I was just remembering a comment that my husband made inadvertently about my weight in front of other people that embarrassed me a few years back at my high weight. He never even knew it bothered me and I never told him - just privately cringed. Actually, it was in the context of mentioning something sweet that he did.
We were with a few other couples and somehow the conversation turned to having husbands buy feminine hygiene products or makeup or other girlie things at the store for their wives. Some men said they would never buy that kind of stuff and others said they would in an emergency. My husband spoke up and said that he picks up whatever I put on a shopping list for him (and he does!). It doesn't bother him. He then went on to prove this by showing people that he knew the names and absorbancy features of various tampons or pads, and also mentioned that he knew to buy "Queen Sized" pantyhose (not realizing that queen size means plus size and isn't a size that any chick wants to buy)! The other women looked uncomfortable (all skinny), realizing his faux pas immediately.
As I was newly fat, this was particularly humiliating, but my husband looked so proud and was smiling about the brownie points he hoped he had earned with me in front of our friends (he wasn't too macho to shop for women's items, unlike some of our friends - which in turn made him even MORE macho - right?)
Ack...I didn't have the heart to burst his bubble and tell him off. It was sweet, even if it was also mortifying.
Anyone have any other "foot in mouth by significant others regarding your weight" stories to share?
My husband is honest to a fault. I certainly DID fault him a couple of years ago when I asked him the classic question, "How does this skirt look on me?" and he answered, "It makes you look wide." Um, thanks, hubs!
My husband is honest to a fault. I certainly DID fault him a couple of years ago when I asked him the classic question, "How does this skirt look on me?" and he answered, "It makes you look wide." Um, thanks, hubs!
Last year my boyfriend at the time and I somehow started a conversation about our insecurities. He told me his, and when he was done I said I really only had one. Before I could tell him what it was, his response was "Awe but I love your body babe..." 0.o I was going to say the scar I have on my stomache 0.o
... my husband saw a friend of mine with me as we were leaving my house to go to the gym and he giggled and said that we could pass for sisters ( were very similar looking both 5'6 both tan both waist length black hair ie typical indian looks )
then commented that were pretty girls and told me that she looked like the "after" picture of me
My husband is honest to a fault. I certainly DID fault him a couple of years ago when I asked him the classic question, "How does this skirt look on me?" and he answered, "It makes you look wide." Um, thanks, hubs!
My wife is the same way. Who in their right mind would look at their 7 months pregnant wife in a maternity shirt and say "I don't like it. It makes you look really big!". She would, apparently!
My husband is another of those "honest to a fault" types. But... he knows to keep his mouth shut if he can't say something nice. So, he'll say nothing. His mother who lives with us though is the same way about honesty, but she has NO FILTER. She'll say what she thinks and doesn't think about how people will feel about it.
So, this can turn into a not so nice combination at home.
Here I am losing weight, rediscovering my body shape after years of being fat -decades of being fat and my mother in law says to me that I don't have a waist. That I'm not built like a woman with a nice waist. That from behind I don't "go in" like I should. She said I looked nice, but I wasn't shapely. Huh? My measurements are 40-31-41. Sounds like I have a waist.
So, I go and look in a mirror at myself from behind and well, I don't go in much from rib cage to waist. Front the front my boobs make me look more shapely. My rib cage is 34. Boobs add 6".
Basically, I'm a bit bugged and now a bit self-conscious. So, I ask my husband, "Do I have a waist? Your mom says I don't". And he looks at me and turns me around and says, "Well, you do, but it's not very defined."
I was blissfully unaware of how "straight" I looked from behind. Well, not anymore.
Last edited by berryblondeboys; 03-30-2012 at 07:30 AM.
I am fortunate that my husband knows I am sensitive about my weight, and he's not foolish enough to ever say anything except, "You look exactly the same to me as you did 20 years ago." lol
I did have a boyfriend once who was an idiot. I was complaining about the selection of petite clothing (I am 5'0" with stubby legs and have to sometimes even get petite length pants hemmed). He said, "But you're so NOT petite." (He didn't realize that petite means length.) I was like, "Thanks, jerk."
Prior to my weightloss my DH would never comment on how I looked, good or bad. There were so many times I wanted him to say I looked beautiful. Now, he gives me all sorts of nice compliments and while I appreciate them, in the back of my mind I wonder what he was actually thinking all those years we were married.
Now, however, when we go out and I get compliments from other people, I say, could you please tell my husband that. LOL, he absolutely does not know how to respond to these random people coming up to him and complimenting him on his wife.
My husband is so sweet and never ever says anything even slightly insulting to me. But he did make an inadvertantly insulting comment to me once that he felt horrible about.
We were watching a show that mentioned the average size of women in American is a size 16. He said (outraged) "No way the average size is that BIG", I said "Babe, I'm a size 16!" He quickly back pedalled, feeling awful that he didn't realize he was insulting me by saying that. It only hurt my feelings a little bit because I know he didn't intend on it being a comment that hurt my feelings.
... my husband saw a friend of mine with me as we were leaving my house to go to the gym and he giggled and said that we could pass for sisters ( were very similar looking both 5'6 both tan both waist length black hair ie typical indian looks )
then commented that were pretty girls and told me that she looked like the "after" picture of me
i was pisseddddddd lol
Wow!!!! I would be mad too. Last week I put on my fiancee's shirt and he says man if u could wear my shirt i defnitely need to lose weight. I was soooo mad. He regretted saying it as soon as he shut his mouth. Then he tried taking it back.
It's funny that when my fiancee catches other guys checking me out he'll start showering me with compliments like "you're so pretty" and blah blah blah lol. he's funny like that
Last week I put on my fiancee's shirt and he says man if u could wear my shirt i defnitely need to lose weight. I was soooo mad. He regretted saying it as soon as he shut his mouth. Then he tried taking it back.
My boyfriend once told me that if I lost weight he'd be more attracted to me...not because I would be thinner but because he'd be proud of the hard work I put in. Im still not entirely sure how I feel about that. Sorta seems like he was just trying to find a way to tell me that he wished I'd lose weight :/
Stupid Stuff Your Man/Woman Has Said
The other women looked uncomfortable (all skinny), realizing his faux pas immediately.
