Just some blabbing a bit about something on my mind. Now that I'm losing, I'm noticing (at least so far) that my boobs are not shrinking. Actually, they are looking bigger as the rest of me is getting smaller. I do NOT want to be 175 pounds and wearing a G cup bra, But I think that might happen.
I have always said that once I am done having babies, I would look into getting a breast reduction. I HATE being all boobs. I have permanent indentations on my shoulders from decades of bras weighing down on me. I'm sure it pulls me off balance and with age, they will get bigger and hang lower.
However, the idea of a reduction is unappealing too. It's not a simple surgery (unlike implants). WIth the size of my breasts, they would need to take out tissue, lift and move my nipples. THIS is the part that a. grosses me out and b. means that I will lose sensitivity. They are well, um, an important part of sexual play, so my husband wouldn't be happy and I wouldn't either! What's the point of having nipples if they don't function?
I feel the heaviness and sometimes my back hurts. I just HATE IT. My teenage son took some updated photos as people having been asking for updates and with 24 lbs down, all I can see is BOOBS. I hate it. I can't wear bathing suits that tie around the neck because the weight of the breasts give me a crimp in the neck. I have to special order bras. It's just awful.
Of course, my husband loves my breasts, but he doesn't have to carry them around and I'm getting more self conscious of them as they are looking bigger as I'm getting smaller everywhere else. Yes, my chest has shrunk 2", but that's from my rib cage, not the breasts themselves.
What do I do? Either surgery (and I'm sure I could get insurance to cover the cost of surgery) or learning to live and love them. How do I do that? The point to the floor (always have) and when I'm sitting almost reach to my belly button. So not sexy! Between having hanging skin (wich I'm sure I'll have on my belly) and pendulous breasts, I'm going to feel so super ugly.
Thoughts? Here's the picture my son just took of me: Here's another in a different top taken the same day. This is after 24 lbs down. When my tummy and hips get smaller, the girls are going to look more and more out of proportion, I just know it!:
Give it some time, I think they'll go down too eventually. Usually for me the first fat to go is my face and my boobs. My hips and thighs like to stay full the longest.
Frankly, I think this is a mind issue. You do not look unusually proportioned to me.
See and that's it I think. I have a very large frame (wrists are 7.25" around). I have broad shoulders, a big rib cage, big hips, etc.) So, when I was younger NO ONE knew I wore the size bra that I did. Back then I was stuffing myself into DDs as that's all that was available, but I had boob spillage on the sides and everywhere.
I honestly don't know what size bra I will wear when the weight comes off as I didn't wear the correct size eons ago, but I know they will never be small.
My sister LOVES her big breasts and has always flaunted them and used them to her advantage. I've always hated them and have tried to cover them up. My husband has helped me a bit with making me realize (sort of) that they are an asset, but I'm so self-conscious of them. Why is that?
Even before I had breasts I was hoping I didn't get much. WHile other girls were chanting, "We must, we must, we must increase our bust." I was begging mother nature to not endow me with too much. Instead, I got the biggest 'girls' in the family! Wah!!!
Why have I always been so modest about my body? Even when I was thin and fit. I can look now and SEE that I had a lovely figure, but I never felt good about it then because I was always so big everywhere! I'm a large person who would love to be a petite! Why is that???
I'm worried about the same thing! Oh, no... I have no input, but I do want to say that you arent alone.
My band has decreased but my on-the-cusp of DD's have not. Not at ALL. Those "around the girls" measurements have changed exactly .5 in all my 40 lbs lost... and I'm 90% sure it was backfat, LOL.
I can relate to this. I'm wearing a 36DDD right now. When I was smaller, I wore a 34G. My boobs never shrank. The rest of me did, but the cup size got bigger as I went down in the band. I'm having the same issues right now.
Still, I don't think you look out of proportion. I think you look fine. My bust measures at 42" and my hips at 41". I guess that is proportioned. I would never get a reduction, but I understand why people do. My "twin" cousin had a reduction (big boobs run in the family), and she looks great. I just don't think I could do it, though.
I can totally relate to hating the big boobs. I HATE them. I hate wearing a bra. I hardly ever wear one...I just somehow manage to cover them up. I'm afraid to wear a bra for fear of hitting someone in the face with my boobs. I never wanted big boobs. Strange how that works...every day girls are praying for big boobs and they get the small ones. Those of us who prayed for small ones get stuck with the big ones. It is UNCOMFORTABLE. I just want to be able to wear cute little tee shirts, COMFORTABLY, without STANDING OUT in a crowd.
Give it some time, I think they'll go down too eventually. Usually for me the first fat to go is my face and my boobs. My hips and thighs like to stay full the longest.
Yep. Wait till your closer to your goal weight before trying to make that decision..even if they are still big, they won't be as big as they are now. Mine go from DDD to DD and even a D, so once yours are smaller, if you still want to do a reduction, it might not be as drastic as it would be now.
Yep. Wait till your closer to your goal weight before trying to make that decision..even if they are still big, they won't be as big as they are now. Mine go from DDD to DD and even a D, so once yours are smaller, if you still want to do a reduction, it might not be as drastic as it would be now.
For them to get smaller, they had to be smaller in the first place. They never were. When I was 16 and in high school and through college, I stuffed them in a DD. They didn't fit, but that's all the bigger I could get a bra. I had boob spillage on the sides and in front, my bra never laid flat to my chest as it should. After I had my first, I got fitted - I need a G cup (DD is an E, so two sizes larger than a DD). I have been up and down in weight and I have never, ever had to change a cup size. Band size, yes, cup size no. So, my guess is that I will be at the smallest, an F, one cup size down from what I am now. MAYBE.
Of course, I won't make any decisions now, but I want to be able to wear cute clothes but I will have monster boobs. YUCK!
So when I was 115 lbs in high school, I wore a size D cup. After I had 2 kids and settled in at 170ish lbs a few yrs after having them, I was a 36DDD. I stayed that size until 150ish lbs, when I came down to a 36DD (yay!). Now at 135 lbs, I'm a 34D. Ever since I was in high school, I wanted a reduction. However, I'm now thinking just a lift would be good, but I wouldnt mind being a small C. I'll hopefully have Plastic surgery consults soon.... I never thought I'd say that I'd be considering just a lift even at 165 lbs.
So just keep trucking along. I'm a little shorter than you, but I really think your boobs will shrink eventually. Right now I do agree you look proportionate. But I know how painful and almost embarrassing having big boobs can be, so I feel for you. In the past, I decided losing the feeling is worth the pain, grooves etc, but it wasn't easy. I'm hoping a lift decreases the chances of losing feeling, but I'm not sure. It's not an an easy choice though
Last edited by pinkflower; 03-21-2011 at 02:27 PM.
Watching Dancing with the Stars. I'm going to look like Wendy Williams when I take the rest of this weight off...all boobs and a bigger hour glass figure. I hate that! (well, a white person's version).
I say you're probably gonna have to learn to love them and try to see the good in them your hubby sees unless you are willing to go through with surgery. There is no guarantee you will like them post-surgery either though. I think what you're really searching for is a way to accept their size and the fact that it's a pain you have to bear although you'd rather not. I know their size might offend your sense of modesty but breasts are naturally appealing as our instincts tell us they are a source of nourishment. There really isn't anything we can do to negate that natural appeal although the concept might make us uncomfortable b/c society over-sexualizes them.
I agree with those who say you look fine. I have a large chest too it's usually a DD-DDD depending on the bra and I have seen E cups during my post-pardum stage. They are not and have never been anything resembling perky or what you'd see in boob job photos but I have never had a complaint from a male about them. I have a friend who's an A cup and no male has ever complained about hers either. Like I said, they have a natural appeal.
I don't know what to tell you about the weight of them. My back also hurts and my spine is arthritic which doesn't help but I am not a candidate for non-essential surgery so losing weight is my hope for relief. Well, that and to keep buying Bali bras b/c they way they are made makes them so the bras don't rub me raw or poke me. I haven't worn another brand of bra in years. I have actually broken underwires in inferior bras. I bet others have too. They should seriously use ladies like us to do product testing on bras.
Thank Goodness that the hubby likes them as they are b/c that's how they are staying. I've told him they are gonna sag more as I age and he says everything on both of us will sag more as we age. It happens.
Just some blabbing a bit about something on my mind. Now that I'm losing, I'm noticing (at least so far) that my boobs are not shrinking. Actually, they are looking bigger as the rest of me is getting smaller. I do NOT want to be 175 pounds and wearing a G cup bra, But I think that might happen.
I have always said that once I am done having babies, I would look into getting a breast reduction. I HATE being all boobs. I have permanent indentations on my shoulders from decades of bras weighing down on me. I'm sure it pulls me off balance and with age, they will get bigger and hang lower.
However, the idea of a reduction is unappealing too. It's not a simple surgery (unlike implants). WIth the size of my breasts, they would need to take out tissue, lift and move my nipples. THIS is the part that a. grosses me out and b. means that I will lose sensitivity. They are well, um, an important part of sexual play, so my husband wouldn't be happy and I wouldn't either! What's the point of having nipples if they don't function?
I feel the heaviness and sometimes my back hurts. I just HATE IT. My teenage son took some updated photos as people having been asking for updates and with 24 lbs down, all I can see is BOOBS. I hate it. I can't wear bathing suits that tie around the neck because the weight of the breasts give me a crimp in the neck. I have to special order bras. It's just awful.
Of course, my husband loves my breasts, but he doesn't have to carry them around and I'm getting more self conscious of them as they are looking bigger as I'm getting smaller everywhere else. Yes, my chest has shrunk 2", but that's from my rib cage, not the breasts themselves.
What do I do? Either surgery (and I'm sure I could get insurance to cover the cost of surgery) or learning to live and love them. How do I do that? The point to the floor (always have) and when I'm sitting almost reach to my belly button. So not sexy! Between having hanging skin (wich I'm sure I'll have on my belly) and pendulous breasts, I'm going to feel so super ugly.
Thoughts? Here's the picture my son just took of me: Here's another in a different top taken the same day. This is after 24 lbs down. When my tummy and hips get smaller, the girls are going to look more and more out of proportion, I just know it!:
First I'd like to say that you and your family are beautiful!
It's so hard to say what to do, breast reduction is a very personal decision, and it's not for everyone.
For several years I liked the thought of having breast reduction (BR), because my breasts were always so much larger than the rest of me. I was literally ALL boobs and HATED it with a passion. Despite the back, neck, shoulder pain, having to buy shirts several sizes larger than bottoms, bra strap indentations in my shoulders, etc...it wasn't for me at the time.
Almost 2 years ago I had BR to ease severe, chronic back pain, as a last resort for pain relief kind of thing due to injury. Let me tell you, I wish I had done it ages ago! I cannot believe the difference in back, neck & shoulder pain, as well as how much better I feel about my body. I ALWAYS HATED my breasts and I actually love them now! I honestly never thought I'd say that I like my breasts, let alone love them. Please don't get me wrong, I still have back pain, BUT it is injury related, NO longer anything to do with my breasts.
I think you'd be very surprised at the number of women that DO have the same or more nipple sensation after BR. Loss of sensation is often a temporary side effect, more so than permanent in many instances; unless an FNG is done as part of the reduction.
That said, whether or not to have BR is a big decision and there are a lot of things to consider. I wish you the best with whatever you decide. If you'd like more information or have questions about BR, please feel free to PM me. I'd be happy to discuss it with you and I can provide you with the web address for a good BR resource / support forum that is very informative.
(Please note: I'm NOT saying that I'm a surgeon or a doctor. It's always best to consult a medical professional)
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Originally Posted by berryblondeboys
For them to get smaller, they had to be smaller in the first place. They never were. When I was 16 and in high school and through college, I stuffed them in a DD. They didn't fit, but that's all the bigger I could get a bra. I had boob spillage on the sides and in front, my bra never laid flat to my chest as it should. After I had my first, I got fitted - I need a G cup (DD is an E, so two sizes larger than a DD). I have been up and down in weight and I have never, ever had to change a cup size. Band size, yes, cup size no. So, my guess is that I will be at the smallest, an F, one cup size down from what I am now. MAYBE.
Of course, I won't make any decisions now, but I want to be able to wear cute clothes but I will have monster boobs. YUCK!
I never lost breast mass when I've lost weight. I was told by my OBGYN, and the plastic surgeon that did my BR (as well as a few other consults) that my breasts contained very little fat tissue, and LOTS of dense, breast tissue. Everyone is different, but this could be the case for you as well. Something to consider at any rate.
The most important thing is to feel comfortable with yourself. Whether that takes surgery or a learning to love your breasts, do what it takes.
I haven't lost any weight in my chest either. I'm actually looking at this from the other side, though. My chest has always had a severe asymmetry, and my right is tuberous (where the nipple is at the bottom instead of centered on the breast, and points downward). One of my main reasons to lose this weight is that I'm getting breast implants. I'm currently a 34C, and looking to be a 34DD. I assure you implants aren't always an easy surgery. On my right breast, my surgeon told me that I would need a lift to get optimal results. I would also need to have my nipple moved up, and the inside of my chest cut like an accordion so that the implant will sit lower and leave me with normal shape. On my left, I would need to have the nipple moved up slightly as well. He said that the loss of nipple sensation is only temporary. It starts to come back after a couple of months, and sometimes comes back even more! I'm pretty excited about that since I have little sensation there as it is. (What's the point of having nipples if they don't function?) And to answer that, even if you don't have a lot of sensation, I assure you nipple/breast play is still just as fun. It just takes a bit more pressure. I'm sure you won't lose 100% sensation, if you lose any at all.
I would talk to a surgeon about the surgery and express your concerns with them. My PS told me that the only way that sensation could be lost is if they cut too deep, since moving the nipple is only cutting just into the skin, not deep enough to cut all of the nerves. Another good part of talking to the surgeon is figuring out the insurance part. Mine told me for women getting reductions he has to take pictures of the bras cutting into their shoulders and send them to the insurance agency in order for them to be covered.
If you want to even consult with a surgeon, I really do recommend justbreastimplants.com, and go to their 'locate a surgeon' link. I know its an implant site, but I've seen many amazing doctors on there that do great reductions, too. That's how I found my surgeon.
What to do with the girls?
Please don't get me wrong, I still have back pain, BUT it is injury related, NO longer anything to do with my breasts.
