So, I have an aunt, I see her everyday (work with her). When I started losing weight, she was one of my biggest supporters. She told everyone how much I was losing (not that I wanted her to, just cause she was 'so proud').
I weighed myself on the scale at work the other day, just to see how much it differed from mine at home (don't know why this fascinates me so much) and she saw the number. It's very close to her weight. Now she's ignoring me and making snide remarks about what I am choosing to eat and how I work out, etc., I can only assume that she's a little jealous , since her seeing the weight was the only thing that happened before her change in 'ttude.
I'm wondering how I should handle it. How do you guys deal with the people who should be giving you support, but aren't? Or am I the only one with this problem?
-Amanda

I have a cousin like that. She's bigger than me, and makes snide comments about my weight all the time. She's jealous, and I've learned to live with that. I just tell her how beautiful she is every time I see her. When you lavish people with positivity is really makes them feel like a jerk to give out negativity.

Their attitude, their problem. Really. You're losing weight for you, not because she wants you too. Just ignore her when she makes snide remarks, or say something nuetral like "It seems to be working for me, and I'm pleased with the results." Don't go out of your way to share your successes with her, since she seems to have a problem with it. Just do what you have to do, and live the way you want to.

Your body, your choice. Don't make her problem yours.

Oh yeah, "skinnier" is acceptable, but "skinnier than me" is often a different story.

I like AmberKay's idea ... kill her with kindness.

And Tealeaf's idea ... your body, your choice. She can make the same types of choices if she's uncomfortable.

My best friend has not said one word about my weight loss. Everyone else does though. When my brother said to her, "Isn't she getting skinny?", she replied with an "Umm she looks okay." and she insists there is no difference. She knows when I'm at her weight all the guys are gonna look at me instead of her. Lucky girl, eats more than I ever have and is 118 lbs at 5'5".

Snuggle, one of my best friends turned out to be the least supportive, too. It baffles me, hurts my feelings, and changes the relationship for sure.

I have had the same expereince as well. I dont know what it is about weight loss that brings out the ugly side in those around us, but you're defenitly not alone in this situation. Its sad because its those that are closest to us that matter the most, but sometimes you cant get their support when you need it. Dont let this bring you down though!

I have a sister that was very supportive of my weight loss at first. Once I got to her weight or below the support stopped. I know it bothers her that she was always the smallest. Now she makes snide remarks that I have over-done it and that I am "actually too skinny". Which isn't true. I am at a healthy weight. Anyway, because of her attitude now, I never even bothered to tell her that I reached my goal. Let her think what she wants, I am just not going to be bothered by it.

I totally wouldn't go as far as measuring hips with my sister. That would only encourage competition, which may not turn out to be a healthy, light-spirited competition.

Thanks for being honest, Sunni! Changing roles for family members is always difficult, whether it's about weight or other issues. I was always the 'family-oriented one' and my sister was the 'worldly one', and now suddenly those roles are changing. My sister is getting married and wants to have children right away, so suddenly she will be getting the kind of attention that was exclusively mine all this time. But that's OK ... my son is almost an adult and I don't mind picking up that 'worldly one' role.

I know it's hard when you once had someone right behind you supporting your achievement then they turn around and ridicule you. It's worse when it's a family member. It's pure jealousy. As hard as it may be, I would just try to ignore her little comments and kill her with kindness. You are doing a remarkable job with your weightloss. Keep it up!!

Well, I've been on both sides here. I've been the "skinny sister" and now lately have become one of the "not so skinny" sisters. (There are 5 of us) I think it makes for feirce competition. I always focus on HEALTH, not weight, that way no one can say I'm compting to be skinnier than so and so. I have made it very clear I'm making healthier choices. If they don't support that, I just love them....somehow everyone is on both sides of this fence eventually, and what goes around, comes around.

When I first started losing weight, a coworker (2 offices down) started to try to lose weight too. At first, we were constantly talking about our weight loss efforts. I went with the "super food" approach (eating lots of healthy, whole food everyday) she went with the severe calorie reduction/lean cuisine method (not that it can't be a viable weight loss aid!).

Anyway, I felt great. Positive and motivated for long term success from day 1. I lost a bunch of weight to start and then I consistently lost 1-2 lbs from 200 to 140 (with maybe a couple of weeks of plateau here or there). I was fully committed to my eating plan and rarely rarely rarely deviated.

My coworker constantly ate off plan, couldn't lose any weight, got hugely frustrated and started making comments about how I ate. Like, "packing a lunch is such a hassle, no way I could do that every day." or "you eat ALL the time, I wonder how you get anything done, you're always in the kitchen." or "do you really plan to live your entire life without fast food, what kind of life is that?" Just on and on. Although what I was doing was OBVIOUSLY working, she had to try to sabotage me verbally.

I quit talking about it with her, she left the company eventually.

My sister-in-law is sort of like that.She wont actually make comments,but I can definately tell when she's not pleased when I lose some weight.She'll start giving me her,as she calls them;"fat"clothes.The last time I just thanked her and used the tops as nightgowns,since they were to big to wear out in public

I would hope my sister and I would encourage each other no matter who was smaller.I've always been the bigger one,but it's getting close now,and I would hate to think that either of us would make the other feel bad.I know my Mother and her sisters aren't horrible to each other....they just keep their snide remarks to themselves when one of them loses more then the others,lol.

My sister has gone so far as to ask me to take off my jeans and let her try them on. This is when the hateful comments started. She knows that the reason I lost weight was for my health and I wish she could be a little more supportive. I would have given her a lot of good clothes that I was only able to wear for a couple months, but it would have hurt her feelings. So, I gave them to my 14 yr. old step-daughter who was tickled to get them. I love my sister very much but she is having a hard time dealing with my weight loss. I just keep thinking that over time, she'll get used to seeing me smaller and maybe it won't bother her so much. She has had a rough year and had a very large colon surgery. She was very sick for a while and I can definitely feel for her and what she has been through.