I remember the exact time and place i decided to lose weight. My good friend and i went to an eric church concert almost 2 years ago and as we were walking through the parking garage this huge group of guys yelled "now thats what i call cornfed!" at the time i was 160 lbs and i'm 5'7" my friend was 5'9" probably 200 lbs. Nobody had ever called me fat, ever. Isnt it sad that a mean comment from a random person would make someone want to lose weight that badly? What made you guys want to lose weight?
I had a guy walk up to me in the grocery store and ask me if I knew of anyone who wanted to lose weight. I just rolled my eyes, put my food back, and walked to my car to cry for an hour in my car. That's what was the last straw for me to lose weight. 160 is not "bad" in my book. I remember looking amazing at that weight.
Wow, I've never really have had strangers or anyone in public doing anything so rude like that, though that could be because I am deaf so I may have missed all of them (thankfully)! Now, "friends"/acquaintances and family, that's a different story...
Eek, you don't say stuff like that to a fat guy (and walk away). Some of the boys over in the men's section are well over 6 foot tall and pulling 300 pounds plus. You don't wanna mess with that. .
So, no, I have not had any fat comments except from family and friends.
A couple of months ago this woman I work with said something pretty dumb to me. We were at a conference and they tend to give away free t-shirts at these things. The keynote speaker was given a t-shirt and held it up to show the crowd. The key note was a small woman, like size small in tshirt world. They gave her an xl or xxl, something that was obviously too big for her. In the car on the way back, my coworker was talking about how funny that was and said "There is no way that shirt would fit her, it was more like your size." Gahhhhh, I was embarrassed. I mean, this woman isn't small herself. She could have used herself as an example, too! I just remember saying "Jeez!! that is RUDE! Why would you say that?!" LOL Grown people. You would expect that from junior high kids, not someones Mom. I still secretly dislike her for that stupid comment. Jerk.
The only time people other than family commented on my weight was in high school. Another girl would constantly make comments. She would tell her friends in a loud voice, "Guess what the fat girl ate for breakfast today?" Then she would turn to me and ask me what I had for breakfast. Or one time, we were waiting for class to start and she turned to me and asked me if I was waiting for the flood. I was confused and asked what she meant and she said, "It looks like you are waiting for a flood with that flotation device strapped around your stomach." Because of her, I dreaded going to school. I joined WW when I was 16 and lost around 30 lbs but my parents couldn't afford to keep paying the weekly fees so I lost motivation/support and gained the weight back and more. I graduated high school weighing 185 and I thought I was huge but now I would be happy to be back at 185.
Oh yeah, so many stories. One that was a complete turning point for me was a taxi driver, who I was paying to take me home, telling me that I'd be so much prettier if I wasn't so fat. "You have such a pretty face but you are let down by your body" - something along those lines. Aside from the fact that it was a dig at my weight, it was also INCREDIBLY inappropriate for a taxi driver to be saying that to me - I felt very uncomfortable, I actually wanted to get out of the taxi since I was alone, but it was a short ride so I just let it be.
I think it's so sad that so many of us can think of multiple times things like this have happened! Why can't everyone be as polite as the 3fc community? Haha, but seriously why do people think they have the right to comment on someone's weight? Idc if you're skinny or heavy, people should not be making these kinds of comments!
The sad part is that when they are throwaway comments by random strangers, we remember what they said 10 years down the track, but they will never know how hurtful they were. I had this happen to me years ago, I was just walking past a house that had a bunch of guys outside, and one of them made a comment about the ground shaking as I went by. I felt like punching him in the face! I hope he had a happy life. Not!
I get comments frequently. Usually it's directed at my ta-ta's... It doesnt seem to matter whether I wear a tshirt, tank top, sweater.. it kind of bothers me that they all think it is appropriate to discuss them.... friends, family memebers, strangers, co-workers... I dont think a week goes by!
People are horrible! I'm of indian origin and every time I'd to the motherland to visit family I get horrible comments from everyone - friends, family, the tailor! It put me off going there for ages.
I'm hoping that the next time I go it's the new, slimmer me. It just makes a visit to see my family that little bit easier.
I had been feeling slow and out of shape for a few months, since my youngest became a toddler and instead of needing mama to sit and rock and nurse she needed me to chase her everywhere. I vaguely decided around the first of the year to do something to improve my health in the near future, but I wasn't ready then.
At the end of January we went to the circus for my 6 year old's birthday. During intermission, the woman sitting next to me comment on my beautiful family. Then, she gestured toward my belly and asked me when I was due. Sigh. I laid in bed until 2am that morning googling workouts and reading success stories. That's what really got me motivated to get started.
The sad part is that when they are throwaway comments by random strangers, we remember what they said 10 years down the track, but they will never know how hurtful they were.
I concur that complete strangers can be horrible, but my breaking point is a bit more personal. My ex only put up with my weight insecurity probably a total of once. While I was with him I must have tried almost everything, but I kept falling into some really bad habits. Soda. Late night appetizers at Applebee's. odd sleeping patterns. Now I wish to God that this had been the moment I wanted to dump his butt, but alas my loyalty is as big as my gut when I've eaten too many salty snacks leading up to my time of the month.
We used to be into this past time called cosplaying, it's basically Halloween just not in October. Now there are very few overweight characters in anime, scifi... Really any media. Off handedly I said that I wished I could dress up as a really sexy character (I can't remember who now). So my ex lets out the "I'm exasperated with you" sigh and turns to me and says, "we'll you really can't complain about that because it's not like you're doing anything about your weight." This coming from the man who knew I was quitting soda and overheating and continued to buy 24 packs and make me pay for our boneless buffalo wings and appetizer samplers.
To all the people who posted some of their most embarrassing moments in this thread my heart goes out to you. I pray to God that you never have to hear anything like those nasty comments from someone that you are in love with, and who claims to love you "regardless". All we can do now is show them all the strength of our determination to show them exactly who they're missing out on by making snide comments.
I get comments frequently. Usually it's directed at my ta-ta's... It doesnt seem to matter whether I wear a tshirt, tank top, sweater.. it kind of bothers me that they all think it is appropriate to discuss them.... friends, family memebers, strangers, co-workers... I dont think a week goes by!
This. My boobs are apparently public property. My guy friends used to wad up pieces of their napkins when we went out and see who could get it down my shirt.
The worst was when I was on a dating site and I got a message from some guy I hadn't even contacted that just said "yeah... No."
Wow, people are so rude.
160 is not "bad" in my book. I remember looking amazing at that weight.
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