Hi, I have been stressed out with my biggest limitation -it has gotten far worse as I've gotten older and maybe it's part of why I remain so heavy this late in my fear of .. dogs because of bad bite from childhood.
Last edited by avalonmoon; 04-23-2013 at 12:29 PM.
Wow, that's rough. There's a dog-biting incident in our local news right now. Said dog mauled a 7-year-old girl (a neighbour), and the girl's mother is now suing the owners, asking that the dog be euthanized. I know emotions run high around this issue.
Do you have access to cognitive behavioral therapy services of any kind? CBT is very useful for these types of fears, and usually a few sessions are all that's required.
In my case, I am legally biind. This limits my activities greatly. Since I no longer am able to drive, I have to do my exercises in my neighborhood or in my home.
I can no longer read or do handicrafts. So I get bored, and tend to want to eat. But regaining the weight I have lost is something I do not want to do.
Yes, you probably wonder how I can use the Internet and 3fc if I am blind. It is with difficulty, as my vision continues to decrease. But the lighted PC screen is a help, and there are various additonal helps available to those who are visually impaired.
So I keep plugging away. We do just have to keep pushing against our individual limitations. I don't think there is any other solution.
i have agoraphobia. if you dont know what that is, its basically a horrible anxiety disorder that makes you scared to leave your house. luckily my boyfriend lives across the street and i have grocery stores/etc close to my house. i completely know what you mean.
i also live in a neighborhood that isnt *awful*, but i wouldnt feel comfortable walking around alone. along with the agoraphobia comes depression, which makes me feel exhausted and unmotivated.
we just have to realize that this journey may be tougher for us. im in therapy and take antidepressants which also cause weight gain/difficulty losing.
i really feel for you and know exactly what you mean. we'll make it though
It is true we all have our limitations and I feel for you with your struggle.
Actually reading th eother posts has made me feel wuite humbled because I have been winging on about my arthritic knees limiting my exercise and it ain't nothing compared with what some people have to cope with.
I'm on a medication called seroquel, it causes some people to eat uncontrollably in a haze. It's got me a few times where I take it, go to bed and suddenly I'm hungry. I've learned that I now can't get out of bed after I've taken it or else I will eat things I normally would say no to, or eat too much of something.
I have anxiety so I don't like working out outside, where people can see me. I've made a little gym in my home to overcome that though.
Wow, that's rough. There's a dog-biting incident in our local news right now. Said dog mauled a 7-year-old girl (a neighbour), and the girl's mother is now suing the owners, asking that the dog be euthanized. I know emotions run high around this issue.
Do you have access to cognitive behavioral therapy services of any kind? CBT is very useful for these types of fears, and usually a few sessions are all that's required.
Freelance
I feel sad when kids get attacked by them. Thanks Freelancemomma for the suggestion. I might get the nerve to get the therapy but I'll probablly try to get through it on my own, I have stated overcvoming some things w/o benefit of therapy. Time will tell.
I just wanted to tell you that no breed is more violent than another. Pitbulls have been used for fighting for decades, that's why they have a reputation of being violent, but if they grow in a loving family, they are lovely dogs. There's more people being bitten by labradors yearly than pitbulls, it's just that the media find it more interesting to make shocking news about pitbulls. Don't be afraid of the breed, be afraid of bad owners.
Juliast21, Wow, I didn't want to listed that one too but you also suffer from one of mine. I used to have such bad anxiety in leaving my home. I can get out now, not very often but more than when the agorophobia hit me. I have trouble going out in my street or even answering the door. I have worked my way to helping withthe groceries. That's one thing. I hope things get better for you- I very much can underrstand.
I am so sorry that happened to you. I would suggest therapy for sure. Though I understand not getting help as I should myself and am not currently. It is hard.
I suffer from panic disorder and agoraphobia. I was on meds but not anymore...long story there.
I don't drive and couldn't leave my house alone. Taking out the trash or doing laundry would cause me major panic attacks and require a peptalk just to get out the door. I remember once in a fairly bad time someone knocked on my door and I went into the bathroom ignoring it and sat on the floor in the dark and cried. It is very embarrassing for me because obviously that is far from a normal rational reaction lol.
But it takes just one step at a time to get better. Push yourself through the fear with baby steps. I am now walking every morning. I mostly only walk in the early mornings, before 7am because less traffic and people are out. But I am still going out. I even managed to ride the bus a few times which was a huge deal for me.
I have been working with meditation and affirmations which seem to be helping me alot. I also wear a prayer bead bracelet and when I start to panic can hold it and refocus to calm the panic attack. I just try to remind myself that I am stronger then I think I am.
There are tons of great workouts you can do at home though like videos. Though even if you don't want to go outside mostly from your own fear if your neighborhood isn't safe then maybe you can go somewhere else? Like if you drive find a nicer area with a park or a mall to walk in. I am a huge animal lover and nothing like that has ever happened to me, so I can't relate in that way But I do understand the fear and panic and it sucks. But you are not alone
I also suffer from agoraphobia and severe social anxiety. I've been pushing myself to get out more, walking in daylight and recently I went to a friend's house, and the hairdressers, the first time I had done anything like that in 3-4 years. I still can't go anywhere busy, like the town centre, or I panic and start freaking out. I'm learning to push the anxiety out of my mind. I read somewhere that we only feel anxious about things because we want to feel that way (don't know about that). Basically by focusing on the negative ("who's going to be looking at me, how many people will be there, what if they try and talk to me"), we are consumed by it. I've found that just letting it go, and not over-thinking everything allows me to leave the house and do things I haven't been able to in years. "Just do it", basically, has been working for me. I still freak out when anybody knocks on the door or rings me up, however.
rhats really cool that there are people with more severe anxiety disorders. well its not cool to have it, but now i dont feel so alone. I only recently started developing "panic disorder" which makes it harder for me to go out now, and im so new to this. Im a social butterfly, always had a slight problem with anxiety, but this is a huge deal for me. I just told myself I refuse to change my ways.. it scares me to leave my house sometimes but I do it anyway. I tell myself that i wont live my life in fear, yes i may be uncomfortable while im out for a bit, but i rather have a good time for a little bit even, then a miserable time stuck at home all day. i miss my old self, and its taking time to get there, but im working on it. its improving every day.
my limitations are physical ones...my lower spine is very twisted and with an extra vertebrae, as well as vertebrae that were collapsed inward from a bad fall as a teenager...ive suffered ruptured discs in the past also but right now things are as good as they'll get without surgery
i like to do alot of running and surprisingly my back has held out just fine for that i took two dance fitness classes last month though, and all the twisting and gyrating were H*LL on my lower back so i had to stop despite the fact that i loved it...
my other limitation is the random allergic reactions that i get, all occuring in the middle of a run and so far unable to pinpoint the cause....and I mean BAD reactions - full body hives, intensely bad hives, unfocused thinking, unable to concentrate, and throat sore and swelling
it suckssss to run and wonder if i'm going to have a bad reaction....so far allergy testing hasn't pinpointed anything obvious, just that i'm "mildly sensitive" to every single thing they've tested me for
oh wow...you are all amazing people...to get over such limitatins and lose like you do...i have osteo arthritis in my spine causing spurs and floating bits of bone..was really pain free and kinda fit before a car accident 5 years ago..that is when i started to have severe pain from the arthritis (i also have shermans disease which is a curvature of the spine)...i have numbness in both of my legs..comes and goes depending on how long i am on them...i did have severe sleep apnoea which zapped all of my strength and made me very tired..but we have that under control now with a cpap machine...i am also diabetic and suffer pcos which i find makes it harder to lose weight...seems like my body wants to hold onto all this fat no matter what i do...sigh...so i take the attitude that if i increase my physical activity gradually and also eat well i should lose slowly...i have tried the gym and after 3 months i hurt soo much i stopped...i can walk a little and improving everyday but the pain and the numbness is very discouraging...the best thing for me is exercising in the pool...i have to get back into that when the local pool opens again which is in a couple of weeks..they have just finished fixing a major leak and refurbishing it and i am visiting a physio therapist for an exercise program so all is good....wishing everybody wellness cheers liz
Does anyone here suffer with limitations?
But the lighted PC screen is a help, and there are various additonal helps available to those who are visually impaired.
I am so sorry that happened to you. I would suggest therapy for sure. Though I understand not getting help as I should myself and am not currently. It is hard.
