So as many of you know I am newly single. update is the stupid ex is actually getting married this month. breaks my heart. Anyway, I am starting some online dating. I joined okcupid for potentially normal dates and tinder for "fun." Is anybody else completely new to this? I swear I am so far out of the game that I don't know how it works. I am also just stranger danger. How to meet up with somebody from tinder for "fun" or whatever and not worry that you are gonna be ax murdered?
Girl...we have got to talk. I have been online dating since 2003. It's an interesting experience.
Tinder...definitely for just "fun". Somewhat skewed toward 20's to early 30's.
Okcupid...Hit or miss. Also skewed to the same crowd.
Match.com...A bit better with "real" prospects.
Of course, factors of your age, race and pictures always play into people's level of interest.
I've been on more online dates than i can count. One hit my "weird" radar (though I confess, I like it when people are a little "weird")
Keep safe, check in with friends, public places... you dont have to give them your cell number now that most of us have smartphone apps. Always worth being cautious! Don't let it stop you from having fun
Not sure if you met the guy or not, kiwi1222, but you will not get killed if you use the regular precautions.
You meet them in a neutral safe location that you are comfortable with (Starbucks). Most of my dates tend to be in the afternoon while I'm running errands. That way if I'm not feeling him, I just say "Well, I really gotta run."
I use to do online dating. You get the weird ones, the nice ones, the ones looking for booty calls, and sometimes... you get a real crazy one. I one time had to call 911 and have a guy admitted to the psych ward for observation. We had only ever chatted by phone, and one day he told me he was going to commit suicide. I didn't know where he lived, but I convinced him to give me his address with the lie that I was going to come over. Instead I gave it to the police, and they did a wellness check and admitted him to the hospital. However, try explaining all this to the police and there is no way to explain it that isn't a crazy story! I'm just glad I was able to get the guy help. I don't think I would have been able to forgive myself if he actually had done something, and I didn't try to help him. (this kind of this is a rarity though I assure you! LOL)
LOL. I'm only laughing because most online dudes are flakey anyway. I used to get upset and think it was me. Then I realized that all my best dates came from people I met offline (at work, at a friend's party, etc.)
This is not knocking people that met their soulmate online. It's just a rare occurrence that the online thing will work out fine and dandy.
Trust me. It wasn't you...he may have been married and got caught by his wife.
I did Tinder, OkCupid and POF. I actually met really nice guys on Tinder that wanted to date and not just have fun. POF was a horrible experience. I did not stay on there for longer than two weeks, if that. OkCupid was hit or miss, but I did meet my fiance on there. We started off as friends and then started dating.
My coworker met her fiance on OkCupid as well. Another coworker was telling me about a new dating app called Bumble. Maybe you can give it a try. Do be careful though, as some of those people lieabout themselves. Good Luck!
Hi kiwi! I hope you've had better experience with the dating since your last post! Have you tried the site Meet up? It is not just for dating. It is where you can find groups of people that have similar interests and schedules outings to do them. Like a group of people that like to eat sushi, so they schedule group dinners. Or there are some for groups that like history, volunteering, etc. A friend was telling me about it.
So I haven't had any luck in the dating arena. I haven't been working really hard at it though. I've been sick and focusing on meeting my january wt loss goal which is likely not happening and just getting over this head cold. I did meet a guy a couple weekends ago at a bar/lounge. We did kiss that night and hooked up the following night. I was just looking for fun, but he seems to want to actually get to know me....lol. it was not what I had in mind with him in particular (he's quite a bit younger than me). Im gonna just ride this one out and see where it goes. I dance a lot and have started doing more social dance styles(salsa, tango etc). there are always dance parties/socials and I never went bc I knew that my ex would never go bc he doesn't dance and it would be kind of weird of me to have gone. I am going to a Salsa/bachata party this friday and then a tango party on saturday. Hopefully I can meet a guy that is single, likes to dance and isn't gay. Wish me luck. I am going to try meet ups though. There is another service in my local area called "events and adventures"...same idea. Im going to try them out....once I am feeling better anyway.
I have no advice because I haven't done it yet, but I will keep reading this thread because I'm sure it's coming up in my future, haha. This is just how things are done now I guess!
Tinder
ughhhhh.
