shouldn't be a big difference, but it SO was! I had over 150 pounds to lose, they were complaining about the 10 they gained last year. I was thinking about having kids and they were still trying to decide if they wanted to be serious with their boyfriend (or find one). But I have to admit, we did form some serious friendships and I keep in touch with several of them now. I even made friends with some of the 18-22 year-olds that worked in our office. You're right, it's at least good for a laugh (especially with your hilarious sense of humor...your interchange was a riot!
), and you just might be surprised!
LC:
CABunnyGirl, your name made me all excited! I'm originally from CA and I LOOOOOVE bunnies. We have two house rabbits, Bella and Denali.
Anyways, thanks so much for the info! I thought it might be TMJ, so I spent a bunch of time yesterday trying to find out more. Even though jaw popping is a symptom of TMJ, it sounds like in order for it to be TMJ, there has to also be pain. I don't have any pain...just the noise. That's what made me confused. I really thank you for the tip, though...and I'd love to talk bunnies anytime...if you want.
and it went away in a few days as I recall.
) went to Salvation Army, and the other ones I cleaned, pressed, or dry cleaned and took them to several consignment shops. I probably have made around 3 or 400 dollars that way...so I didn't feel as bad going out to buy new clothes! 
