So I am just curious to see where a lot of you 20-somethings stand on these issues. Thought I would make a poll, I'm curious to see other people's responses...feel free to Sound Off!
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
My own personal answers are yes, a mr.right now that i wish was a mr. right and a **** yes I think I will be bitter if I turn 30 and haven't changed my weight/health to enjoy these years of my life as best as I *could have*.
So I am just curious to see where a lot of you 20-somethings stand on these issues. Thought I would make a poll, I'm curious to see other people's responses...feel free to Sound Off!
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up? I feel like 9:00 is now my bedtime. Haha. No, I think that I'm just a ticking bomb in general, too much stress. I'd rather be stable now, and be a ticking bomb to live it up when I have settled down and have money for boats, jet skiis and travelling.
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy? I'm married, so I'd go with Mr. Right. I guess he started out being Mr. Right Now, as I had bought my first cat and was on my way to being the cat lady, and poof. He showed up. Turned out to be a good thing though.
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape? I regret I'm fat in my wedding pictures, as I won't really get to do those over. I don't really think the age makes me regret being overweight, I'd feel the same no matter what the age. The problem with "living it up" for me is that it involves drinking, which after college is why I'm overweight. So... living it up is kind of the cause of my problem.
My own personal answers are yes, a mr.right now that i wish was a mr. right and a **** yes I think I will be bitter if I turn 30 and haven't changed my weight/health to enjoy these years of my life as best as I *could have*.
Any year can be your best year, don't limit it by age.
1.) I definitely feel that pressure but I try to ignore it. I think there's a lot of pressure to accomplish what I can now bc by 30 I'm supposed to settle down and make babies. Not trying to knock this lifestyle, just don't want to be pressured into it. I'm doing things a bit backwards too. I bought a house when I was 23. I can do serious stuff now and still have fun in my 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. And if I accomplished all I wanted to professionally by 29, that would make 50 pretty boring.
2) Mr. Right Now. I'm a believer in timing, and I'm scared to be with "Mr. Right" at this point in my life bc I know marriage is not in my immediate future and moving around/going to grad school probably is. So ideally I'd like to meet Mr. Right in a few more years, but life never works out that way, eh.
3) No. I had a lot of fun in college and am ready to be done with that chapter of my life, where my social life fluctuated with my weight. So I don't feel a pressure to lose weight now in that way.
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
Nope. Sure, I want to enjoy things now that I may not be able to in the future (going to Europe for the second time in July, buying expensive electronics, etc), but I'm not interested in the "party scene".
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Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
Definitely Mr Right type, not "now". Personally, I don't even believe in casual dating, in my book the only purpose of dating is to find a spouse, so anyone I would go out with would have to at least have marriage potential.
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Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
That is hard to say. I'm not really a regret type of person. I do think that it is highly likely that if I hadn't got into shape now I might never have managed it. But then for me, being overweight was more of an inconvenience than it was a self esteem issue. I think I'm superb no matter what size I am. Now it is just easier to buy clothes!
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
No, I have never been much for the 'live it up' type of lifestyle, I've always been a young old person.. haha.
Besides, I don't really feel like there's anything that I would need to do in my 20's that I can't do in my 30's, 40's... etc.
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
I was already in Mr Right mode when I began dating. As a previous poster put it, I was not into casual dating, every guy I dated prior to now had to have some long term potential. Seeing as to how I am now married to my Mr Right, I guess I'm not in any mode now.
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
I think that I will regret not having taken control of myself earlier in life.
I also regret that our wedding photos are of me in not-so-good shape. To us, they are still beautiful and that day was the most special day in both our lives, but I would prefer to have been leaner at that time.
My husband and I would love to have children someday and that's a big thing for me - to be healthy before we get pregnant so that our baby will be as healthy as he/she can be.
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
Honestly, I'm done with that. I hate going out to bars and watching people get trashed. I just keep looking at my phone like ugh, can I LEAVE yet...I had fun in college and the years after, but I'm done with it
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
I believe that everything happens when it should. I've been single for a LONG time and I'm okay with that. I've had plenty of time to myself to figure out my career, and living, etc etc etc. Would I like to be married before 30? Sure...but that's mainly random societal pressure and nothing I put on myself, per say. Life will happen when its meant to, and in the mean time, I just go with the flow.
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
Honestly, I try not to live like that. Have I been overweight? Yes. Have I been unhappy? Not really. I'm on this weight loss journey to be healthier, and I want to lose weight and get in shape so I have a longer, higher quality life. I'll be unhappy if I don't lose the weight only because I want to improve my health, but my weight never stopped me from doing anything I wanted to.
I've taken the majority of my twenties to develop myself intellectually and professionally, setting myself up for later in life. Now that I have a strong foundation, I'm going to work on my health and try and fuse the two together. I don't believe in regrets - as I said, everything happens for a reason.
I do feel the need to "live it up", and i do this in my own way, not be partying all the time, which i do occasionally. I do it by doing things that i enjoy and learning as much as a possible can.
I'm looking for Mr. right now, but unfortunately the guys i meet don't feel the same way what is with all the needy guys these days?
I feel like i will regret if i let myself be overweight in my 20's mostly because it will have negative health effects in my old years.
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
Not exactly. In terms of partying, I've never been a huge partier, and I'm pretty sure any partier I had in me wore itself out in college. I am married, and I do feel like I should do some more traveling, etc. before I eventually have kids, so to that extent, maybe...
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
I've already found my Mr. Right. I didn't exactly find him on purpose, but I never actually looked for either type.
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
Sometimes I do. The thing I most regret is how not-in-shape I am in my wedding pictures. Having said that, I had a pretty fantastic dress and I think it looked as good as possible. The main thing is that I want to be healthy. I want to be able to shop in the same places as my friends. Sometimes my weight keeps me from going shopping, etc. with them out of shame, and I regret my emotions getting in the way of my fun.
Interesting questions!
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[COLOR="Magenta"]Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
Sort of kinda xD Not in the sense of settling down, having a serious relationship, having kids etc, but more in the sense of being healthy and looking good in my 20s, being able to wear a bikini while im young, that kinda thing I dont feel pressure to go out and get drunk every weekend or anything like that, i kinda got over that in my late teens/very early 20s lol so i guess i just feel like ive been there, done that, it was fun at the time but now not so much xD
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Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
I'm in my early 20s (22) so i still feel that i have time for this (even though i think i might have actually found Mr. Right anyway). I think in my late 20s this would be more important for me, whereas now I feel like people my age can still just be out having fun relationship wise.
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Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
I think if i wasnt doing this weight loss now I probably would. With my plateau i am feeling this more and more, i dont want to be sitting wasting my 20s stuck at a weight im not happy with.
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So I am just curious to see where a lot of you 20-somethings stand on these issues. Thought I would make a poll, I'm curious to see other people's responses...feel free to Sound Off!
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
my idea of living it up is doing things like going dancing .... hookauh lounges, going out with friends to shoot pool shopping and things of that nature unfourtunatley i feel like im a disgrace to myself ( im 21 and im so overweight ) so i tend to stay away from all social activities .... so yes i do feel like im a ticking clock all the time is ticking away on me while i remain couped up like a hermit crab all because of my damned weight. but ... thats why im trying to do something about it. i dont want my 20's to pass me by and still be overweight. my fear of what people think of me is almost starting to make me a social cripple ....
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
i got married when i was 18 ..... im still married .... i think it would have been nice if i had explored the dating scene a little more .. i feel like i was robbed out of the chance to see whats out there ..... at the time i was so down and out i was just happy someone wanted to marry me .... take my advice ladies theres no right time for MR. RIGHT when he's ready and your ready .... he'll show up in the mean time ..... MR. RIGHT now is all you need .....
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
yes .... it sucks i cant wear any of the clothes i want to .... shopping is not the joy it used to be for me ... i feel like im a million ... i just want to experiance my 20's the way a normal person would .... i feel like my weight is seriously holding me back ....
My own personal answers are yes, a mr.right now that i wish was a mr. right and a **** yes I think I will be bitter if I turn 30 and haven't changed my weight/health to enjoy these years of my life as best as I *could have*.
Thoughts?
this was an intresting question ... there were some intresting answers ......
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Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
I got married 3 months to the day after my 18th birthday, 7 and a half years ago. I never felt a need to live it up in the traditional sense. I love my life like it is being married and having a family, is all I ever wanted and we are half way there.
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Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
I gave up on dating in high school. I never dated my husband. We met online, talked for 6 months, met in person and got married 2 months later. I think that for most people the ultimate goal is to find Mr. Right, but in high school when I did date Mr. Right Now worked, besides I don't think you can find Mr. Right without him being at sometime a Mr. Right NOW.
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Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
I am getting healthier so that my infertility will hopefully be resolved and even if it isn't I would regret not getting healthier for our future family no matter which way we end up having children.
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
I will enjoy my twenties while I am in them, but I don't feel I have to live it up. I am not a partier by nature, so I don't think that will change much
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
Mr. Right kinda guy. If I know there is not a future with someone, I want to move on and try to find Mr. Right
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
I want to enjoy my life, while I don't feel I am unhappy now, I feel I can be happier. My weight is not the only things that affect this. The faster I fix the unhappy things in my life, the longer I live a life I love.I will regret it because I will have known I could have lived a happier life.
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up?
sometimes. i am a new mom at 22 and see all my friends going out ALL the time (even the ones with kids). sometimes i feel like i am missing out, but then i go out with them once and i am good for at least a month, lol. i feel like i am pretty much past that chapter in my life, although i do still love to go out and have fun with my friends every once in a while.
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
well i have been with my dbf/baby daddy, lol, since i was 16 and he was 19. we plan on getting married when i graduate college and am more stable in my career so i am going to have to say mr. right
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
yes, most definitely. i already regret ever being unhappy with my body since i am the only one who can change it. i am just glad i am actually doing it now instead of waiting any longer.
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live it up? I feel as though I am past that mostly. I partied a lot in college and still have the occasional girls weekend in NYC or Boston but now I am perfectly content with watching TV and being in bed by 10:30 (at the latest!
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
I would say Mr. Right since I have now found mine. We got married in January and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. However, I do feel that the tons of Mr. Right Now's I dated previously helped me appreciate my Mr. Right even more and I don't regret any of those relationships.
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape? TO be honest I never really was unhappy about my weight. I never really thought I was overweight. I still went out all the time and did everything I wanted. It wasn't until the wedding planning that I decided I wanted to lose some weight so my pictures would look good It wasn't until then I realized I was so overweight and now I am very happy I have taken control so that if nothing else I can be healthy!
Awesome thread! Definitely helped me pass the last 15 minutes at work
Do you feel that you are on a ticking clock in your twenties to live itup?
I'm not quite 21 yet, so not really. Sometimes, though, if I go to bed early or spend an evening studying I think "I'm young! I should be out having fun!" I think as I get a little older I'll start to feel it.
Do you think that since you are in your twenties it is more important to be with a Mr.Right type of guy or Mr. Right "NOW" kinda guy?
I'm busy with school and figuring my life out right now, so I think Mr. Right Now. Maybe once I hit 25ish (when I know my mom will start dropping the "where are my grandkids?" hints) I'll want to get more serious.
Do you feel that you will regret living your twenties overweight/unhappy with yourself later if you do not lose the weight and get in shape?
I do weight watchers, and the older ladies are always saying "you know, back when I was 20, I was so thin and could eat whatever I want!" Sometimes I feel it's unfair that I can't eat junk food like so many other people my age! I figure now is the best time to get in shape and get healthy.
Poll: For you twenty-somethings
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what is with all the needy guys these days?
I dont feel pressure to go out and get drunk every weekend or anything like that, i kinda got over that in my late teens/very early 20s lol so i guess i just feel like ive been there, done that, it was fun at the time but now not so much xD
It wasn't until then I realized I was so overweight and now I am very happy I have taken control so that if nothing else I can be healthy!
