We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.
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Tuesday Tips
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Well I had a phone call today, Just a few seconds ago actually, and it was my Math teacher, I have missed the last 3 Fridays of her class, She wants me to finish her class. And ya know, I am a rather blunt person, and I let her know how hard this has been for me , and The students that are in the class are so rude, that I begin class at 9am and at 915 am I am so Mad and distracted at the lack of respect she recieves that The entire class is blown for me,, I am going to go to class tomorrow, then the final is next week, so any good math vibes you can send me will be sooooo appreciated, I need to succeed at this, and Talking with the Teacher perked me up.. ahhhhhh we will see....
I'm so sorry I havent been around lately, guys. I'm so far behind on threads now that I am not even going to try to catch up. I hope everyone forgives me!
I have been so stressed about moving and finding another job lately. Nat reminded me that my deadline of being finished at my job by early July is just a deadline that I set for myself, and it can just as easily be adjusted. I realize this, but I want out of there, and not tomorrow, not 5 min from now, NOW! It has been really hard for me to stay there and work every day. I know I only have 2 mos left (I am quiting in July no matter WHAT), and I thought knowing that would make it easier, but it has actually made it harder. The last few days have been really bad. I've found myself fighting with the customers and not giving good service at all. I find I dont care how long I take in between calls, if I dont note accts--I just dont care. And the last 2 days I have been physically ill by about 2pm. My stomach hurts, I feel lightheaded, and yesterday I started to have a pain in my chest.
I guess I just keep thinking that I dont HAVE to stay for the next 2 mos, I CAN just quit now if I want. It would be better to stay until July, but I really dont want to. It wouldnt be necessarily bad to quit now, just better to quit in July. The reasons it would be better to stay is that #1 I would be paid for the 4th of July holiday #2 I would have the week of the 4th off because I already have that scheduled #3 I'll have more money in savings, etc. But if I quit now its not like I would be out on the streets or anything. I'm already registered with the temp agencies and I got a call for an interview for another job today. And if I quit now they would pay me for all my unused vacation time, so its not like I'd be losing out on that time.
I dont know, I just want everything NOW. And I want it on my terms. Is that too much to ask??
I'm so sorry I havent been keeping up and the post I finally did come to make was all about myself. I hope you guys still like me!!
Crock ~ I hope by talking with your teacher that you made an impression to her than maybe she will get the hint and do something. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and good luck.
Amy ~ I'm so sorry what you're having to go through with your job. I know how stressful things can get. I almost was driven to a nervous breakdown at my last job, which I quit on 1-21-05, and haven't had to work since, and I know I'm so luck to be able to stay home now. If I even think I'm having a bad day now, I think of that job and I instantly change my thinking. I will say a prayer for you to be strong and make it for how long you can possibly stand it.
Good evening gals. Just checking in. Still have been working alot and don't get to come out here as often as I would like. I have had some words with my boss about my workload and how I don't think it's fair I am working so much when others in the group are not. He agreed and said once we are past this busy time (another couple of weeks) we will all sit down together and redistribute some things. It all sounds good in theory, but I still know that the one girl is "the princess" and will be defended and protected to the end. So we will just see how much extra work goes her way. In any case, he knows how I feel about it. I am tired and beat down by my job. Lots and lots of hours for the past 4 years and I'm just tired. I am letting it affect my ability to stick with my plan of eating and exercising. Basically, my life is not how I want it to be and I don't have enough time to work on making it be what I want. I am sure I am depressed too. I used to be on meds (Prozac) but quit taking them because I felt nothing on them. No, I wasn't crying anymore, but I wasn't laughing either. I was just very....flat. Plus I hated the doctor. So I just quit. Anway, enough whining. I need to get my head back together and on track. I have been bingeing again this week and not exercising. Going to try to start taking care of myself again....or I should say I am going to try to start WANTING to take care of myself. And maybe talk to my therapist about meds again.
I also wanted to say to Kayley and Crocket and that I can really see a difference in both of you guys' progress pics. Kayley, I know it's hard for you to see your improvement but trust us that we can see it and soon you will too. I've heard it said that it takes our brains 6 months to catch up with our bodies. In other words, our bodies may change, bigger or smaller, and it just takes awhile to be able to see ourselves as we really are. This will ring true to any of you out there, like me, who woke up one morning and said, "How'd I get this fat?!?!?"
I hope to be able to start being more active on this thread on a daily basis again so I can keep up better with personals. Take care everyone! And I hope to "see" you all tomorrow!
Nancy - I really should get my mind out of the gutter lol, when you mentioned Mistress Krista I thought she was going to be some dominatrix or something lol. Though why I thought you would be giving MariaLucia a link for that I don't know, duh, Anyway of course I had to go look, terrible girl that I am lol. I definitely wasn't expecting a weight lifting site.
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Oh Ammi, I am as kinky as they come! You were just picking up on the vibe! ROFL Why else do you suppose I have all those corsets in my closet?
There is an organization here called "San Francisco Sex Information," or "SFSI" for short. They run a website and a hot line where people can call or email with their sex questions. It is really a great, FREE, sex-information service. The phones and emails are all answered by trained, impartial, non-judgemental Sex Educators who do their best to provide the most up-to-date, accurate information possible without judgment.
In order to have these impartial, educated sex educators available to answer calls and emails, SFSI has a training they conduct twice yearly. As you may imagine, the folks who take this incredibly comprehensive, 60+ hour training course are rather open-minded, sex-postive people. And, the training has to be, due to the nature of the subject matter, rather graphic including conversations of a personal nature, images (stills and video) along with panels of experts talking about a particular subject.
Well, I took this training a few years ago only to find out that in a room of 30+ open-minded, sex-positive people I was still an outsider cuz my "edginess" proved to be a bit too "edgy" for most folk! ROFL And, mind you, we are talking about San Francisco folk. Jeeez! ROFL
I have more than one friend who goes by the title of "Mistress," whether for personal or work reasons...:::grin:::: So one more Mistress in my life is more than welcomed - especially if she lifts weights!
And, if I am to be quite honest with y'all, when I first decided to lose weight, one of my most pressing concerns was having loose skin. Because of my particular proclivites I find myself, rather often, in clothing-optional situations and I'd rather be the fat sexy person that I am than be skinny and feel uncomfortable naked in front of people cuz of extra skin. How did I solve this particular problem? I decided to start a "plastic surgery fund." If I haven't gotten all my money saved up by the time I get closer to my goal, I can always start throwing sex-parties as fundraisers!!!! ROFL
Alright, tomorrow is a work day and I have to get to bed.
YorubaPrincess - Hello and to 3FC, and to our board! You're going to love it here! I wish you the best of luck!
Sharon - I have something like that set up...I've just been collecting all my spare change, and putting it in a jar...I rolled it up the other day, and I've got about $60 in there! Coincidence, since I'm 60 pounds down! lol...but anyhow, I'm going to take all the money, and buy new clothes when I'm confident with myself...either at 200 lbs or lower.
Ammi - So glad for you!!! You're doing such a great job back so far!!! I KNOW this is going to be YOUR time to shine! We ended up going over our "game plan" for our counseling sessions...and basically, what we need to work on, and what time frame we are looking at. He's got me HOPEFULLY being more confident with myself a year from today...we'll see how that goes! Hardly a discount on gas! They are FAR too greedy! Doesn't matter, cuz I went in there for the open interview, and the woman was incredibly busy, and said she wasn't going to do any more for the week, and MAYBE she'd consider talking to me on Monday or so...which was just the last straw, and I ended up having a breakdown at school. Oh, it was horrid. I feel like such a fool.
Dogpal - I wish you much luck, too!
Nancy - Hope everything goes alright for you and your b/f!
Crock - *sending good vibes your way!*
Amy - Good to see you back here! At least I can keep my eye on you on Myspace!
Xena - Thanks, hun. It sounds like you have a plan, and you're going to be able to do it! I wish you the BEST of luck!!!!!
So, my day was pretty much summed up in the response I wrote to Ammi...yeah, it's just been NOT a good couple of days...seems to be becoming more frequent again. Although, Andrew came over tonight, and he goes, "have you weighed yourself lately?", and I said, "not in about a week", and he goes, "you seriously look like you've lost like 20 pounds or something since I last saw you"...oh how I WISH. I'm hoping for even a 1 pound loss this week.
Amy, I'm glasd that you are back, sorry about the job thing BUT at least YOU HAVE THE POWER, leave or stay the two months, use it to your advantage. BUT remember that your bosses will give you references, so (what do you call them in the US?) what they say about you will affect your job prospects. Just think soon you will be close to your guy, hang on to that.
Maria, you rude girl, you!!!!! I would love to be a dominatrix. (Get guys to lick your floors clean, clean your bathroom with their toothbrushes and then kick them with high heels on, so I get to be bad to men, get my house cleaned & get PAID FOR IT!!!!!!! hubby doesn't like the idea much though!!!)
Kayley, things will pick up, no one has a perfect life, if you have lost weight and your guy notices that is worth celebrating!!!!
Gotta go & pack cases, & get ready,
xxxsharon
Nancy: Hope that the talk with your BF is a load off your mind and gets your head more clear on the direction you should go.
Crock: Good luck in school tomorrow. I hear you on the bass feeling like you have a whale. Have you ever caught a bluegill? They are so small and such fighters too.
Ammi: do you like to read mystery type books too?
Amy: So glad that you are back. We missed you bunches and if you had a chance to look at the other threads you will see we have been asking about you. Hang in there and take a deep breath. Things will work out for the best.
Xena: so sorry you are having such a battle at work. I hope that your boss in being very sincere in that he will conduct a meeting and make some changes. Good luck.
Kayley: Oh, I hope you get your wish honey. If you don't loose when you weigh just remember that it could be a muscle gaining time. You have been doing so well. Keep your chin up. HUGS.
YES I am up! This is a tad bit to early for me,, 8 am is when I get up,, NOT 630. That reminds me,, That is another reason I dont like Math....
Setting here eating Strawberries and a Bannana for breakfast..
Dogpal..~ Yep I agree on the bluegil as well.
Xena~ Thanks for commenting on my before and after pics,, I just cant wait till there is a third pic ............. Thanks..
Well I am gonna drink some coffee and take a shower and get ready for my Morning .....Take Care All
Guess what, it's not 12.14 pm and I haven't been back to bed. Oh I tried to go back to sleep when hubby told me he was tired and wanted to go back to sleep, but I just couldn't do it. How amazing is that, ME, the queen of sleep actually wanting to stay awake! So I have been busy getting washing done and on the line, and catching up on all my emails, and now finally I am here to catch up with everybody.
MariaLucia - your post really made me smile, well I laughed too lol. Whenever you are feeling down about yourself you should remember all the people you make happy. Fat or thin doesn't matter, you have a wicked sense of humour and a great personality!!
What a shocker about that training course, of all the places to still be considered to 'edgy' how daft is that. I wonder how many of those people actually got a job for SFSI.
That's a great idea to start up a plastic surgery fund. Personally I think that anybody wanting a tummy tuck etc should get it for free! Doctors moan that fat people are a drain on health resources, so if those people take the time and trouble to lose a load of weight, then to make them feel better by cutting off that exess skin for FREE would be the best reward!
Crock - that is great that your math teacher rang you and told you she wanted you to finish her class. If you were finding it so tough because of the other people there and the way they treated you and the teacher why didn't you stay after class one day to tell her? Anyway good for you for agreeing to finish the course.
Thinthinker - thanks for the link for the book and to read the first chapter. It looks like it's going to be a great read and if postage to the UK doesn't work out too expensive I will order it.
Amy - so glad to see you posting, I have been wondering what you have been up to. I am sorry that you are so unhappy in your job, and if you want my opinion, I would leave now instead of hang on til July. I have only ever been in one job I didn't like and quit and we both (boss and I) agreed it would be best for me not to have to work my notice, and I finished on the day I handed in my resignation. I think if you can afford to finish now then you should, then you can focus your energies on moving
As for the diet, time enough to concentrate on that when you have less stress in your life. Some people smoke when they are stressed, others eat, it's just a shame that I'm not a smoker lol far less calories that way
Xena - sorry to hear that you too are unhappy at work. I am glad you spoke to your boss about the situation, but I get the vibe from you that it's not going to change any time soon.
I really think you should go and see about being put on a different anti depressant. There are a lot out there and sometimes it takes going through a few to find out which one works for you. I have just changed my meds, and I can feel a big difference already, it's amazing! If you can get meds that suit you, and hopefully can sort out the problems with your work I am sure you will be back on tip top form when it comes to diet and exercise. Until then try not to be too hard on yourself
Kayley - I am more and more convinced that my counselor isn't much good. She has never once spoken to me about a time frame of when I might be feeling better, I just started going and then she just says see you next week. I have no idea how long I will see her for. It sounds like your counselor sure does know what he's doing, and that's great news!
Aww I am sorry you had a break down in school, don't be embarrased though, anybody would have done the same if they were in your shoes. You've been having a tough time of it, and that gas station was just the last straw. I hope after a good night's sleep you are feeling a bit brighter.
Sharon - hope you have a great time at your parents, and I will look forward to hearing all about it when you get back.
Annie - I used to read Nancy Drew mysteries, lol, so does that count? Other than that I haven't read a mystery in years. I tend to stick to auto bios and fiction novels about life. Don't know if that's how to describe them, but the books tend to be about people and their friends and their relationships with others and each other. Jane Green is one of my fave authors.
Ok well a big hi to everyone. All that bragging and now I can't stop yawning. Think I might just have a little hour nap with my snoring husband lol. So take care all and I will be back later,
I'm back again! just done most of the packing, just a bit of last minute ironing to do & some hoovering. An NSV for me, I wore some black jeans I haven't worn in a couple of years, they were tight but looked good,. I couldn't work out why they were so tight 'til I checked the label, (all 20s now fit me) they are an 18!!!!!!!!! BUT they aren't supposed to be SKIN TIGHT!!!!!! still, its progress, I'll take any NSVs, or SVs I can get. Have a great week-end everyone.
xxsharon
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to 3FC, and to our board! You're going to love it here! 
Coincidence, since I'm 60 pounds down! lol...but anyhow, I'm going to take all the money, and buy new clothes when I'm confident with myself...either at 200 lbs or lower.
