I do get you!
However, rule number one.
"Life is not fair!"
If life was fair, I wouldn't be hanging out here!
3-4 pounds a month is good.
My best tip. I have a calendar hanging above my scale in the bathroom. I weigh myself every morning. Write it on the calendar.
Evaluate at the end of the month. In losing mode, if I was less at the end than at the beginning, I'm a winner!
In maintaining, as long as I'm maintaining, I'm a winner!
I have done this, through my DH's horrific hand injury, 15 months off work, 3 amputations, and then his A-fib heart condition, and meds and surgery, and more meds, currently, most likely, he will either have a severe stroke and be a veg or die from his condition.
Currently, we are taking each day as it comes and spending as much time as we can with our granddaughters!
It's not an easy row to hoe, but it is what we have, so we make the best of it.