[sjdphc]

I was just wondering if there are any military spouses here with spouses that are deployed or TDY? If so, is anyone trying to lose weight before their spouses return?

[sjdphc]

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[Shanice Crawford]

Hello,
Well I'm not married to a Military man, I'm single right now but this is what I have to say about Military men... You know they are always gone and you never get to see them you're lonely and you have to hope and pray that nothing bad has happened to him overseas. I don't want to marry a guy that is in the mIlitary because they go overseas too much for me. That doesn't mean ya'll can't marry one this is just my opinion on the whole matter here. '

Well thanks
With Love
Taneisha

[MAMA2CHUNKEYMONKEY]

Hmm that reply seemed way off topic and a bit unnecessary. For one, there are plenty of men in the military who have never even been overseas. Secondly, it's part of 'the job'.. a very respectable, commendable, noble job that wives are aware of when they sign up for the kind of family life. IMPHO, 'they' (i.e. those in the military) are not only doing something for the country, they are protecting the rights and freedoms of their spouse, children, relatives, friends and especially those who probably don't even realize that is what they are doing.. strangers who may or may not appreciate or ackowledge it... but they still do it. SOMEONE has to do it and SOMEONE has to marry that SOMEONE. Marriage is about all of those things you mentioned.. missing someone when they're gone, loving someone unconditionally. If anything, it's much harder to be a military wife than to not be one and it takes quite a strong woman to do it.

[sjdphc]

WOW! Not quite the response I was looking for! Just to add my two cent, I have heard horror stories about military men and even vowed at one time not to marry one! Now I'm here with my foot in my mouth because I wouldn't trade my "military man" for the world! Yes, it is hard to be separated from the one you love, but I think we've all heard the saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder..." In ANY relationship (military or not), it's all about TRUST!

[jas80]

lol my husband was in the army for 4 years and never once went overseas. lots of "going out to the field" and whatnot, but i never had to miss him for a year when he was in. i miss the military life, as does he. that being said, i'm not a military wife now, but my hubby works for a company that contracts out to the army and he's in iraq right now for a year.

and yep, i'm trying to lose weight before he comes back. we were both skinny when we met, then marraige and pregnancy happened, and both our guts suffered lol. he's working on his weight while he's over there too. i find it's easier doing the weight loss thing when he's there. i can cook what i like that's healthy and not have to worry whether he likes it or not. the kids, well, they'll eat anything, thank heavens.

[subarugirl]

Just want to add that I'm an active duty military woman. I have only been away from home one time (for 4 months) in the 5 years I've been on active duty. Some jobs require a lot of time away and some (like mine) don't. Thankfully my husband wasn't as closed-minded as the poster who said she wouldn't want to be in a relationship with one of us.

[ladypeacek]

I am married to military and he is in Iraq right now, and yup trying to get the weight off while hes gone, lol. Mainly because without him here i can cut out alot of the fatty foods and junk foods that he is used to since he likes that southern cooking. I think its insane to imagine my life without him just because every few years he deploys for a few months, the way i see it, absence makes the heart grow fonder and those few months every now and then just make us stronger and reminds us what life would be like without each other. And we both hate it

[honey-dipped]

Originally Posted by Shanice Crawford

Hello,
Well I'm not married to a Military man, I'm single right now but this is what I have to say about Military men... You know they are always gone and you never get to see them you're lonely and you have to hope and pray that nothing bad has happened to him overseas. I don't want to marry a guy that is in the mIlitary because they go overseas too much for me. That doesn't mean ya'll can't marry one this is just my opinion on the whole matter here. '

Well thanks
With Love
Taneisha

Actually, it depends on the service and job field. My dad was in the military for 23 years and was only deployed once that whole time. It seems like you really don't know much about the military, because of all of the generalizations you're making. My husband is also in the military and he leaves for his first short deployment after being in for 4 years.

[Cheryl120]

WOW!! Very harsh statement. I met my husband 1 week before my High School graduation. We dated through letter writting and see each other for 3 days in june, 4 days in September, 5 days in December,where we became engaged, married in July. He was stationed on the east coast and I lived on the west coast.
My husband was attached to a combat unit with the USMC, and was always gone. I new this before I married him, but that's what marriage is about. Being there, keeping the home fires burning.
We had to change our wedding date twice because he was deployed somewhere, and were only married two weeks, when he was deployed for a month to California.
Every three years like clock work, the computer wood spit his name out and he would be deployed to Okinawa for 13 months. You adjust, life goes on.
I would never give up those years, it has just made us that much closer. I just wish I had a site like this to come too, to help with trying to lose weight and keep me motivated. It would of helped with the lonelyness and midnight eating that was going on.
It takes a very special woman to be married to a military man, remain faithfull, and be there when he come home.
And like you women worrying about your husband safety in Iraq, I've been there. I'm very fortunate that my husband never went to Viet Nam, but he was deployed during the hostage taking of Americans in Iran and there was a blackout on mail. I didn't hear from him for over 4 months. Drove me crazy with worry as well as when a Chinook helicoper went down in the East China Sea and I knew he was on one of the two that was on it's way to Korea. That's when military wives pull together.
Enough rattling on, just proud to be a military wife, will be married 34 years in July.

[honey-dipped]

Originally Posted by Cheryl120

...just proud to be a military wife....

Amen to that...

[Shanice Crawford]

Hello
You guys totally looked over what I was trying to say here. I'm sorry if the statment was harsh but I believe in being Honest and that is how I feel about Military Men you never get to see your husbands for months at a time and that would drive me crazy I was speaking on my behalf not about ya'll I'm glad you're happy to be a Military Wife. I'm just saying that it would get tiring at times to see my Husband go off to support our country in battle you know I'm not as strong as you guys are I can't stand to be away from the man that I love for that long at a time! I'd loose my mind if that happen
So in Retrospect
That is all that I was trying to make here

With Love
Taneisha

[sjdphc]

Thanks for all of the responses!

jas80 and ladypeacek,
when will your husbands be returning? My husband leaves at the end of this month to cross train for another job and will be gone for a month.

honey-dipped, how have you been???

[ladypeacek]

Mine will be gone 120 days so roughly the end of May or early June he will come back. And yeah i know many people who arent military wives dont understand how we do it but hey...to be on the positive side...what better chance to get skinny, LOL. My hubby and i have that relationship where he eats a whole cheesecake and I am the one that gains 10 lbs lol. But when he gets off that plane i wanna be a surprise!!!

[NVLADY]

Hi

I am back after 4 years when I first visited this place and lacked the motivation to really lose weight.

I am 42 and I am married to a military man for 18 years. He is literally my earth angel and I am so fortunate that he is home safe.

However I know all to well about deployment stress he was gone over 65% of our marriage until we changed bases. That's right 1PCS in 20 years hard to believe huh?

I went through early menopause at the age of 35 (right about when my former corporate life slowed down) and we were thinking about kids.

Until recently I was one of the girls that could carry extra weight and people would say oh your not fat! Well 35 pounds later and I am fat! Even though my DH loves a little junk in the trunk (wink) I have finally reached the point where enough is enough!

I had my first mammogram today boy was that fun! I felt so fat and self conscious.

On top of all of this I have been self employed for 10 years (can we say eat while waiting for the contracts to be signed)

I am now starting a company with 4 other partners and OMG accountability in business is new to me

I mean clients are easy compared to a board and investors! Yikes

Any ways I am a very spiritual person and I love to read , and (oh yes work)

If you think we could be good buddies please contact me ..... this is what I am doing

belly dancing
stress relief exercises through out the day (one of those big balls love them)
cross trainer at least 30 minutes a day
and my old army exercises (some recovering the last leg of a frozen shoulder)

hmmmm and drinking lots of water and yes cutting back on alcohol. I love wine and all the rest in moderation most of the time (just being honest)

Well I hope to hear from someone

OH YES VERY IMPORTANT I do much better via the phone or skype than typing I am an audio driven person (hope you understand that)