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Mnemosyne – I’ve seen this Bitter Apple stuff at Petsmart. It’s suppose to help to stop pets from chewing on things. I figured maybe I could try it on my plants. I don’t keep plants cause of the cats, but I really love gardenias and a friend gave me a bush so I figured I would try to grow it inside. Let me know if you are able to find it.
Rabidstoat - I haven’t had any problems with my cats spraying. My problem is the kids hamster and my two rats and the cats litter box. So sorry this had to happen before your trip
Lilion – yeah, someone told me to use pepper. I’m just worried my plants will start smelling like peppers rather than gardenias I’ll look into some of the things that the pet store has, if the bitter apple turns into a treat, I guess I’ll have no choice but to try pepper.
I’m still trying to get over my little cold, so things have been a little “blah” the past few days. I can’t wait for the weekend…I’m so tired and I just need some sleeeeeeeep heh. I have a Halloween party to go to this weekend, but other than that… I’ll be doing a paper icky!
Do any of you have days where you just can't decide what to eat? I woke up this morning, didn't want my usual breakfast of egg whites and veggie omelet with meat (leftover from the night before), so I had a few crackers. Lunch, I had that omelet and now supper... well its already 8:30. I made a mini pizza and by the time it was cooked, decided I didn't want it. Same with the popcorn. Went to the garbage. I AM hungry just don't want anything to eat. I even made a protien shake and tossed that.
Weird....
Guess it will be a 420 cal day! Could be worse *L*
I bought a scale and realized TRUTHFULLY how much I weighed. And I knew THEN that it was time4achange (hence the name).
The first 2 weeks, I did EXCELLENT, I lost 11 lbs!
Prior to 3FC, I was the #1 Couch potato and NOT A MORNING PERSON at all. Drank NO water, did NO exercise, ate fast food almost 3 times a day, and junk food all day long .
I want to get back to how I was the first 2 weeks.
I was actually ANXIOUS and looking forward to exercising. I found that working out first thing in the morning works for me. Because I am more aware of what I eat and do during the day. And plus by the time the day is getting started, I've already FINISHED exercising.
I haven't exercised in 2 weeks, and I feel awful.
I need help. I have a goal and I wanna reach it!
Thanks.
Hey girls ... have room for another lurking newbie?
I've been lurking around since the last thread ... I know shame on me I should have posted before now - but I'm here now, right?
A quickie on me ::
I'm 37 yrs old and I'm from Nashville, TN. I'm guessing I'm pretty much like everyone else in the fact that I've had weight issues pretty much my whole life - I've probably tried, had some success and failed just about every 'diet' out there ... the only thing I've never tried is good old fashioned calorie counting, portion control and exercise - but that's what I'm doing now and so far, so good! It's funny tho too, b/c this time feels SO different than all the times before ... *fingers crossed*
My HW was 330 (June 2005) and my CW is 284 and even tho I have a LONG way to go, it's crazy just how much better I feel already and I can't wait to see how good another 45 is going to feel! Woohoo!
Enough of the silly boring stuff! Congrats to everyone for your losses so far - you're truly an inspiration! Everyone seems very supportive and I look forward to getting to know each of ya!
Wow! Welcome Michelle, and Stacy and time4achange! This is a great place for support! We're all in this together! BTW, I lurked for quite a while before jumping in!
Time4achange: You got ON the wagon -- Great!!!! And 10 POUNDS! Excellent! You fell off, but put the past behind you and come on back!!!! Just do one thing for yourself and realize how good it makes you feel... then do another. Remember, it's all about little baby steps. We've ALL fallen off, but we get back on. come join us!
Stacy: Congrats on 45 pounds!!!! That's an awesome feeling!!! I'm also doing calorie counting/exercise and have found that a routine really helps keep me on track. I admit to having lots of success with food and less with exercise (I haven't been meeting all my exercise goals ), but I'm not going to give up on myself.
This time feels different to me, too. I haven't been fighting with myself like every other time. I can look at food that used to break me and tell it "no" if it's not in my plan for the day. I'm in a zone (but am so fearful of getting out of the zone).
Stacye: Great job on the weightloss!! You have done so great so far and YOU CAN DO IT!!
time4achange: We're all here to help you stay on that wagon!! If you need a support buddy feel free to PM me! Also what a great idea about working out in the morning! I always put it off and put it off till I just don't feel like working out. And I think if I would work out 1st thing in the morning it would get me energized for the rest of the day! Great thinking!!!
Lizzy: CONGRATS on the weight loss!! Are you following any specific plan?
JChelle: WELCOME!
Well ladies I going to my very 1st TOPS meeting tonight. My mom and I are going to go sit through it and see if we like it. I really hope so cause I am super excited! It will be so nice to get together with other women like me once a week and get that extra support I need to stay on the wagon myself! Wish me luck!
Jeez, I miss one thread, and look at all the new people! I've had an emotional past couple of days with Jeff, but we're okay now. I ended up confessing to him that I worry about him finding and leaving me for someone thinner and prettier than me, so my emotions were going crazy. I have discovered that I won't overeat in such a situation, though--all the crying made my head hurt and my stomach feel quite unsettled But like I said, we're okay now, and the most I strayed from my eating plan at all was a single Reese's peanut butter cup and fun-size Butterfinger crisp from a co-worker's Halloween basket on her desk yesterday Still stayed within my calories for the day, though, so it's all good
Tammy--I see you've found another one of my 3FC hangouts! I'm so excited for you to be going to TOPS. I have been a member since early March, and I used to go when I was a teen with my mother. They are GREAT for accountability (since you have to weigh-in every week and then tell everyone if you gained or lost), and some chapters are really active and do lots of contests and stuff. I hope this chapter is a good one for you! Ihave my TOPS meeting on Thursday nights, too
So, Jeff and I were going to go to King's Dominion (amusement park) this weekend, but I think I'm going to back out. I just can't get over the fear of getting kicked off a ride for being too fat. Next year, we will go!
Jilly I understand your fear. I haven't been on an amusement ride in 15 years or more because of fear that I wouldnt fit. But that will change!! After all I live an hour from DISNEY and UNIVERSAL, for goodness sake!!!!
It has started out to be a bad choice day. I was running late, so I went through McD's drive thru for breakfast. Instead of having an Egg McMuffin and Yogurt Parfait (450 cals) I ended up getting a Bacon Egg and Cheese McGriddle, hash brown and yogurt parfait (710 cals!) Plus I haven't brought anything for snacks or lunch. I think I might have a 100 cal snack back or two in my desk drawer--that should get me though til lunch, then I will get something healthy like a turkey sandwich or a salad.
Welcome to all the new ladies!!!!!!!! You will definitely fit right in. This is a great group of ladies that have a lot of support to give.
Stacye -- Hey girl!! Glad you joined us over here...looks like the Halloween challenge thread is dying out. You will love it here.
Jill -- I am glad you and your boyfriend are okay now. I know what you mean about getting kicked off of a ride. I am so scared to get on anything because I would not want to be embarrassed in front of a bunch of people. We are probably going to take our son to Walt Disney World for Spring Break or next summer so hopefully by then I will have lost a lot more weight and I won't have to worry about fitting on rights.
Ammi -- Where are you?? Usually you post everyday. I hope everything is okay.
Well tomorrow is my weigh in...I have been doing well with my eating and exercise. I bought a stability ball at Sam's yesterday for $19.99. It says that it holds up to 1200 pounds....we shall see. HA! Anyways it came with an exercise DVD as well. I figured I would do that for exercise as well as the elliptical, walking and lifting weights.
Stay strong girls!! Don't give in to the temptation of Halloween candy.
Wow a girl is away a day or two and all these newbies pop up So many posts for me to catch up on. But first of all an explaination about where I was. Two words - COMPUTER VIRUS!!!! My daughter can access MSN messenger on her mobile/cell phone and during conversations three times a message came up she thought from her friends, saying WOW is this you and a link to a website called image something and her hotmail address was part of it. She was worried that somebody had doctored a picture of her, so asked me to look it up on my PC. I did, then wham bam whollop Nortons closed off, and things started shutting down. It was amazing how fast it worked. It even got rid of all my restore points so I couldn't go back and fix it that way. In the end Daren had to completely wipe the computer and I have spent the last couple of days getting everything reinstalled. It's been a nightmare. I lost a load of irreplaceable stuff too, so am not happy!! Anyway I am back again, so now to try to catch up with all the posts -
TamLynne - oh yes I am sure there are a lot of overweight people who have had perfect pregnancies, and I bet there are a lot that are even fitter than a slim smoker. But I think the medical profession will always blame everything they can on size rather than take the time to figure out what could be done to help somebody. It's wrong!
Brenda - you are so lucky to have had none of your doctors etc make a bit deal about your weight. I think you are the first person I know who is overweight and not nagged to death by her doctor about it. Maybe your doc used to be fat and lost weight so knows what it's like??
Lilion - wow you must like candy corn a whole lot to have worked out exactly how many pieces you could have for 3 points lol. Well I hope you enjoy them. I am like Valerie, I don't think I could stop at just 22 pieces :lol:
Julee - how are you doing now? I hope things are ok now between you and your BF. I hope you get to look for a ring tonight with him. What kind are you going for? I like the traditional diamond solitaire rings, that's what I have. Oh just read your other post saying you are going to get a stone from your grandmothers ring set into another ring for yourself. That is such a lovely idea. I hope your BF doesn't keep you too long before he proposes. I knew that my BF at the time was going to propose at some time because we had gone looking for rings. Anyway I had a hospital appt to try to find out what was causing my terrible bleeding from the butt etc. I had a colonoscopy, NOT NICE, and they diagnosed me with Ulcerative Colitis. I was feeling so down about it, but relieved it wasn't colon cancer I had. The hospital is near a beach, so Daren and I went for a walk on it. He ran off ahead and was writing in the sand as he often does. When I caught up with him he had written, Ammi will you marry me?? Then he got down on one knee and asked as well. It was lovely, and I nearly cried!! Of course I said yes. He said he had hoped to get a table set up on the sand and have a meal etc, but he decided not to bother with all that because that day seemed like the perfect time to propose. So all that waffle was for me to say to you that perhaps your BF will do the same thing, have all these big plans and then think it can be just as romantic to do it without a lot of extras and just propose. I can't wait til you come on here to let us know you are officially engaged
Hope your cold is getting better, seems there's a load of us here with colds!
Valerie - well done on losing 30 lbs, was that just over the summer? Well however long it took it's still fantastic and I bet you can tell a big difference in how you feel because of it already. I am sure you will carry on losing now you are home again.
Twistedangel - hello and welcome to the group. I am so sorry to hear about all you have been going through, yet another reason I really am beginning to hate all medical staff. They think they know it all, but they are just ignoramuses!! My daughter was born deaf, and I had been to the doctors about my concerns for her hearing from when she was 10 days old, after 6 weeks she was referred to a paediatrician who in turn referred her to an ENT consultant. Anyway after the first referral I went to the doctors with my daughter because she had a terribly blocked nose that was interfering with her feeding. While I was there I said to the doctor that she doesn't sleep well in the night, and this doctor, the one that referred her to the hospital, says to me, well why don't you put music on softly in the cot with her. I said, well that isn't going to work is it, and he got all huffy and said,well how do you know until you try. So I go, well because she is possibly deaf!!! Should have seen his face, he forgot all about that, and I was pleased to see him go a bit red. Stupid doctors,
Good for you for setting that mini goal of 20 lbs by Christmas, I am sure you will do it. I haven't thought that far ahead but I know I am going to gain back at least 7 lbs of what I will lose by then because I am still going to have some lovely treats over the festive season.
Sheri - hello and welcome to you too. I see another lady who wants to lose 20 lbs by Christmas. I don't like to set myself goals by a certain date because I feel too disappointed if I dont meet the goal. So my first mini goal is to get under 300, but I don't know when it's going to happen.
I know how you feel when you get on those scales and realise you weigh more than you ever have. It's a real shock to the system and a great inspiration to start dieting.
Sue Marie - glad to hear you are feeling a bit better now. You made me laugh when I pictured you saying Bite Me to somebody. I wish I had the confidence to do somthing like that. Imagine his face if I had said that I think he does need to be taken down a peg or two!! BUT one thing in his favour, he did a really thorough examination, none of this too scared to touch like some doctors seem to be. So when he said, you are all healed, I knew I was. Just a shame that it's not going to stay like that. But positive thinking, I will not have wounds that keep breaking down!!
Good for you for stopping at just tucking into the Nachos when you were out and taking the sandwich home for dinner the next day. You should be so proud of yourself I hope I am as strong when we go to the Pizza Hut next week.
Andrea - sorry to hear that you couldn't get online because of Internet problems. It's the pits isn't it when you can't get online. You can't help but think, oh no, I am missing out on what everybody is doing etc Hi my name is Ammi and I am a 3fc addict
Rabidstoat - I am sure you will have such an adrenalin rush at Disney that you won't even think of sleeping. If you are anything like me you will get home from there needing a vacation When Daren and I went to Vegas I wasn't very well, but we squeezed in as much as we could in our week there. It was a relief to get home to rest We were up at 7 am, and got to bed around midnight each night every night in Vegas, and on our last night we didn't go to bed until about 2 am. Bad move as we had such a long flight home the next day, but we tried to do all we had planned and it was brilliant.
Oh dear, how are those dead cats walking What a shock that must have been to discover what they have been doing in the spare room. I am sure you could have done without the stress of all that before going away. Who is looking after the cats while you are gone?
Have a fantastic time in Disney and take lots of photos.
Jen - Oh now see that's just wrong living so close to Disney and not ever having gone there. Don't wait for your godson, grab a friend and go yourself. They say Disney is for adults too because it's for the kid in them. Perhaps you could make that one of your treats for reaching a mini goal??
Mnemosyne - that's brilliant that you can wear healed shoes now. I think the last time I wore any heals was when I got married nearly 3 years ago. Before that I can't remember when I wore heals. I think it's small things like that which make such a difference when you are losing weight. You think YES I can wear heals and not end up in terrible pain woohoo. I am a long way from that myself, but I am sure other things like my getting into underwear that was too small will keep happening to remind me why I love losing weight
Michelle - hello and welcome. I hope you find getting around on these boards easy. Any problems, just ask.
Brenda - I must admit I don't have whole days where I just don't know what to eat but it does happen at some meal times. It mostly happens when I don't have many points left and I want to make sure I have a filling meal, and have points spare for a snack attack in the night I hope you still managed to eat enough to keep that old metabolism happy.
Timeforachange - Hello, welcome. Well done on losing 11 lbs in the first two weeks of your diet. Have you lost any more since then, or haven't you weighed? I only weigh monthly and I lost 15 lbs the first month, but just 3 for the second. I have another two weeks before I weigh to see how I have done this month. If I don't lose more than 3 lbs this time then I will have to drop my points. Or try to increase my exercise. Right now I only do housework for exercise, so it shouldn't be too hard to increase my exercise.
Stayce - wow another new person, WELCOME. congrats on the 45 lbs you have already lost. I have lost 18 and can't wait til I have lost at least 30 lbs. I think it's from then on that you really really notice a difference to what you look like and feel like. Keep up the excellent work, you have come to the right place to find all the motivation and support you need.
Wyllen - hi, aww glad somebody missed me I know what you mean about feeling different this time. I am the same. Dare I say it, but I think we have had the 'on' switch turned on and in time to come we will be telling of our success stories and how it couldn't have happened until that switch happened. It does feel weird sometimes feeling like you know you are going to get to goal and yet having days where you still think I want to pig out. I guess it's early days though and the longer we carry on with the lifestyle change the less those wanting to pig out days will happen.
Lizzy - ok I am losing count of all the new people here now. It's wonderful. Welcome and congrats on your 11 lbs lost already. It's great to see the weight going down instead of up isn't it. We started at practically the same weight, I was 329. What kind of diet plan are you following?
Wow I think that's it, I have caught up I hope everybody is doing ok, and welcome again to all the newbies. I am going to play some games now, or I might email. Or I might do both lol. Catch you later,
Me again, it took me so long to write that other post that there were more replies waiting
Andrea - I am here, thanks for asking about me. As you will have seen in my other post, stupid PC virus is why I have been away.
Good luck with your WI tomorrow, and I hope you enjoy working out with the new stability ball you bought.
Jill - sorry you had a bit of an emotional time with Jeff. Sometimes it's hard not to let our insecurities get to us. Only last night, poor Daren who hasn't had nookies with me for over a year now, (coz of my surgery etc) was looking at me getting changed. It was like he could eat me all up. I got angry at him because all of a sudden I thought how can he fancy a fat cow like me. Not only am I fat but I have huge surgery scars and of course the ostomy. I snapped at him and said something like, yeah right, don't act like I am the sexiest thing you have ever seen. It was so wrong of me, but as always, he was understanding. He just gave me a cuddle and said he loves me and to him I am the sexiest thing he has ever seen. Aww I felt like such a heal. So we are ok, and I am glad you and Jeff are ok. Now for us both to keep these silly insecurities under control.
As for not wanting to go to that theme park place I don't blame you. Daren loves a place over here called Alton Towers. He used to go at least twice a year because he lived close to it. He wants to go again and I said, yes we will, but not until I can get on the rides. It's no fun for me watching him and the kids go on everything and me just standing there holding the bags etc. Also the park is one that you pay the Earth to get into and then go on as many rides as you want. I don't see the point in me paying all that money and then not fitting on anything. So hopefully next summer we will all be able to go. I will still probably have a tight squeeze onto the rides, but at least I should be able to get on them.
Jen - sorry you had a bad start to the day with your food choices. I am sure you will make up for it with better choices for the rest of the day. Just don't go hungry because then will be the time that you end up saying oh blow it, I'll be good again tomorrow.
I finally got to watch Supersize Me on TV the other night, and apart from how the guy was so ill after a month on McDonalds food, I was so shocked to learn that a ceasar salad is as high in calories as a burger and chips. I know which I would prefer
300+ and Ready To Try Again...#776
I haven’t had any problems with my cats spraying. My problem is the kids hamster and my two rats and the cats litter box. So sorry this had to happen before your trip 
I’ll look into some of the things that the pet store has, if the bitter apple turns into a treat, I guess I’ll have no choice but to try pepper.
to all the new ladies 
shame on me I should have posted before now - but I'm here now, right? 
Woohoo!
That's an awesome feeling!!! I'm also doing calorie counting/exercise and have found that a routine really helps keep me on track. I admit to having lots of success with food and less with exercise (I haven't been meeting all my exercise goals 
But like I said, we're okay now, and the most I strayed from my eating plan at all was a single Reese's peanut butter cup and fun-size Butterfinger crisp from a co-worker's Halloween basket on her desk yesterday 
I'm so excited for you to be going to TOPS. I have been a member since early March, and I used to go when I was a teen with my mother. They are GREAT for accountability (since you have to weigh-in every week and then tell everyone if you gained or lost), and some chapters are really active and do lots of contests and stuff. I hope this chapter is a good one for you! Ihave my TOPS meeting on Thursday nights, too 
I hope I am as strong when we go to the Pizza Hut next week.
congrats on the 45 lbs you have already lost. I have lost 18 and can't wait til I have lost at least 30 lbs. I think it's from then on that you really really notice a difference to what you look like and feel like. Keep up the excellent work, you have come to the right place to find all the motivation and support you need.
