All last week I made plans with two people from work who I have known for a long time and we have become good friends. They both want to lose weight and I've been trying to motivate them to join my fight. They were very motivated and excited when we made plans this weekend to get together to do light work outs!

Yesterday I went swimming at my complex pool and this is where we were suppose to meet and do a little light swimming. I waited for nearly an hour as I know she tends to run late. Never showed. I called her from the house and she never answered-in fact her phone rang twice and went to voicemail. She hit ignore on me!

Then this morning my other friend and I were suppose to get together and do one of my P90X videos and then have a light breakfast. That was over an hour ago and she still is not answering my calls or texts. I even sent a reminder text last night asking if we were still on....no answer.

I'm so upset and kinda hurt! These are friends who have joined me in the weight loss challenge at work and who have opened up to ME about how much they want to lose weight! I just can't believe it.

WTF??

Don't get mad at them... feel bad for them! They're obviously not ready to become fabulously healthy like you!

They probably do want to lose weight, and it is easy to TALK about losing the weight, the dieting, the exercising... but when it comes time to walk the walk (so to speak) some people just aren't there yet. I've been having problems with this since I've decided to try again. Am I really ready or am I just TALKING the TALK? This last week...well, that was all talk. I saw the numbers go up on my scale and I know where I've gone wrong so now I'm ready to get back to the WALK!

I know how frusturated you must feel. The important thing to remember is your doing this for you. Maybe your friends just aren't mentally and emotionally at the same place you are. But I am, and everyone here, has been there and are here for ya

So you go workout and just think about how envious those friends are going to be when you get to go skinny jean shopping

you know that saying don't let your mouth get you into something you @ss can't handle?
i think they probably really thought they wanted to do these things- but then faced with the reality of it- putting on a swim suit in public, doing a workout you know is going to kick your butt... well... i agree they're just not ready.
it's hard but i'd try not to take it too personally. maybe in a few months when they see you're still at it and you haven't died from the effort they'll change their minds.
just don't let it cause you to lose your steam- keep swimming and doing the video without them. you rock it!!

happens all the time, that's why i prefer to go solo.
if they see results later they regret not going with you

The one thing I've learned over the years is that weight loss is very much a solo journey. Yes, we get support and encouragement here and our friends and family might provide some of that occasionally, but this is really our journey. We make the commitment, we make the daily decisions, we struggle and we become stronger through it all. Yes, we'd love to have someone do this with us, but it rarely works out like that. My husband is also very overweight. I've waited for months for him to do this with me. I can't wait anymore. As much as I love him, he has his journey and I have mine.

Sorry to hear that!

I agree with many of the previous posts about them not being ready. HOWEVER, that is NO excuse for them being rude about it.

If they weren't ready, they could have answered your call or at the least texted you back so that you weren't there just waiting. I mean you do have a life too.

Keep on going though girl, don't stop!! You can do it. With or without them. Sometimes people just end up getting in the way anyways

So far, they are having trouble finding the commitment they need to do this. YOUR main objective should be to keep on going no matter what they do, whether you have buddies along or not. Eventually it all comes down to you and your own efforts.

Hang in there! Good luck! Do those workouts!

Jay

They probably aren't ready to tackle or face their problems yet.

I agree...you can have plenty of support on your weight loss journey, but in the end it's a solo trip.

I agree

First off, KUDOS to you for sticking with it, that's what is most important.

I am sort of going through the same thing with my neighbour. She wants to loose weight and starts off with gusto, but 4 days in there is always an excuse "I worked so hard today" "Im not feeling well" (which I have mentioned to her how much better she DOES feel when she eats right and exercises)
"I can't afford the 'good' food until payday"
"I have company coming over"
"I have to go out for coffee with so and so"

I finally got to the point where I don't offer anymore, I don't suggest, she's obviously not at the point she really wants to do anything about her weight, she just wants to complain about it. BUT, I wont listen to that either anymore. When she starts to make her complaints, I simply cut her off in as nice a way as possible and remind her "You know what you need to do to get it done, it's just a matter of what you want more. Smaller clothes or the excuse"

You ladies are right. I am so glad to have people remind me that I am ready to continue my journey and that I can't let others let me fall just because they aren't ready.

BTW-I set up another work out time this evening with one of the same friends who set me up. This time it is at her apartment and I'm not letting her out of it!

You ladies are all rockstars to me!

that is just rude and inconsiderate. You work them into your schedule and you're wasting your time waiting for them. argh!

I work out alone too. My best friend keeps saying she wants to come workout in the morning with me but never shows up....I just keep doing my thing It's what you are gonna have to do girlie....don't wait for anyone!