Weird Co-Worker Comment
 

One of my co-workers looked at me yesterday and said, "Have you lost weight?" and I said, "Yes" and she said, "Lucky Duck!"

I just stared blankly and said, "trust me, it wasn't luck"

It's frustrating to work so hard on weight loss and have people think it was just a stroke of luck!

lol what was her reaction to your response?

I think though she didn't mean it as you didn't work hard- she's probably "tried" to lose weight but hasn't done it.

I wouldn't take it that she assumed you just happened to get lucky and lose it I think she means you are lucky to be able to lose it. Like beerab said, she has probably tried and has not had any luck.

I would take it as a compliment if it were me.:)

Yeah, I know she didn't mean it to be mean. She is a little overweight herself so I'm sure she has struggled with diets in the past. After I said that she said, well whatever you have lost I have probably gained! So I felt kind of bad for her after that.

Oh, I don't know...I wouldnt take it as a jab at you. I think she meant 'Luck' as in your good fortune? Not that you didn't work for it. But I could see how it could seem offensive.

She probably didn't mean to be mean - but your response was spot on!

Personally, I would interpret her comment more as a generic "good for you." If you were getting married and she said "lucky duck" you would (hopefully) assume she meant "congratulations, I'm happy for you and hope for the same for myself one day," not "how did you manage to land a husband - it must be luck, because it can't be anything you can take credit for."


I do feel "lucky" to be losing weight permanently this time. I've been struggling with my weight since I was 5, and I put so much effort into it, and experienced so little success, that I feel "lucky" in comparison. I'm losing slower, but to be honest, I'm putting almost no effort in. It's been a breeze and a cakewalk compared to other attempts.

It may sound crazy, but I'm half afraid to try harder, because in the past whenever I tried to work hard at weight loss, it backfired. I'd work so hard that I was miserable and would give up too soon, because the results never seemed to match the effort. The harder I worked, the hungrier and crazier I got (and was more likely to binge).

I lost the last 85 lbs with almost no effort at all, just because I learned that 1) I need to be on some form or birth control or I binge insanely during PMS/TOM. 2) reducing carbs, reduces hunger and I can lose weight on more calories.

Those were very lucky discoveries, because they require very little effort on my part to lose weight. I've gotten to the point that I have to do alot more to lose weight, and to be honest, it's scaring me a bit, because it's uncharted waters. I learned how to do effortless weight loss, and I've learned that gung-ho effort doesn't work, I have very little exprience with the middle.

I do know that I can't put myself in the "work as hard as possible" mindset, because that tends to backfire on me (more power to those for which it doesn't).

Great post Kaplods! I guess it was just a new reaction to my weightloss, so it seemed strange. The usual ones are how did you do it? You look great! Etc.. so that is what I was expecting.

I relate to your feelings about not wanting to "try harder" I'm doing this the slow, manageable way this time. And while it has taken me 10 months to take off 45, it's worth it because this is a plan I can truly stick to for life.