Fat, overweight, big, obese, hefty, chubby, big-girl, full-sized, ginormous, etc.
How many of you have been called any of those words (or other words) that describe your weight? Did it (does it) hurt your feelings? How do you cope? And what do YOU call yourself?
As for me, I call myself "fat". Cause that's what it is to me. I've often referred to myself as "chubbalicious" because I don't think that being fat makes me undesirable in any way. But mostly I just say "Hey, I'm fat." Calling it "overweight" or any other word doesn't make the fact any less factual!
But if someone else calls attention to my "plumpness" (hey, there's another word!) I do get a bit riled. One woman I work with has pointed out on more than one occasion that I "shovel in the food" and it DOES bother me because I DO have a tendency to eat fast (it's one of my faults that I AM STILL working on!) and yet, if she flat out called me fat, I wouldn't care. I don't get it. ALLUDE that I'm fat, (or overweight, or whatever) and I'm angry. SAY I'm fat, and I'll just agree with you!
One time I was told by a guy, "Well, you're a BIG girl, not gonna lie to you, not like there's anything wrong with that..." and I got soooo offended for some reason!
I usually refer to myself as a "fat kid" because it's goofy and it gives the impression that I'm comfortable and not touchy about my weight, which is SO not the truth, but nobody wants to be that sensitive person nobody wants to offend... so I just take the brunt of it and pretend I don't care. Like, "are you serious? Nobody saved a sweet potato for the fat kid?" or "Sorry but some of us fat kids can't sprint up the stairs like you do *pant pant*" all with a wide smile.
I can't really say I've had anyone say any words to me, but I know people think things. I also think that I'm more self conscious of it because I used to be so much smaller.
Do you think that maybe that woman's comments were just a comment about how you eat, and nothing to do with your weight? My hubs eats really fast and shovels, and I've said that to him jokingly .. he's not fat
Some people just don't think before they say things.
I call myself fat, because I am. It doesn't really hurt my feelings when people bring it up, but I like to bring it up before them in a joking way if I can tell the convo is going in that direction. I do however feel that my weight makes me unattractive. I have to admit I like the way my butt looks in some boyshorts, but this stomach has got to go.
When I feel good about myself, I call myself curvy and sexy
When I feel bloated, horrible and disgusting, I call myself fat
I've been called lots of things: big, fat, short, cute, beautiful, pretty, chunky, curvy...
Most people don't have the audacity to say horrible things to your face. Those type of comments I've learned aren't worth my time to think about it. It's common for people to put down other people to make themselves feel better.
I love your chubbalicous nickname. I call myself chunkymonkey, bubble butt, thunderthighs.
My close girlfriends who are of similar size and want to lose weight - we call each other FA (eff Ay). Short for fat a... you know. But if someone outside our group were to call one of us heavy, fat or whatever, it does hurt.
A coworker who has gained about 15lbs recently (She is probably borderline BMI overweight, but as we all know, that still looks pretty normal). She has been suffering with back problems and was talking to another coworker about the issue. The other person actually said to her that it was probably because of her weight gain, and made some comment regarding her being overweight and the weight that she has gained. This really hurt my friend. Its one thing for me to joke with her and call her FA, but we do it on a friend level. For this other person to tell her the truth, but in a matter of fact manner - really hurt.
Even now, I sometimes look in the mirror and my mental dialogue is "what a fat @ss." I'm almost incapable of referring to my weight in a positive way. I really hope that's something I'll be able to change.
You name it, I've been called it!!! I usually refer to myself as fluffy but let's face it....it's fat!! I haven't really been called anything since high school. You know how cruel kids can be but sometimes you just know what people are trying to say without actually saying anything. I had finally become the kind of person who would try to beat you to the punch and say something about being fat before anybody else had a chance to!
You really are treated differently because of size! It's almost like its pre-programmed into society to hate the fat people although there are probably more overweight people in the US than there are "skinny" people!!
I am on my way to being called healthy!! I don't have time to worry about what other people think of me! This journey is difficult enough with out having added worry!!
Do you think that maybe that woman's comments were just a comment about how you eat, and nothing to do with your weight?
Very possible - altho she herself used to be quite fat, and she lost about 50 pounds. She's only made such comments SINCE she lost the weight. And for some aggravating reason (gggrrrr!!!!!) she bakes stuff ALL THE DAMN TIME and brings it to work - she doesn't eat it, oh no! - but she just "loves to bake!"
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Some people just don't think before they say things.
Yeah, that's true. Even been guilty of that myself!
This is a good question, one that I wonder about often.
I don't know what to call myself at this point, now that I'm at goal. My friends call me skinny, and I guess logically I know that I must be skinny. But I do not consider myself a skinny person.
I call myself fat, unless I'm talking to my doc, then I say "unhealthy weight" because "fat" is not a professional term...I wouldn't call a patient fat.
I have been made fun of for my weight from 1st grade straight thru highschool, aroung junior year I worked at losing weight, and removed myself from the target fat kid list. But I spent all those years embarrassed of my weight, and hurt and mortified should someone point out my weight. I tip toed around it, trying to pretend I wasn't huge. As if no one would notice I was fat if I or the current situation didn't draw attention to body size. And I regret living like some kind of emotional prisoner for all those years....never again.
I am not unconfortable if someone points out my weight, but when does that happen as an adult? Not nearly as much as when we were kids. But I'm no meek person anymore. I hate to say that I can be very sarcastic, and I think most people have gotten the vibe that I'm not the person to pass a weight comment about in a rude way.
My weight exists and I don't want to pretend its ok, because its not. My knees hurt and I point blank tell myself, its because I'm fat. My cousin is the person that wants to pretend her weight doesn't exist. She'll go to doc after doc about her knes, but gets mad and leaves when the tell her she needs to lose weight (she is about 150 - 200 lbs over weight).
To me fat is not a bad word, and I won't let it control other aspects of my life. Its already dug its claws into so much of who I am already.
For some reason, I hate the word"fat". HATE it. It is not used in our home- I don't even think ds7 knows the meaning! LOL
I use the word "chubby" to describe myself. I have also used the word fluffy. NO matter how overweight someone is , I would call them "chubby" if I had to refernce their size for some reason, they could be 900 lbs and still I would call them "chubby". I don't mind the word "overweight" either. There just seems to be some derogatory connotation with the word "fat". Ugh.
I almost have the opposite reaction to fat as Natalia. I prefer fat to any other term, and I really, really, really hate cute euphemisms for fat.
I hate the term "fluffy," most of all - with an irrationally intense passion. I'm not a fan of most euphemisms in general, but none get me as riled as fluffy. It's the only term that I find painful, like fingernails on a chalkboard. Maybe because it's just so darned "cute," and doesn't seem appropriate to me. My fatness isn't cute. It's not evil or horrible, but it isn't cute. Maybe it's because cute seems so dismissive. Being cute is for children and animals, not for someone you respect as an equal, Whenever I hear "fluffy," I think of it being a name for a cat, a dog, or a sheep, not for an adult worthy of respect.
My father's nicknames for me has always been kaplods and jammers (short for jammer juicekins). At around age 5, "fat" was added, as in fat kaplods and fat jammers.
I know it sounds horrible, but he said it with such love that I never really thought about it being negative (except that I was always afraid he would "slip" and say it in front of my friends).
I call myself fat, very fat, and sometimes super fat. I prefer to use the word fat, because it's the most descriptive, and the most straighforward. I'm not very sensitive any more about what other people call me. I've laughed in the faces of people trying to hurt me with the word fat (I think it's about as insulting as calling a person a red head - yeah, so what?)
Yeah, I know fat has health risks. I'm experiencing a lot of them, but I refuse to feel like a criminal for making mistakes. There are a lot of dangerous and risky behaviors that we don't criticise people for (and we even admire people for some risky behaviors).
I don't expect to be admired for being fat (there are people, mostly men with fat-fetishes who do that, and that creeps me out ina big way), but I also don't expect to be treated like a criminal because I don't have one aspect of my life under control.
Depends on the crowd. I usually say big girl. It doesnt make 'others' feel weird. It's a fun word. But I have become more comfortable with fat and overweight. And no one would dare make reference to my weight
What do you call yourself?
and it DOES bother me because I DO have a tendency to eat fast (it's one of my faults that I AM STILL working on!) and yet, if she flat out called me fat, I wouldn't care. 
I don't get it. ALLUDE that I'm fat, (or overweight, or whatever) and I'm angry. SAY I'm fat, and I'll just agree with you! 
