Personally, I would interpret her comment more as a generic "good for you." If you were getting married and she said "lucky duck" you would (hopefully) assume she meant "congratulations, I'm happy for you and hope for the same for myself one day," not "how did you manage to land a husband - it must be luck, because it can't be anything you can take credit for."
I do feel "lucky" to be losing weight permanently this time. I've been struggling with my weight since I was 5, and I put so much effort into it, and experienced so little success, that I feel "lucky" in comparison. I'm losing slower, but to be honest, I'm putting almost no effort in. It's been a breeze and a cakewalk compared to other attempts.
It may sound crazy, but I'm half afraid to try harder, because in the past whenever I tried to work hard at weight loss, it backfired. I'd work so hard that I was miserable and would give up too soon, because the results never seemed to match the effort. The harder I worked, the hungrier and crazier I got (and was more likely to binge).
I lost the last 85 lbs with almost no effort at all, just because I learned that 1) I need to be on some form or birth control or I binge insanely during PMS/TOM. 2) reducing carbs, reduces hunger and I can lose weight on more calories.
Those were very lucky discoveries, because they require very little effort on my part to lose weight. I've gotten to the point that I have to do alot more to lose weight, and to be honest, it's scaring me a bit, because it's uncharted waters. I learned how to do effortless weight loss, and I've learned that gung-ho effort doesn't work, I have very little exprience with the middle.
I do know that I can't put myself in the "work as hard as possible" mindset, because that tends to backfire on me (more power to those for which it doesn't).
Last edited by kaplods; 11-05-2010 at 07:52 PM.
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